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I know, it’s dumb… I just can’t eat – neither can poor E and he has a hard time keeping anything down. Have an appt. for him next week with the doc and am hoping both boyohs can get some relief for their anxiety. S just runs, alot. Says he’s keeping fit for cross country but I dunno, he runs forever… We also see a counselor and I do lots of praying…
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Good luck Tdm, I really hope things get better for you soon! Hugs!!! <3
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Excellent!
Yup! Finally broke his mile barrier with a time of 4 min. 20 sec. He was ecstatic!
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That’s incredible!
Yup! Finally broke his mile barrier with a time of 4 min. 20 sec. He was ecstatic!
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He ran a mile in 4:20?? That’s literally almost record time!! OMG! O.O
TDM, sorry to have been out of the loop for a while! Seems to me Rod is being a fool, knows he’s being a fool, and is too busy worrying about his ego to care. I suspect the reason behind his sudden–and very foolish–uncooperativeness has entirely to do with the fact that he senses he is “losing control” of the boys. They are nearly legal adults, and when they reach 18, they can do as they please. He’s panicking because they want to do something that makes him feel threatened; therefore, he is sure they’ve “turned against him” and is snatching wildly for whatever control he can get over them.
I have no sympathy for Rod. In the first place, he’s the one who has declared sides here, in a petty power play. In the second place, he has no right to play dictator over the boys. In the third place, they are old enough to rightfully resent being treated by him as if they were six years old. If Rod had a grain of sense he’d sit down and talk to them like the adults they are becoming. But he’s not at home to Mr. Reasonable right now. I say let him spin off into his own orbit; maybe if he gets a good scare it’ll teach him some sense. Man can be a fool if he wants to. But he has no right to drag anyone down with him . . . not the boys, and not you either.
Hang in there! Look out for your boys, but bring in as much help as you can. You have a lot going on right now, and the more eyes on the situation the better. But don’t spare any worry for Rod. He’s not worthy of your worry, not as he is now. He’s made some bad decisions and it’s up to him to get himself out of them, especially since he’s done his best to slap away any outstretched hand from you and the boys.
This is the most well thought out, sound piece of reasoning ever! Go Barrdwing! And I am totally jumping on coat tails here and dito-ing every word!!!
I’m constantly sending love and prayers and good energy your way TDM! Your boys are strong and will survive this little road bump in life. I believe with all my heart that when everything is said and done, they will have grown emotionally and psychologically to be better people. And they will have your love and wisdom to thank for that.
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Well, today is my 27th anniversary. Received a Memorandum Decision today. The final decree comes later. Sean has def decided that he will do his senior of high school in Orem, UT. Ethan is still agonizing over a decision. He doesn’t want to be seperated ftom Sean but also doesn’t really want to go to Utah. Rod has really been guilting me boyos into not going by telling them the things that they can’t take with them like the Wii, their car, their beds and dressers and the biggest one of all is that he won’t allow them to remove their cats, Pixel and Loki, from the premesis… Sean will go regardless. He says it’d be no problem to get Pixel out of the house, just go take her while dad’s at work. Ethan is worried that if they do take anything that’s theirs Rod will prosecute them or me for theft. I think that deep down Ethan knows that the right choice is to go with his brother, but he’s scared to commit and Rod keeps filling his head with the idea that it’s not Ethan’s job to look out for his brother. My dilema is, if they seperate what do I do? I feel that at this point I’d be abandoning one or the other. I can’t be in two states at the same time. I know when they hit college that they are planning on different schools, but this just doesn’t feel right. I’ve just kept telling them that they need to do what’s right for them, while Rod is scrambling to find ways to keep them in Idaho…
On a side note, I’ll be having my surgery next Wed. the 14th to replace my spinal cord stimulator with a newer model. Hopefully it’ll be able to pinpoint the over active nerves in my feet better, but it does require an over night stay and between the boyos, the divorce and the surgery I’m anxious and scared.
Anyway, happy anniversary to me – am so sorry that it didn’t meet with Rod’s expectations and last forever. Thanks for all your love and support. It’s been greatly appreciated.
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You gave everything to the marriage that you had to give … that’s all you can do! I don’t know about Rod, but my ex would say “I need thus and such”, and when he got it that became the starting point for the next “I need …”.
He figured that he would deal with problems when they became acute. And when he had drained all my reserves (which actually took 30 years, believe it or not) and the problems were big, he decided it was easier to move on than to repair the relationship. Sometimes life is like that.
You shouldn’t be saying that you couldn’t meet his expectations, but rather that he couldn’t keep up his end of the relationship.
Hugs!
And you know what? Eventually, your boys will each go his own way… It might happen a bit earlier than expected, but if that’s what happens, they’re old enough.
Hugs again!
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