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safyre_dream wrote:
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We’ve had some rough years, only being together for 4 years, both being so young and having to deal with so much. As sad as I am at losing a good friend and lover, I know that as a person I will be happier on a whole without him. He is still trying to find himself, as am I. We both need to grow immensely before we can truly satisfy a spouse. Our marriage was a mistake, but like all mistakes I know I will be taking a lot of lessons away from it.Seems you’ve already told yourself the most important thing to hear right now.
*big hugs*
As far as from this point on, make sure you take care of yourself financially, setting up new bank accounts only in your name. Is it possible to move in with your Dad for awhile? Let yourself grieve the loss of the relationship, even though moving on is for the best. Just take your time, heal, and don’t give up. 🙂
I am so sorry to hear that Safyre, but it sounds like you are looking at this in the best possible light, as a window to a better opportunity. I knew your marriage was rocky, and for the longest time I had hoped that you both would work it out, but if it’s for the best of both of you, then it is healthier! *hugs* and I will not only send you virtual chocolate, but I am also sending you virtual cheesecake!! That’s the best for a mood boost!
eaglefeather831 wrote:I will not only send you virtual chocolate, but I am also sending you virtual cheesecake!! That’s the best for a mood boost!
Thank you! I am gettin happier by the kilobyte. 😉
DantheDragon wrote:Is it possible to move in with your Dad for awhile?
That is my plan.. for the time being. To move back up to my home town, reunite with old friends, and see how it goes from there. Thanks for all your support.. Too bad I didn’t get to see you before I left town… Maybe we can meet up at a Ren Faire some time in the future…
From what you have said it sounds like you thought it all out and made the right decision for youself. Best of luck for the future. Also don’t rush into anything give yourself time to grieve the loss of you marriage and be happy in the future.
safyre_dream wrote:eaglefeather831 wrote:I will not only send you virtual chocolate, but I am also sending you virtual cheesecake!! That’s the best for a mood boost!
Thank you! I am gettin happier by the kilobyte. 😉
DantheDragon wrote:Is it possible to move in with your Dad for awhile?
That is my plan.. for the time being. To move back up to my home town, reunite with old friends, and see how it goes from there. Thanks for all your support.. Too bad I didn’t get to see you before I left town… Maybe we can meet up at a Ren Faire some time in the future…
I’m so glad you have a workable plan!
Here I am at my father’s… enjoying 24.4k Dial up :roll:… Safely away from the reach of my husband. I’ve had chats with my surrounding family and they echo the path that I am taking. It’s time to move on.
Every phone call I have made (few) to him have ended after 5 minutes with him hanging up. I think he is feeling the strain and cannot cope with the loss now. I hope for his sake that he will understand this is all for the best and recover quickly. I still care for him, but the intelligent, levelheaded side of me keeps the emotional, loving side of me away from going back to the abuse cycle.
I hope in time I can heal and find my true match, the other shoe to walk through this life with… but I’m not expecting it for a long while. For now I’m going to do what I should have done in the first place: Concentrate on myself, continuing my career, my education, and celebrating my way of life.
I will keep in touch here and update when I have free time. Keep an eye out, I may have some pretties for sale soon. 🙂
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