I am scared, angry, upset, and need advice

🙁 I am so sorry to hear this. How does your fiance feel about the situation? Is he more angry at the dog or is he understanding that it was an accident?

Personally, I dont want kids and would rather have the furry kind, so I say this from that point of view: (Disclaimer: This is my opinion, everyone is entitled to their own) The girls are your fiance’s children. Louis and your other pets are your children. Both the girl and the dog are small, innocent beings who are dependent on someone else for food, water and shelter. In that aspect, the human child and the puppy child are one in the same. If you and your fiance get married, the human girls will be just as much yours as they are his and the furry children just as much his as they are yours. So what if the little girl hurt the dog? Would he or his ex be as upset?

How would you react to that situation? I agree with you, that the girl getting bitten was an accident. It sounds like she is going to be okay. Children get hurt often (at least I did as a kid, and I lived a fairly safe life) my favorite dog in the world (who was old, and grumpy and didnt like to be bothered) bit me on the face once. I was small, and I was trying to hug and love her. She bit me over my eye-her top jaw got my eyebrow and her bottom jaw got me under the eye. It freaked me out, but it was my fault she bit me. I was doing something she didn’t like and she had had enough.

I don’t know what your rights are, but it sounds like the ex is over reacting.

Im sorry Im not much help :-

Oh, dear! First thing is to calm down! Take a few deep breaths and drink something warm and soothing.

I can give you my point of view from a mom of little ones’ side. We have a chihuahua/jack russell. My two year old sons sit on him, carry him around like a baby, color on him…normally he doesn’t care what they do. About a month ago my pain-in-the-… neighbor’s chihuahua came up on our porch and bit him on his ear (completely pierced it). That night my one little boy laid down next to him and went to lay his head on the dog. He must’ve touched his hurt ear, the dog snarled and bit my boy’s lower lip. Robbie (my boy) was terrified and cried which caused me to go into a rage. My husband had to remove the dog from my sight and put him in the laundry room. I called my Dad (who LOVES my dog) and told him that if he wants the dog to come and get it NOW!
Was it the dog’s fault…no.
Did I over react…oh yeah.
Should I be mad at my neighbor and not my dog…definetly.
When you love your little one (whether it be a baby or a furry baby) it can really set you off when something hurts your baby. Just like Wolfen said. Imagine Louis was at someone else’s house and got hurt there, you may overreact a first, too.

A month has passed and my dog is now home. I just needed time to cool down and realize it wasn’t the dog’s fault at all. Give it a little time and everyone should cool off about the situation…even the pain-in-the-butt EX. Maybe she just needs to see that the scratch on the girl’s face isn’t that bad.

Fiancé here.

First, I’m definitely not upset. My daughter (both of them, actually) have been told not to snuggle the dogs…specifically Louis. I locked the dog up, to separate him from the situation, put my daughter in the bathroom, and as I was cleaning her up, told her that she knew better. We had a talk about how she’s not supposed to snuggle up on Louis, and to basically just not get all lovey dovey on him, like little girls are prone to do.

The ex, on the other hand, doesn’t really understand that the dogs are just like any other animal (including humans) and are equipped with a fight or flight response. He chose to fight. I completely understand. I don’t like that my daughter got hurt, but on the other hand, we both have warned them on numerous occasions, and we weren’t listened to.

As far as why I’ve told my ex: I would be upset if my daughters came back to me with wounds on their face, with no word from my ex, only to hear “yeah daddy, the dog bit me”. I was being courteous, and letting her know that her child had been injured, what happened, and that all was taken care of. She overreacted. I’ve been told this by the few people I’ve spoken to about it. I’ve even emailed my lawyer detailing what happened, just in case something comes of this, I don’t want my lawyer blindsided.

Louis is my buddy. We have our issues, he needs to learn that I’m alpha now, but beyond that he’s a good boy. The girls have never been around dogs, and need to learn how to act around them, as well as read the dogs’ body language, so this doesn’t happen again.

Fiancé here.

As far as why I’ve told my ex: I would be upset if my daughters came back to me with wounds on their face, with no word from my ex, only to hear “yeah daddy, the dog bit me”. I was being courteous, and letting her know that her child had been injured, what happened, and that all was taken care of. She overreacted. I’ve been told this by the few people I’ve spoken to about it. I’ve even emailed my lawyer detailing what happened, just in case something comes of this, I don’t want my lawyer blindsided.

This!! Thank you for being a responsible ex.

Now let me play devil’s advocate here. What would you do if you sent your child out to the park to play and she came home with scratches on her face and said that a dog/cat/whatever bit her. Wouldn’t you freak out?? You have no idea what the animal that bit her was like, you wouldn’t know it’s temperament, if she provoked it or if it just attacked. You wouldn’t even know if it was rabid or had some other communicable disease.

I think so long as you have proof that your dog has had it’s annual vaccinations, that you’ve repeatedly warned the girls not to do this (and she has to be able to back you up on it). You should be fine.

I hope you’re calmer now and can look at this with a little more objectivity. Hugs Hun!!

I hope everything works out .
When I was a kid I was told to leave certain dogs alone and I did . Though it was so hard to do . I loved animals . Still do . I have a cat . Grew up with dogs mostly mutts . I loved them all .
Lets hope your ex wife calms down . Yet I can see why she reacted as she has . Her child was attacted . But it was an accident . And kids being kids they don’t want to listen when an adult tells them not to do something .
I knew a family that was scared of dogs and hated them all because their father had been bitten by a dog .
So we have to becareful on what we pass along to our childern .
I never had a dog that wasn’t a good dog . Friendly .
Well I hope it works out . Louis is innocent victim in this .

I think that’s a different situation entirely. If the wounds were caused by a random animal at the park, I’d have taken her to the ER, just in case. That said, the bite was caused by a member of the family, and I know he’s well taken care of, is up to date on his shots, and normally has the temperament of a small happy-go-lucky child. I can’t blame him for reacting to being scared, just as I can’t blame my daughter for wanting to snuggle his fluffy little head. The situation I’m faced with is an ex who is prone to over-reacting, having double standards, and holding on to an anger that, in my opinion, she should have left behind long ago.

Update on the munchkin/dog: Kid’s face doesn’t hurt her any more, and is constantly slathered with Neosporin. Puppy dog is a bit skittish right now, considering I had to re-establish my role as Alpha in the family. Beyond that, everyone here has made nice-nice, and we’re just taking it in stride. Wish the ex would.

I just meant that in her eyes it is a random animal. She hasn’t met or played with the dogs, correct?? Glad both munchkin and pup are fine.

But yes, I can totally relate to an ex over reacting on every little thing. Not fun.

M’y opinion?

Children need to learn to adapt to the situation; in a case like this, rehoming the dog would be adapting the situation to the child. Yes, I have a child, yes, she was bitten by one of my pets. You get really angry, but really, stuff happens in life all the time. Once a child’s been bitten, it does have a positive effect in a way: they’re more careful and weary when it comes to animals in general. That way, if a black bear should come out of the woods, the child won’t run to hug the Teddy bear…

With a minor wound like this, I would’ve had a few unrepeatable words about the dog, but my child would also have had an earful… Then a hug!

It’s nothing to freak out about. Now, ask my parents how they felt when a dog bit me in the neck (after I pulled his tail, apparently) when I was 5, they might tell you a different story. I was VERY careful around dogs after that, let me tell you!