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What a day I have had!!!!
So on April 20th I received a court date (May 31). On that day I also sent him a Stipulation in which he would sign over custody (the court date was noted in that Stipulation) With the Stipulation I would still have to be reasonable with visitation, and let him have private phone calls with the kids, among other things. He told me to go to hell. He also told me that he was going on vacation before that day and would be gone for that day. That was the last day I ever had contact with him.
I told him that if he didn’t show up to court, that it was his choice. I did not pick the court date, the courts did. My lawyer also said she was not willing to change the date, because court comes before vacation. So on May 3rd he was officially served by a process server in his county.
A couple weeks ago, I found out that the court date May 31, was not what i thought it was. That was a hearing to schedule orientation, mediation, and the actual hearing. I was heart broken, but I said to myself ‘ok this is going to be a process, but bear through it…everything will be ok’ I reserved myself that today would be a simple day of getting dates.Today was the court date….and he was not there…
As I waited for the judge to be seated, I was so nervous about getting my dates. Most of the time from today it would take me 3 months to get to my hearing date. However, my lawyer went up with me when my name was called, and she surprised me by asking the Commissioner to grant Temporary Orders, which the Commissioner denied, then she asked to have a full hearing today by another judge that was on calendar. The Commissioner agreed to that…
As we left that court room my heart was pounding so hard I could hear my heartbeat in my temple. My lawyer told me that everything would be ok, and that today something would be decided, whether temporary orders were given, or an actual judgement would happen.
We went into the other court room and waited. There were a few cases that were already taking place, and we would ahve to wait to see if she had time to read my file. She did. She handled the other cases, then she stood and said that she was taking a 10 minute break in her chambers to review my file, and then she would come back out and talk with us.
She was in her chambers for 25 minutes….The WHOLE time my heart was racing, wondering what was about to happen. She came back smiling, and said ‘sorry it took me so long but I have made my judgement already and it took me a minute to type it up’………
She read off her judgement, and then asked me if I would allow him to have ‘appropriate’ phone calls with the kids, which I said yes.
The judgement… I now have sole legal custody, and sole physical custody, the right to move anywhere in the USA as I see fit, and he is to have no visitation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (and if he wants to take me back to court at ANY time he MUST provide ALL documentation to the court regarding military and civillian investigations against him, which means he cant hide behind the Navy anymore since being active duty Navy myself I am not privy to his service record contents. This includes but is not limited to his Mast he went to in which he was busted down a pay grade for, and the neglect case that is currently still under investigation)My heart then exploded with joy!!!!!!
Drag0n I’m so sorry to here that you had to let her go. Always remember her healthy and vibrant. Know that she is watching over you, and that you will see her again. Perhaps she will find Tundra, and they will snuggle while they wait on us….hugs sweety…
