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This is her. She’s a chiweenie like my last dog. She’s comfortable with people…too comfortable in that all she wants to do is be held nonstop. She’ll whine until someone picks her up and she won’t leave her puppy pad and explore. I know she’s young and it’s not fair to compare her to my Babygirl, but sometimes it happens. I had hoped she’d be like Babygirl and help heal my shattered heart, but she’s obviously nothing like her. That doesn’t mean that I won’t love her. I just don’t want her to be fearful. Fear could turn into aggression later. She needs a lot of work to be a confident dog. However, maybe she never will be due to genetics. I feel bad for her.
So, I got a puppy. I got her from someone selling a small litter of puppies 2 hours away. Anyway, she was the only female. The litter was her and her brother. I didn’t get to meet the seller at their house and spend time with the other puppy she had or see how they interacted with each other and patents. Having now spent a few hours with the new puppy, I’ve got a gage on her temperment. She’s mega fearful and all she wants to do is be held and hide in a blanket. She won’t play or explore. She’s very young to be acting like that isn’t she? Any idea what’s wrong or what I should do to help her. I know she’ll never be like me sweet Babygirl, but it’s painful to see her so terrified of the world. My Babygirl was never afraid of anything, even when she was a puppy. She was brave, bold, happy, and curious.
Hi, thanks for responding. Yes, whenever my comment disappeared after editing I’d go back to the main forum page and the time stamp was still there. It showed I had commented on that thread 5 minute ago for example, but when went to the thread and scrolled through for my comment it wasn’t there. Recently, I commented on this thread,
https://windstoneeditions.com/topic/ebay-buyingselling-issues/
edited my comment and it disappeared so I had to repost it again, which I noted in the reposted comment.
Thanks for your help.
Recently, if I try to edit a comment after posting it disappears all together even though the thread says it’s there, it’s not. I have to do all my posting with my iphone so I’m not sure if that’s the problem or if it’s a website problem.
Hmm, well my first reply isn’t showing up after I made an edit even though it says it’s there. Interesting. Let’s try this again.
I had to do what you did Ela_Hara as far as the no-pay buyers go. Wow, you give them 10 days! You’re a lot more patient than me. I only give them 3 unless they contact me.
As far as the refunds go…eBay collected my refund from one seller and the echeck finally cleared 3 weeks later from the other. It all worked out, but it’s still a frustrating process.
Thank you StormDancer and GardenNinja. I appreciate the kind words now more than ever. It was bad enough loosing my dog but then to have my sister criticize AND patronize me…I don’t understand why all this is coming out now. She says it’s tough love. Her definition of tough love is, “I don’t give a crumb about you’re problems and I’m not going to help you. I will tell you everything you’re doing wrong and all the things I’m doing right and you should be doing what I do/did. I’m successful in life and you’re not. Look at my good fortune. You could have this if you weren’t such a looser. I will offer you no solutions either.” She’s preggo right now. I want to believe she’s turned into a “bridezilla” type given the pregnancy, but I know she’s always thought this of me. Now, she feels more free to voice her opinion for some reason. I don’t want to alienate her, however, she (and her hubby) is pushing me away. I thought we were close, but she told me she’d rather I live in a homeless house than with her if I needed help. That really hurt. I would have done anything for her and she would just throw me away. I’m in a tough spot in my life. I’m having a hard time finding work, any work. I never asked her for money though or help. Another reason loosing my dog is that much more painful. Anyway, I could write another couple of paragraphs about all this, but it’s too much info already.
StormDancer, congrats on your new canine friends. I hope they bring you many, many years of joy and happiness and they stay healthy.
GardenNinja, you’re right. I may have to put her out of my life for a little while. It hurts me to do so…not as much as listening to her put me down though.
