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Ah. I know what a Justice of the Peace is; I just never saw him referred to with an acronym. Thanks, Wolflodge.
SilverArrow wrote:Well, at one time I was under the impression it might be a mass ceremony if they have a lot of people waiting. But someone told me it’s not like that at all. Which, for federal/state government I thought was really nice. Have you ever been to the DMV or SS office? You are treated exactly as a number (at least in my experience). So, I thought courthouse weddings were treated the same way. So far, I’ve heard only good things. I was wondering what Nam’s experience was like.
I’m in GA and it was a mass ceremony. It was us and three other couples. One couple had two screaming children. D:
It was $90, we all said our vows in unison. I wore some nice jeans and a green shirt, my husband wore about the same. If we had wanted we could come back and the Judge would marry us individually but it would have cost $150 extra on top of the $90. There is no JOP in my county (and I had to get married in the county I live in sooooo). The only other person that could have married us was a minister/paster/other person that has the legal papers to marry folks.
So, we decided that it was worth saving the extra money and putting it toward our actual wedding ceremony that we can enjoy with friends and family! Everyone tells me that I will always think of that day and wish I had done things differently but honestly a day is just a day… spending time with the ones you care about is what is memorable! Plus we have thought of ourselves as ‘married’ for a long time now so the only difference is that we have a piece of paper that says “MARRIED!” on it now. 😉Volunteer mod- I'm here to help! Email me for the best response: nambroth at gmail.com
My art: featherdust.comI really wish I could just elope to the courthouse. But the boyfriend is an only child, and my family is HUGE of family events. We have reunions nearly every year.
So both our parents would kill us if we did that.
*sigh* Not that we’re getting married any time soon anyhow.
Nambroth wrote:Plus we have thought of ourselves as ‘married’ for a long time now so the only difference is that we have a piece of paper that says “MARRIED!” on it now. 😉
Ditto… after seven years .. just haven’t done the deed yet.
We’ve talked about it, we’ll get married in the church of her choice (she’s Catholic, I’m … well.. an observant bystander of religion), and then have a wing ding in her parent’s back yard with all the family.
Nambroth wrote:Plus we have thought of ourselves as ‘married’ for a long time now so the only difference is that we have a piece of paper that says “MARRIED!” on it now. 😉
I know exactly what you mean! I can’t think of anyhing that would change if my boyfriend and I got married…except that we would pay more taxes… 🙂
SPark wrote:But the boyfriend is an only child
When I first read that, it came out as..
SPark wrote:But the boyfriend is only an child
Well, that too! I robbed the cradle.
Which is why the “sigh” there. He’s not ready to get married yet, and he worries that his parents will flip out if we do decide to marry, because he’s so young.
Bleah. 19 is plenty old enough to get married! It’s old enough to vote, to go off to war, or to do any number of other things.
But there’s no point in my putting pressure on him, that would just end up with both of us miserable. He knows how I feel, and that’s enough. So I shall wait for him to grow up a bit. I just don’t want to!
Snapdragon wrote:…We’ve talked about it, we’ll get married in the church of her choice (she’s Catholic, I’m … well.. an observant bystander of religion), and then have a wing ding in her parent’s back yard with all the family.
I like that phrase: Observant Bystander of Religion (OBR)
I can see you have a mixed-spiritual relationship. That’s like my boyfriend and I. He’s Catholic, and well, I’m not. But it works! 😀
Nambroth wrote:…but honestly a day is just a day… spending time with the ones you care about is what is memorable! Plus we have thought of ourselves as ‘married’ for a long time now so the only difference is that we have a piece of paper that says “MARRIED!” on it now. 😉
I couldn’t agree more! I think you have a good outlook on it. I’m sorry to hear that they married you in mass, but the wedding celebration should be/was (?) great.
It works fine, except when it comes to kids. There’s the whole thing if we get married, and it’s in the church, then me being OBR and not “dedicated” to the church, I have to agree to let her raise the kids in the church.
Still not sure about that.
I do go to Xmas mass, as it is the one day a year I am allowed to “observe” all the fine ladies dressed up in their “Sunday” best. Any other day of the year I might get smacked for looking.
Snapdragon wrote:It works fine, except when it comes to kids. There’s the whole thing if we get married, and it’s in the church, then me being OBR and not “dedicated” to the church, I have to agree to let her raise the kids in the church.
Still not sure about that.
I do go to Xmas mass, as it is the one day a year I am allowed to “observe” all the fine ladies dressed up in their “Sunday” best. Any other day of the year I might get smacked for looking.
Ahhh. Most unfortunate. There’ll be no kids nor churches for us. Only running around like 3rd graders and shooting guns. 😉
Good luck with that!
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My art: featherdust.comI dunno… I just might have to hook up with a single, non-smoking, non-religious Windstone collector.
I wonder if any exist.
My husband and I were married in a JOP ceremony and it was very intimate and only us and our families and friends. The judge was absolutely wonderful and sweet- when he stood with either of us on his side to take a picture- afterwards he said “Let this be the only time you let someone stand between you.” I liked it 🙂
That’s a cute line.
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