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Good luck tdm! Hugs!
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UGH that stinks – getting postponed and still waiting with everything in the air has got to be hard on the nerves (and everything else). Sending positive thoughts your way and hoping everything ends up the way you want it to. Wishing bad luck on your almost ex
So, the proverbial **it hit the fan… Me boyohs have come to the decsion that they need to finish their senior year of high school in Orem, UT where my mum lives and where we have aunties, uncles and cousins. They talked to their dad about it last night before they left for High Adventure for Scouts. They had all their reasons lined up and ready to go but were def concerned with what their dad’s teaction would be. So they called g’pa (Rod’s dad) and asked for his advice on how best to approach their dad. It was not a good conversation since he accused them of siding with their mum. They talked to their dad anyway and he shot down every argument they presented. Needless to say, they are really angry. Eth is no longer speaking to dad and is so anxious about everything that he has nearly quit eating and anything he does eat he doesn’t keep it down. Sean is so very angry that he nearly bursts into rage anytime he has to interact with his dad. They need to make a final decission before the end of the month when school starts and before the divorce continuance begins on the 26th so custody matters can be re-aranged. They are nearly eighteen and wondering why they can’t make this choice without interference. I think that with this blow up they’ll decide to go to Orem, which is perfectly fine with me, but in the meantime I have to deal with Rod. He will be without work at the end of Sept. and is not actively looking for work, which also upsets me boyohs. What do I do? My heart aches for them… and to add to the stress I have surgery on Wed. for my spinal implant. Any ideas? Thanks for letting me vent…
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Since dad doesn’t want to listen, then they shouldn’t interact with him unless they absolutely have to, at least for the time being. They need a break and to get their bearings. It sounds like they made their decision – if they don’t second-guess themselves, it should help with the stress.
Don’t think about Rod’s work/non work for now – there’s nothing you can do about it. Focus on you and your surgery instead, that’ll be much more positive!
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmDo the boys have court appointed advocates? An advocate might be able to help w/ representing the boy’s interests in court. Since they are almost 18, they should have a say in what happens to them. Mind, I don’t live where you do, so The laws might vary.
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Sun Dragon Koi #3What setsunawolf said. They need someone who will be on THEIR side, whatever it is. It was unfortunate that their grandfather accused them of being traitorous to their dad. That was unfair and uncalled for. They are close enough to the age of majority that their wants and needs should be considered to have significant weight. That their father is refusing to work should also bother them–it would seem to me that it’s a tactic to hurt you, which is a horrible thing to do.
I’m only 23 and I don’t have much worldly experience, so I’ll just say that I’m crossing my fingers for you as well as your poor boys and sending you hugs!!!
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I’m so angry at the moment that i could just spit |( Boyohs have decided they want to do their senior year of high school in Utah. Rod says absolutely no way and filed an injunction that says if I take the boyohs out of state during July or August that I have to guarantee their being back in Idaho for the begining of the school year or I could lose custody of the boys. From the very begining of this mess they have been allowed to make their own decisions regarding custody visitation, school, etc. because they were nearly 18 years old and Rod supported them in every single one against my wishes. E was going to spend the entire summer in Washington and i would’ve had no physical contact with him the entire time. How is his decision to go to school in Utah any different than that choice??? S agrees and says there’s no way his dad can stop him from going to school where ever he wants to… The continuance is a week from friday and now I’ve got to scramble to file a change for custody orders. For heavens sake they are three months away from being legal adults!!! and Rod is interfering NOW???? *screams in frustration*… Boyohs haven’t been speaking to dad much and he thinks this will make things better??? God help me!!!!!!
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*BIG HUGS* to you and your boys. 🙁 I hope the judge/court can have enough sense to listen to what the boys want to do, considering they are really close to being 18. My fingers are crossed that the court listens to what they want. It does sound like their father is really not helping their relationship though and lead to resentment later. Not healthy for him or the boys, let alone you. *BIG HUGS and pats Muse from twindragon1*
Sending lots of love and hugs your way TDM!! I’m sorry that you and the boys are going through this. It’s amazing how adults can act more irrational and temperamental than the children they are “protecting”. I can’t offer any advice, but you do have my ear to rant in, my shoulder to cry on, and my heart to heal your hurts. **HUGS!!!**
Why would he do this when they are so close to 18? I mean… they could move pretty much a couple weeks after the school year starts and he couldn’t do ANYTHING about it. It seems so stupid to be disruptive to them like this!
I’m sorry, TDM. 🙁 Hopefully he pulls his head out and realizes he needs to do what his kids want, not try to “win” some imaginary competition with you.
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