How do you work through the loss of a beloved pet? This is desroying me. The last few years of my life I dedicated to making sure my sickly, elderly dog was taken care of before I left the house and when I left house all I could think about was getting back to her. My whole schedule was worked around her. She was always there for me even when my own blood wasn’t. She was my best and only friend since my human friends abandon me long ago haven gotten married and had kids. I went to college instead and apparently that was a mistake and a waste of time, but that’s another story. My dad and sister don’t seem to care she’s gone and they’re annoyed I cry every day and still talk about how much I miss her. It’s only been a week. I mentioned considering getting another dog to ease the pain…my sister calls in a frenzy and rants about how I shouldn’t get another because I don’t have the finances. It’s true my babygirl was sick and very costly but a healthy dog won’t cost as much to take care of as my sweet babygirl did ($200 a month, heart pills and food). Even so, I was able to make sure my dog had everything she needed and then some. It’s not my sister’s decision and a new dog has no impact on her life…it’s not like she lives with me, so I don’t know why she cares. In times of great sadness you find out just how unthoughtful and seemingly uncaring family can be. I feel more alone than ever.
I should mention it would be awhile before I could get another dog. I want one similar to my babygirl. That’s almost impossible where I live.
And I apologize for “airing dirty laundry” to stangers. On the other hand, it seems like a common practice these days. Just a kind word is nice to read. Sometimes a crying emoji is not enough.
My sweet, Babygirl. (2003-2017) This is a pic of her from last year. She was a miniature dachshund/chihuahua mix.
This is her 7 years ago, right after I found out she had heart failure and before her cataracts.
Not sharing her rawhide bone. LolThanks again for the kind words everyone, especially you StormDancer. I needed them today. It’s strange the night before I had a dream she was locked in a hot car, panting and I broke the glass and rescued here. I guess the hot car in my dream was symbolic of her spirit being trapped in her failing body and me freeing her today. I would NEVER leave a dog or person in a hot car, I must say. I wish everyone and their furbabies the best. Cherish every moment.
Thanks everyone. I know several people here have been through the same thing and some recently. I know you guys will understand the pain. Some people are like, “Big deal. It’s just a dog”. Funny how they say that until it’s their dog. Anyway, she was a fighter but had so many health problems. I felt no amount pills could help her anymore and I could no longer afford it. The vet felt the same way. Even if I could afford it, it wouldn’t have mattered. She was in such bad shape. I feel so awful, like I did something wrong and gave up on her. I know the truth though. She was in bad shape and I couldn’t be selfish and keep her here. She had heart failure, cancer, was almost blind, she recently went deaf, and she had begun developing another bladder and ear infection. Loosing her happened so fast. I had the option to not be in the room with her, but there was no way I would leave her. It was tough to watch the process. It takes a lot courage to see it. I wanted her to know I would be with her to the end. I hope now, she’s with my mom and comfortable. I want her back with me. I had hoped she would have passed away in her sleep, at home. She had such a will to live and seemed like she didn’t want to let go. I had to stop her pain. It’s a horrible nightmare. Tomorrow, will be worse. I take some comfort that she’s not suffering now.
That’s odd. It works on my iphone. I’ll see if I can fix it on my computer when I get home. Thanks for letting me know.
I found out last night I’m going to be an auntie! I’m so excited for my sister and her husband. They’re super excited. After loosing so many family members, like our mother, grandmother, and uncle in the same year, it’s nice to have an addition to our small family.
Have you tried using hydrogen peroxide in your ears? It kills infections. You just tilt your head pour in some until you feel it’s full and it should bubble a lot if there’s a virus or bacteria in there. It helps dissolve excess wax too. You should leave it in at least a minute or two or until the bubbling slows down a bit and then drain it and wipe out the moisture with a tissue. Then do the other ear. You can do this every day and it should help. I do it sometimes once a week or once a month if my ears are bothering me or if I feel like I am getting a cold as it kills cold viruses as well. It has always worked for me.
Not sure peroxide will work in this case because the fluid is behind the eeardrum and it has to drain out the same way it got in there via the sinus which are blocked up and I’m having a really hard time keeping them unblocked. I started using a non-medicated saline nasal spray and gargling warm sea salt water. Salt, without iodine, is a really good sterilizer. When I get cut I spray sterilized sea salt on the wound. Helps keep an infection from starting or kills one on minor wounds. Hoping salt will help with the sinus issue.
