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I first met my hubby when I was 16 and he was 26. I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend as all the boys at school were jerks (in my little opinion at the time!) and I was too busy with my music. I just had no interest.
Anyway, I was playing flute in a community concert band and I remember the first time I saw him. I was thinking ‘a male flutist! He won’t last long’. Anyway, he stayed and there were a bunch of us that hung out at breaks and sometimes met up at other times. He used to sit in the 2nd row of flutes just behind me so he could poke me in the ribs and generally stir me up. We were really good friends like this for two years.
We started going to another band together as well and one day he couldn’t come to rehearsal. He called me that day to let me know. I on the train to uni and when I hung up I remember feeling REALLY disappointed. Then I started analysing why. I thought ‘it’s only a rehearsal, why the heck am I feeling like this?’ Then it dawned on me, do I like him?
As it so happened at the next rehearsal at the original band one of the sax players said to John ‘just ask her out will ya!’ She said the same to me later in the night. John and I had the same reaction apparently….’huh, what?’ The whole band had been taking bets on how long it would take us to realise we liked each other (smart alexs all of them).
We used to go to the pub after rehearsal and when we went that night I grew a pair and asked him out. I was so very nervous as I had never done anything like this before. He said yes and I had my first kiss which was amazing. So many butterflies in my tummy! The only problem was that John was leaving for England in 3 months for a year for work. He wasn’t sure he would ever return to Australia and he reminded me of this. I said I know but lets give it a go (I was 18 at the time).
We were totally taken with each other in those 3 months. We spoke about him leaving and accepted that the time away would either bring us closer together or break us up. Happily it was the former and we emailed every day. He brought me to London for 4 months when I left my uni (that’s a whole other story) and I was so exited to see him I didn’t know what to do with myself! I had a fantastic time there and I was the only reason he returned to Australia.
Anyway, when he got back we hit it right off again and I moved in with him a couple of years later. We started going out in 2001, and I moved in in 2005. We knew we would get married and he proposed in 2006 and we got married in 2007. We have so much in common. We have the same sense of humour and agree on most things. We have the same outlook on life.
Getting married never changed anything for us. We were acting like an old married couple before we were going out! We have fun and stir each other up constantly. I am very lucky as my first boyfriend turned out to be the one, but I never went looking, it just happened when I didn’t expect it. I’m very happy it did though!
Wow this was a long post, sorry for my waffling everyone! This should satisfy Wolfen’s sappiness! 🙂
I finally brought my beautiful kitty home like I’d always promised her. Her ashes are in a lovely golden bag which was placed in a beautiful box with her photo in the lid (I love the photo. It’s almost like she is in the box looking out at us). I have also put her collars in the box and the beautiful poems that the cremation company sent us (those poems made me bawl my eyes out anew). I have taken her with me everywhere in the house because I miss her so much. She is on my bedside table when I sleep.
I tell you what, for such a small animal her presence filled up the house, which is now so empty without her. Her remains have been treated with respect and kindness which I am thankful for and which has brought me comfort. I bet she is up there across the Rainbow Bridge being a naughty tortie and creating all sorts of mischief! It will be a good day when I see my little girl again.
Here is her little box with the lavender the cremation company sent with her. It was a nice touch. The photo is a little blurry because I’m not a great photographer!
This is my new baby, the Barn Swallow Pegasus Stallion. He is my first Pegasus stallion and first Test Paint. He doesn’t match my Pegasus mare who is a palomino but I love them both. His colours are quite vivid and I love his blue eyes.
Here he is with his mare.
Oh TDM, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this. You have a lot of support here as we all care about you.
Your boys do love you, they may forget to say it, but they do. You’re their mum and you have always done right by them. They won’t forget that. Like others have said, talk to both the boys and your family. They are all but a phone call away and you will feel better both with having their support and the fact that you were able to talk about it. A problem shared is a problem halved, so don’t suffer alone. There are more people out there then you think that care about you, from all over the world! I am sending you my best wishes all the way from Australia! So please don’t think you are alone. You will get through this and you will be stronger for it.
HUGS!
Welcome Debra! We are a nice bunch here and love to hear about everyone’s collection, big or small. You probably will spend a lot of time here, and money (Windstones are addictive as you probably already know)…..
I’m glad you found us!
I will definitely be adopting another kitty. I can’t live without them (I swear, I’m not complete without a cat). We have always got our animals from the local shelter. In fact, when we got Streaks they thanked us for adopting the torties as they often get left (I have no idea why as they are absolutely wonderful).
We are going to renovate the house this year so I won’t adopt until we are settled again as I don’t want to take the new cat out of the home they had just got used to. It is going to be so hard and lonely for me without a cat so I’m going to want these renos done asap so I can give a forever home to another little one. I will always have cats. The love and joy Streaks gave me over her life is worth the pain I’m in now. It is better to have loved and lost then never have loved at all.
I have had so many cries and my eyes and nose are red raw. I went to see my mother-in-law tonight to get away for a bit, and when I got home I automatically looked to her sleeping place and remembered she’s not there and burst into tears. I loved and adored that little cat so much and it feels like my heart is ripped apart. She was such a gentle soul even in her ‘naughty tortie’ days and she had a beautiful nature. She really was something special and I’m honoured that she chose to spend her life with me.
Thank you all for your support. It is done now, she has left us. It was quick and peaceful with us right there cuddling her. She was loved till the end and now we are the ones to suffer. We have to put her things away and vacuum the black fur from the carpet. It is so very hard.
She did me proud though. She complained with attitude right to the end. My girl always had attitude, and senility didn’t change that! I heard her before they opened the door (they took her away to put in the catheter, then brought her back). The hard bit was when she was quiet. I know she wasn’t with us anymore, but I was still disturbed by the unnatural stillness. I experienced the same with my beautiful doggy 13 years ago. My brain was screaming “she isn’t moving, she should be moving” which didn’t help.
We have picked out a nice rosewood box for her ashes which has a place for a photo. We chose it with her sitting next to us and I “showed” her the picture. She had a nice morning all things considered. She sat in the sun out the back, and she had some yummy gravy and purred while licking it as well as having us dote on her. I’m glad she was happy enough to purr on her last day on this green earth. We will miss her so very much.
Once again, thank you all or your wishes and hugs.
After reading all these snow stories, I am so glad it doesn’t snow here! We have cold rain all the time in winter. We have just gone into autumn now but we are still having awesome summer weather. It was a stifling 37C yesterday! (I don’t know what that is in Fahrenheit). We will have to turn our clocks back soon too. Summer to me always seems so short and winter feels like it goes on forever (can you tell I love the summer?).
Oh River, that is terrible! I am sending all my thoughts your way. He’ll pull through this; I’m sure he’s as strong as his mother! All my best wishes to you.
I have one of those rare silver wolf males with green eyes and gems. He is definitely silver when placed next to my female and chicks who are brown wolves. I don’t know if any silver wolf females were produced. You have a rare find Copperfan!
These are pretty bad photos but you can sort of see the difference in the colours.
