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SPark wrote:
Heh.
The automatic response of people to hearing somebody’s problems is always advice! Thank you all for your intended kindness, I really do appreciate that you care. But I was just venting, not looking for advice.
People just want to help and it’s kinda hard to control what sort of things people will reply with to any post ^_^
SPark wrote:Maybe.
Maybe not. If I feel differently in a few days when I can be calm, I may contact her. But just now it’s not looking likely.
I think giving yourself some time is a good idea ^_^ Things usually look clearer after a few days
My apologies, your original post made me think that you two were still in the stages of learning about each other, it sort of seemed like this was a part of that process that just went horribly wrong.
Hmmmm well if she hasn’t had a post like that one before now and she hasn’t gone on since then to make more posts in a hostile-towards-Christianity vein, perhaps it was just a one-time joke or lapse in sanity. It seems like it would have come up before now if you’ve known her for months.
So maybe it really is out of the blue and how much it really reflects her beliefs about religion is thus still uncertain? I would want to wait for more evidence either way, if it was me, just to see if that impression pans out into a trend.
Goldragon2! wrote:So sorry you feel like you lost your friend, but maybe you could pray for her and try to lovingly explain your faith so she can see how wonderful it is to believe in our awesome God. A testimony about how He has helped you or answered prayer would be a good start. Don’t give up, sometimes people come into your life for a reason, and even if you just plant a seed, maybe someone else could water it and help it grow. I hope I didn’t offend anyone, but I just wanted to offer some encouragement. Have a blessed Holiday Season!
I’m certainly not offended, since you so obviously mean well, but I think it may be prudent to point out that such efforts are usually not terribly effective on aetheists ^_^ I’m not one myself but I have a friend who has been an aetheist for a number of years and he’d be the first to tell you – he’s heard it all 😉
I do agree that if she is able to joke rather liberally about religion and you aren’t comfortable with that, it’s probably best in the long run for you to not have her LJ friended since she’ll probably make more jokes in the future that you won’t find funny, only offensive. I did see that she offered to filter her religious entries, though, for whatever that’s worth. It looks like she didn’t set out to purposely offend the religious, she was just playing fast and loose on her LJ, which I can say I’ve done myself on my own LJ now and then. You sort of consider it your space for your thoughts and sometimes that means you post things without serious consideration of anyone who could possibly be reading.
Certainly that doesn’t absolve anyone of responsibility for their words, especially if the words are accessible to the public and aren’t locked in a friends-only post.
But also we must consider our own words even as we are reacting to the words of others. I know it’s hard, very hard especially when you are still reeling from the original “blow” and that’s why I try to leave the computer if I find myself in a situation like that. Because I almost always regret what I write if i let myself write a reply as a reflexive action, not as a reflection on what was said, after time has passed. Can I be honest about my thoughts to what you said in reply to her post? I think some of what you said about her spiritual life was a little unfair. Things like “If you don’t have a deep, spiritual life to begin with, you’re not capable of committing the unforgivable sin. Anybody who could be swayed by three minutes of multi-media into denying the spirit never knew it in the first place.” are pretty serious things to say to someone, things I would not feel comfortable saying to someone that I had just met and did not know very well. Maybe you are right and maybe her spiritual life isn’t particularly deep, but it’s a really big judgement to make right off the bat.
I hope I’m not offending you, I’m just trying to give my two cents on the situation. I definitely feel that it’s a shame such a meaningless video gag made you feel so hurt because it’s not worth the attention. I can appreciate the sensitivity and sacredness you hold for your religion.
It sounds like, and looks like from what I can see, that you both overreacted a little and it’s a shame you two couldn’t work it out :/ It is very hard to know exactly how each person feels about their religion and religion in general so it’s easy for misunderstandings to arise, which is why religion (along with politics) is a topic that is sometimes discouraged on some messageboards and mailing lists. Issues of faith and our inner self seems to be a big red button for a lot of people.
Melody wrote:A Jade Empress?!? I didn’t know there was a Jade Empress!! Where did you find her??
What a wonderful and rare collection you have!
These Jade guys are a total mystery to us. We don’t know how many there are, how many different designs there are or even how they got painted…I am accumulating info from you folks about them!
I suspect that several of of our dragon designs got painted this color, but we just have no idea! It is kinda fun to discover this sort of thing.How DOES that kind of thing happen? LOL Who is allowed to paint your dragons besides you and your people? Or is this the first time it’s happened?
Nirvanacat13 wrote:No, seriously….there is a big dent in my wall now….I guess I’m not so hard headed as to make it all the way through drywalling…
You need someone to help you, that’s what my brother did… twice :X
*hugs* Hope the hysteria goes away soon!
Nirvanacat13 wrote:I’m done btw…..Good luck on making all those magnets!
LOL thanks… i feel bereft now that you are leaving my thread ;/
i love the wings! 😀 Looks pretty good to me but i agree that the under-chin area does need some work but i’m no fox expert, i think the suggestions you’ve already got are pretty good ^_^
Chessapeaka wrote:Yeah… which is precisely why I want to be on the book’s side, now. Or just remain neutral. It WAS honestly a decent book! Crappier things have been published, but you don’t hear people complaining so much about them, because there’s a smaller fanbase. Yeah. I forget what my point was.
Anyway, I was just looking at that anti-shurt’ugal (however you spell thaaat..) website, and according to them Paolini didn’t even finish Eragon when he was 15. He just started writing it then, and finished it 4 years later. Pfft. Ticks me off that people judge him by his AGE…
It’s true that there is a lot of stuff out there that is just as bad. I think what also plays a part is that, as the anti site mentioned, a lot of people resent the fact that he didn’t get published on merit but rather because his parents own a publishing company. I can certainly empathize with feeling irritated with someone getting something they didn’t really earn or work for.
whippetluv wrote:Here is the truth…..
really…There has not been a decent fantasy book in ages. Even Lackey…my bestest and most favorite author has been mearly “okay” lately. I am so desperate for fantasy of any kind that read the book. I was so desperate…I read the second one. And I am soo desperate…I will go see the movie.
I have read almost everything on the shelves of the fantasy bookshelves at B&N…its a very sad state.
So bad or good….I will go and see. And be glad to have SOME fantasy at all!
haHave you ever read any Charles DeLint books? I adore his stuff and his new book “Widdershins” is really neat! ^_^ I also recently got a copy of “Dreams Underfoot” which is older but is such a good collection of short stories 😀
SPark wrote:Well, I think the hate for it is in reaction to the people who are all “ZOMG! Best book ever! Wow!” about it. I read it, it was readable. I liked some bits.
I think that’s correct, that a lot of people are almost responding to the fans of the book more than the book itself, in some ways *chuckle* I didn’t mind reading the book, even after my brush with awkward writing on the second page heh heh
