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I didn’t think of that! I was thinking Ronin from Stargate (my geek husband got me addicted) and I love the name
Blackdesertwind wrote:Well I finaly decided on DragonMistress suggestion: ‘Ronin’
Thank you all for the wonderful names. 😀Yay!!! I’m glad you liked that one!! good luck with Ronin! 😀
boskydragon wrote:I had more than one person tell me that I was lucky to miscarry as it wasn’t like I’d known the baby… 👿 this is comfort?
I absolutly hate that line! it has been said to me constantly, “oh you’re lucky you weren’t further along” oh, you weren’t really pregnant, well it’s better off this way, etc etc. I just have to smile and nod and walk away from them, all the while saying in my head, I’m lucky? are you kidding me? But because I used to work in a hospital, a suprising amount of women had gone through the same thing, and they weresome of the best consolers, they would just hug, and not say anything else. I am actually afraid to try again, I know that’s silly, but I’m terrified that it’ll happen again, and we’ll have to go through that pain. I swear when I do get pregnant, I’m gonna lay in bed for 14 weeks and not move! I envy women that easy nonchalant pregnancy, and I get so mad when people (that I used to be friends with in high school) just have kid after kid, and give them to their mother/sister/aunt etc to raise, and then go right back out and get pregnant again. This one girl I know keeps moving aacross the country, and has left her 2 beautiful children with her mother. She just recently got pregnant by another guy (none of her kids have the same father) just so she could get married, and when he got bored with her, she had an abortion just to spite him. I stopped talking to her after that. I’ve met people in the hospital that abort perfectly health 23 week babies, because they just now decided that they don’t want them! There is no medical problem, no danger to the mother’s health, they just decided not to be bothered. Needless to say, I stopped working on that floor along time ago. I always wanted to walk in the room and sit down and say, do you know what I wouldave given to be able to hold my baby? It’s hard to be calm and understanding in those situations.
I think I may have actually found one, it’s called Daily Strength, and so far I like it. I just feel stupid because it was almost 2 years ago, and at the time, my mother refused to let me go to grief conseling, or even acknowladge to anyone except my hubby that we were even pregnant. I’t just been really bothering me lately, I think because in my extended family, my aunt’s boyfriend’s daughter from his first marriage ( yes i know how that sounds) is 17 and pregnant, and my grandmother, who has always hated me is all ” Oh!! my first grandchild!!!” and is showereing her with affection. And I wanna scream “NO!! I had your first grandchild! and the baby died, and nobody was allowed to know you evil B*****!!” and I can’t even say anything. And while I don’t agree with the pregnant “relative”‘s situation, (not cause she’s not married, but because she is a drug user and a cutter)I can’t bring myself to ruin her joy with her succesful pregnancy. It just pisses me off. And I feel bad about it, but my baby never even existed in these people’s minds. Sorry, had to vent there! 😳 🙄
OOPS!! 😳 🙄 Yeah, one of those was me…. sorry PD!! but she does deserve it for reading your stuff, nosey nosey!!! she sounds like she has a touch of the paranoid sczizophrenia though with the you turned everyone against me! Seriously, I’m not even in the same state, and i think it’s hilarious that she cares more about what other people think of her than she does about the crazy party arrangements. It’s sad, but funny!!
lamortefille wrote:Happy Birthday: -) Doing/getting anything special?
I actually had a catastrophe last night, my mom got me new fish for my tank, and last night we found out that the tank had cracked!!! It is a bookcase aquarium, because we’re on the 2nd floor of our apt. building an can’t have anything bigger, but it was on the bookcase with all my wedding planning stuff, and my…… (gasp)… WINDSTONES!!! everything was soaked, and now we have to find a replacement tank!, it’s a slow leak so it’s sitting on the kitchen counter on a towel untill we can get a new one!!! My hubby did get me a new camera for my b-day, (my coisin broke mine at my wedding) but it won’t be here for a week. We’re going out to Red Lobster tommarow, because my family has a scout thing tonite. So hopefully it will be better when my husband gets home later!!! There’s always something like this happening to me!
Thank you, I will probly annoy all of you generous enough to offer a shoulder, I can be quite a talker. That’s amazing with your boys, it’s that bond that twins have that’s fascinating, I always wanted to get into the minds of twins. My mom is a twin, and alot of odd things like that would happen, one would get sick, and they both would get sick, even as adults and such.
I was wondering, with all the wonderful resources we have in our members, does anyone know a good grief support group, preferably online, for miscarriage? I’ve been unhappy with mine online, and want to try something else. Thanks guys!
~Dragon Mistressunfortunatly, they’ve gotten clever, and some of the fakes are really hard to tell apart from the real ones. Good eye though!
