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I like Kyrin’s idea to tell those others that it was canceled (including PD’s mother), and then have it anyway. Or just call and say that they were not supposed to be invited, you never gave your mother in law permission to invite those people, and you don’t have the room for them to come. Most people take that pretty well, if they get a little disappointed. But most people understand that.
I’m not looking forward to putting a “Over the age of 8 (or 10, don’t know yet)” limit on my wedding (they are allowed at the reception though). One of my best friends has a child that will be under that. But I’ve seen too many infants and young children ruin a wedding because the parents won’t remove them from the service or even try to shut them up when they start screaming, because they “don’t want to miss anything”. Not saying anyone here would be like that… just saying I’ve seen parents who are.
The Castle [Dave wrote:“]
Necron99 wrote:She will just have to call them and uninvite them. She will probably refuse to and i will write them telling them she is a jerk or she will write and say i said somthing nasty about them .
Do you actually have a list of everyone she’s invited so that you could actually disinvite them? Like, did you get a copy of the email she sent out, with everyone’s address in the I-don’t-know-how-to-blind-copy-so-now-you’re-on-everyone’s-spam-list line?
If so, don’t even ask her. Just send out a “Due to circumstances beyond our control, a number of invitations were sent out to an open party function. We wish to inform you that there is no open party function scheduled, and that the sender of the invitation was in error.”
You then send out emails to a “closed party function” to the people who you do want to show up.
Whatever happens, though, I hope you have a great day on the day!
This is the least offensive solution to your mother-in-law’s intrusion, if you ask me. That way she can’t go back to them and tell them all you’re jerks, because you didn’t talk down about her, and it’s polite and to the point and sort of implies that there is no party.
Good luck with this mess!
The Castle [Dave wrote:“]
Do you actually have a list of everyone she’s invited so that you could actually disinvite them? Like, did you get a copy of the email she sent out, with everyone’s address in the I-don’t-know-how-to-blind-copy-so-now-you’re-on-everyone’s-spam-list line?If so, don’t even ask her. Just send out a “Due to circumstances beyond our control, a number of invitations were sent out to an open party function. We wish to inform you that there is no open party function scheduled, and that the sender of the invitation was in error.”
You then send out emails to a “closed party function” to the people who you do want to show up.
Whatever happens, though, I hope you have a great day on the day!
I was thinking along the same lines as Dave.
If you still have the email that shows (if it does) all the email addresses of the people she invited just send them an email.
I would love to see her face when she finds out. 😆I wouldn’t. She sounds like the type of person who would find a way to take it out on Purpledoggy and Necron, however she can, because she was thwarted. I believe Dave’s solution is the most diplomatic.
I vote for telling mom that you’ve moved the party to someplace ultra fancy to accomodate all her friends.
That way when mom and her cronies show up, they all can have a nice lunch somewhere.The Castle [Dave wrote:“]
Necron99 wrote:She will just have to call them and uninvite them. She will probably refuse to and i will write them telling them she is a jerk or she will write and say i said somthing nasty about them .
Do you actually have a list of everyone she’s invited so that you could actually disinvite them? Like, did you get a copy of the email she sent out, with everyone’s address in the I-don’t-know-how-to-blind-copy-so-now-you’re-on-everyone’s-spam-list line?
If so, don’t even ask her. Just send out a “Due to circumstances beyond our control, a number of invitations were sent out to an open party function. We wish to inform you that there is no open party function scheduled, and that the sender of the invitation was in error.”
You then send out emails to a “closed party function” to the people who you do want to show up.
Whatever happens, though, I hope you have a great day on the day!
i have a copy of the email she did a mass send out . This morning i got up and there was an apology from her and an email sent to every one saying it was not an open party . although i did have to send her a very stern message about what she did , and how unacceptable it was . Never the less she is no longer welcome to any of my events
Dragon87 wrote:I like Kyrin’s idea to tell those others that it was canceled (including PD’s mother), and then have it anyway. Or just call and say that they were not supposed to be invited, you never gave your mother in law permission to invite those people, and you don’t have the room for them to come. Most people take that pretty well, if they get a little disappointed. But most people understand that.
