A Question of Immigration

Just a question that some may or may not know the answer to…..if a person is Canadian and they wanted to marry someone in the United States–is it a long drawn out process? I’m not too savvy on immigration stuff but I thought if someone from another country wanted to marry someone here, they would have residential status but not citizenship.

I visited a neighbor the other day and her daughter has an ‘internet buddy’ she corresponds with and this person, a woman, lives in Canada. Well at the time her daughter met her, she was married. Well earlier this year this woman met someone else on another website. She claims to be ‘in love’ and with the help of her current husband, has come down to visit the man. She then starts divorce proceedings on her current husband so she can marry this other guy supposedly some time this year. Well, this didn’t happen and she is back in Canada and what she is saying is that because she is Canadian, the process of her finally being with ‘the man she loves’ is a drawn out and stressful process and doesn’t know when they can plan their wedding date. She also tells her how lonely she feels and things are rough for her.

Personally, I’m a little suspicious of all this–there is a story attached to this woman that is unreal and would take up more space than we have here. My neighbor has concern for her daughter. She doesn’t know if this woman is giving her a story or what. She had wanted to come and visit her daughter but mom was totally against it–didn’t know her etc. [Daughter lives on her own and owns her own home and the woman knows this.] She feels this woman might be a con of some sort. My neighbor’s personal feeling–the man found out how whacked she is and called the whole thing off and booted her out of his life. She thinks she is trying to use her daughter as a means to have a place to stay in the States. So this is the story behind the question. Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated.

Thanks, Nirvanacat! That was my first feeling–something not right but not too savvy on immigration stuff I wasn’t sure. That’s why I threw it out on the forum–I’m sure there are people here who know or who have been through this themselves. Checking out the sites and just reading a bit of it I get the impression that whoever is in the States starts the process to get the financee or spouse over. Well I’m going to guess that isn’t happening in this case. My gut instinct was that the guy in the States didn’t want this person in his life after he got to know her. The ‘process’ doesn’t sound that hard but you have to file and get all the documentation that is needed ready. She for some reason, is living this fantasy/scam of how they’re going to get married soon but the process is keeping them apart. I want to be able to talk to this neighbor so she can pass info onto her daughter, who is very naive and trusting, so that she too will not have anything to do with this person.

So if you know something or experienced this yourself, please feel free to post your experience and knowledge of how things like this happen. I want all the ammo I can get. This broad sounds like a fluke and she may be trying to take advantage of my neighbor’s kind hearted daugher to her own end. Damn people like this! 😡