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Ohh that’s a tuffy, I know I’ld want to know as soon as possible, and if the call is only hours away I’ld want to be told that way, but if it’s even 12 hours I’ld want to know sooner.
Some people may say it’s stupid but if Sam meant even half as much to him as my Big Cat meant to me, he’s going to need some down time. They’re not just Pets they are family!!Sam was Lee’s four-legged brother. I’m leaning more and more to an email because there’s not telling when the phone call/IM chat could come right now. I just don’t know. 😥 I wish I could be there with him and hold him when I tell him. His brother called because his mom couldn’t, and even then I could hear the tears in Nate’s voice and he isn’t one to cry.
That’s a tough one. I know that when I went away to college my last rat died shortly after I left. Mom didn’t want to add to my stress and didn’t tell me until I was coming home. I understood why but I was still mad at her. She really was in a no win situation. So I’ve always believed you should tell people the news as soon as possible so they don’t also get upset at you. Of course, there are exceptions – say someone is in the hospital for a serious surgery/illness. In your husband’s case it would be tough to decide if you should tell him while he’s in Kuwait. The timing stinks. But if it was me I’d rather know. Otherwise I would wonder what else you aren’t telling me. And yes, there are a lot of things that he couldn’t do anything about and may worry about over there but it is still keeping him connected to the family.
So, unless he is in active combat right now, I would tell him.
I’m really sorry about Sam – he looks like a cutie. Boxers are great dogs.
Ask him in e-mail first if he knows when he’ld be able call next. If he says it’ll be abit (He’ll hopefully also ask why, or it’s Sam isn’t it?), e-mail him back with the news. 😥
It does sound like how hard it was for my family when My Mom had to put our Big Cat down, We had to call my Aunt, and Uncles as well as my cousins, and friends as well. She was Mine (and she did all sorts of things to prove it) but she meant soo much to everyone else that those calls had to be made. So he’s also definitly not alone in that!!
I would tell him ASAP. I was told my grandma had died and it was done by Email. I was not upset about that part, only that it took days for them to tell me. I think ASAP would be best, regardless of the method.
I’m sorry, Pegasi. He looks like a great dog. The timing is just bad. I hope your hubby doesn’t take it too hard.
I would tell him right away. It’s better to know these things when they happen. Sorry about the dog. He does look like a nice one. 🙁
When my sister was overseas and was told about her grandma’s passing via email she was really upset. She said an email saying “I need to talk to you; I have some bad news” would have been better than a bomb on email. One opinion. She preferred the phone so that she could hear it.
Well I ended up sending him an email and he was fine with it. He was glad that I didn’t wait to tell him. Last time he deployed his parents seperated shortly after he left and neither one of us found out until he came home on leave 6 months later. He told me if it had been like that with the news about Sam’s death he would have been very upset. He says he woke up in kind of a funk and this probably explains it, he knew on some gut level what happened.
That looks like a nice dog and I am sorry to hear about him. I am glad that your husband took it well and that you didn’t wait.
Well earlier this week my husband told me he moved on from Kuwait to where he will be in Iraq for the next 15 months. From what he was saying it sounds like it’s even hotter there if that’s possible. It’s a bit of a walk to get to a computer or a phone so I haven’t heard from him as much, but he seems to be doing good.
Thats good. I hope when he gets settled, he will be able to write more often. Its hectic when you first get there.
So last Wednesday (June 20) was a very bad day for my husband’s unit in Iraq. The worst in the history of their support of Operation Iraqi Freedom. In one attack 4 soldiers were killed and one was very seriously injured. The injured soldier has been transfered to an army hospital for care. My husband is fine, but he knew at least one of the soldiers. This has gotten me a little worried because they have only been there less than two months and to loose that many in one attack is hard. I’m glad that my husband’s job keeps him on the FOB and he doesn’t go outside the walls.
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