I’m not looking forward to putting a “Over the age of 8 (or 10, don’t know yet)” limit on my wedding (they are allowed at the reception though). One of my best friends has a child that will be under that. But I’ve seen too many infants and young children ruin a wedding because the parents won’t remove them from the service or even try to shut them up when they start screaming, because they “don’t want to miss anything”. Not saying anyone here would be like that… just saying I’ve seen parents who are.
just make the kid thing known before the wedding well in advance , dont make the mistake the Bridzilla we know did and confuse the heck out of every one who had kids
purpledragonclaw wrote:I wouldn’t. She sounds like the type of person who would find a way to take it out on Purpledoggy and Necron, however she can, because she was thwarted. I believe Dave’s solution is the most diplomatic.
I agree Dave’s sounds diplomatic
Dragon87 wrote:I’m not looking forward to putting a “Over the age of 8 (or 10, don’t know yet)” limit on my wedding (they are allowed at the reception though). One of my best friends has a child that will be under that. But I’ve seen too many infants and young children ruin a wedding because the parents won’t remove them from the service or even try to shut them up when they start screaming, because they “don’t want to miss anything”. Not saying anyone here would be like that… just saying I’ve seen parents who are.
Not to take away from the point of the thread (I agree that what was done was wrong and am glad to see it looks like it may have been taken care of), but just wanted to add that you may want to have a note about people turning off their cell phones during the wedding as well. This actually happened at mine. 😡
Necron99 wrote:This morning i got up and there was an apology from her and an email sent to every one saying it was not an open party .
Under the circumstances, that’s about as close to perfect as it gets. Great news.
Necron99 wrote:Dragon87 wrote:I like Kyrin’s idea to tell those others that it was canceled (including PD’s mother), and then have it anyway. Or just call and say that they were not supposed to be invited, you never gave your mother in law permission to invite those people, and you don’t have the room for them to come. Most people take that pretty well, if they get a little disappointed. But most people understand that.
I’m not looking forward to putting a “Over the age of 8 (or 10, don’t know yet)” limit on my wedding (they are allowed at the reception though). One of my best friends has a child that will be under that. But I’ve seen too many infants and young children ruin a wedding because the parents won’t remove them from the service or even try to shut them up when they start screaming, because they “don’t want to miss anything”. Not saying anyone here would be like that… just saying I’ve seen parents who are.
just make the kid thing known before the wedding well in advance , dont make the mistake the Bridzilla we know did and confuse the heck out of every one who had kids
When I send out invitations, it will be in the invitations. It should only be an issue with maybe 2 or 3 people, so… that along with, cellphones must be off, and only one guest per invitation permitted. And they have to tell me if they are bringing someone or not. 😆
Anyway, back to the regular programming (meaning, I won’t respond to anymore comments on this thread, PM me if you want). Sorry for hijacking, I guess I should know better then to assume people won’t comment on here. We are all very opinionated it seems. 😆
Dragon87 wrote:Necron99 wrote:Dragon87 wrote:I like Kyrin’s idea to tell those others that it was canceled (including PD’s mother), and then have it anyway. Or just call and say that they were not supposed to be invited, you never gave your mother in law permission to invite those people, and you don’t have the room for them to come. Most people take that pretty well, if they get a little disappointed. But most people understand that.
I’m not looking forward to putting a “Over the age of 8 (or 10, don’t know yet)” limit on my wedding (they are allowed at the reception though). One of my best friends has a child that will be under that. But I’ve seen too many infants and young children ruin a wedding because the parents won’t remove them from the service or even try to shut them up when they start screaming, because they “don’t want to miss anything”. Not saying anyone here would be like that… just saying I’ve seen parents who are.
just make the kid thing known before the wedding well in advance , dont make the mistake the Bridzilla we know did and confuse the heck out of every one who had kids
When I send out invitations, it will be in the invitations. It should only be an issue with maybe 2 or 3 people, so… that along with, cellphones must be off, and only one guest per invitation permitted. And they have to tell me if they are bringing someone or not. 😆
Anyway, back to the regular programming (meaning, I won’t respond to anymore comments on this thread, PM me if you want). Sorry for hijacking, I guess I should know better then to assume people won’t comment on here. We are all very opinionated it seems. 😆
We all hijack threads all the time. No worries. 😀
emerald212 wrote:We all hijack threads all the time. No worries. 😀
I suppose, I just don’t like doing it. 😆
I don’t care, hijack away. I can’t believe someone would have a cell phone on during a wedding. I can understand not wanting small children at a wedding. My brother actually let me bring Alyssa to his but if she so much as babbled I was ready to up and walk away so as not to disturb the ceremony. I’ve seen loads of people who let their kids scream bloody murder so I can see why alot of people wouldn’t want small children at their wedding.
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