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Just wondering what you guys thought? Thought of getting any? Already have it? What about parents who get their daughters implants for graduation presents?
😆 Goodness!!! What a question!!!! I definitely don’t think much of your graduation present scenario. I think it’s great in the case of correcting defects or to help burn victims…..that sort of thing, but I guess I’m not vain enough to see the need for it otherwise. Of course, when I’m older, maybe you should ask me again. 😆
Honestly, cosmetic surgery is one thing that wouldn’t occur to me. Corrective surgery might, if I ever had a bad accident, but even then, unless I made children scream in fear, I might not. That’s how I was raised: I am who I am.
And for graduation gifts, I think I’ll stick with… books? Windstones? Yeah, so I’m boring 🙂
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmI just saw the topic on 20/20 which was why I was curious. I think I am pretty fly (Well, cute enough, anyway;), but I tell you… I think if I had the money, I would do it. I would have a hard time picking what I want fixed, though, cuz everything is Okaaay… but it could all be just a little bit better. 😆
For the purpose of reconstructive surgery after an injury or to correct a birth defect or a problem with function, I think it’s wonderful and I’m glad that so many advances have been made. But for the purpose of “new boobs for your graduation present” or “new nose for your anniversary”, I think it’s really sad. Why are people so vulnerable to body criticism? The shape of one’s chin or the size of one’s chest is something that one has no control over personally, and yet people will obsess over something like this until it drives them under the knife. How can a brand new double-D cup make one a better person? Why would anyone allow the asinine messages of the fashion industry into their head and make them unhappy with intrinsic aspects of their appearance?
Sometimes I find myself snarling at the TV screen, and my husband has more than once asked me why I get so defensive over what other people choose to do with their bodies. It’s a good question. It’s none of my business what they choose to do, and no person in my life is pushing me towards cosmetic surgery. I guess what I object to is the whittling away of a person’s self-esteem by all of the cultural push towards the Barbie doll physique (old Barbie, new Barbie, they’re both highly improbable). And I object to the notion that one must not have minor physical “flaws” (who decides it’s a flaw?!) that have no effect on function but look different from what’s espoused by those buggers who Photoshop magazine photos of models so that they look just that much “better”. You take away all of a body’s subtle “flaws” and what you have left is a mannequin. No thanks.
My youngest sister worked for a while at a cosmetic surgeon’s office as a receptionist. One Christmas Eve we were at the family get-together, and a cousin we rarely see had brought his brother, who naturally brought his wife. My sister watched in silence as the wife tottered around on her stiletto heels, scarlet sheath dress snuggled about a perfect magazine-model frame. Then she began reciting quietly under her breath: “Let’s see–boob job, butt tuck, tummy tuck, armpit hair lasered, nose job, facelift, eyelid tuck, collagen injections in the lips . . . .”
Horrified, I nudged her. “You’re not supposed to talk about the patients’ files!” I hissed. My sister looked at me in surprise.
“She’s not a patient at our clinic. I’ve never seen her before. But I know what these things look like. She’s had the works, lemme tell you!”
It’s just sad.
Actually, it can be even sadder, you know. I read an article in the Medical Post. It was an interview with a cosmetic surgeon. She was saying that she would discuss the reasons for the surgery, sometimes trying to discourage the patient, depending on the situation. What floored her (and me) was that some women did not want their husbands to find out about the surgery.
That speaks to a deep insecurity and lack of trust in your partner, in my opinion.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmUnless I get grave injury- no. No way.
There’s a million things I’d like on my body to be better. I wish I wasn’t so pear-shaped. I wish I didn’t have stretchmarks from a rather sudden gain of weight due to medication. And yeah, I’m one of those who could use a little more symmetry chest-wise. So what?
Imperfections, my folks, are often what make people so appealing. Women want to laser off their moles. Um…what was Marylin Monroe’s face known for? What some people consider a mole others consider a “beauty spot”.
This LiveJournal entry makes me rather happy and sums it up for me, myself:
http://andrea-miccaver.livejournal.com/15074.html
EDIT: ‘Sides, I don’t want surgery for a long, long, LONG time.
Reconstructive surgery (because I think people deserve the chance to feel normal) and stuff that will make you healthier, in less pain, etc (breast reductions, septum corrections, etc) aside…
I think too many people use cosmetic surgery for a quick fix (just like bariatric surgery), but I don’t disagree with it as a whole. I believe most things have their place. I tend to think some ppl are rather shallow (usu. the naturally gorgeous ones that feel the need to “fix” something), but for some people it can change how they feel about themselves in a much needed way. And some people just have a near impossible time fixing things themselves.
Personally, if I had the money, I’d be inclined to go for some lipo & an abdominoplasty. I can live with the rest of my flaws. But despite all my [correctly done] efforts, my baggage isn’t budging. I’ll never be a single digit size; I’m just not built that way. But it’s miserable knowing you’ve done right and it’s still not working, esp. when it’s 80 lbs & not just 5-10 vanity lbs. (And yes, I’m seeing a doctor… no, it doesn’t seem to be thyroid-related… but I’m on a thyroid drug & another Rx drug now anyway)
Bigger boobs for a graduation present is really pathetic though.
Rusti wrote:Breast reduction. That’s all I want. The rest I can live with. Cuddly curves and all.
That’s me as well. As for brest implants for a graduation present I think it’s ridiculous. I know my chest size got larger during college and just after. Give the girl some time to grow and develop.
Wow. Personally I think it’s plain stupid to give a kid plastic surgery. They honestly have no clue about life (Hell I’m in the catergory that thought they knew everything when they left high school… boy did I get a wake up call 😯 ). Just think about all the things that happen in life. Illnesses, marriage, pregnancy etc. Your body is going to change a dozen times over the course of your life. There is no such thing as the perfect body. I thik it’s rather sad to see any woman trying to be “perfect”. Alot of my guy friends say they’d rather (and DO) have women who are not perfect and say thats part of the attraction.
Cosmetic surgery to fix things like cleft lip or burns or things that affect the health of a person is a god sent.
Personaly, I’ve considered a breast reduction and laser hair removal, but have alot of work to do before hand. I gained 70lbs in 6 months and the boobs grew too. I now have to buy specialty bras that cost and arm and a leg. The doctor has no idea how that happened since I was eating well and physically active and all at the time and thinks it may have been due to high stress. I’ve also got PCOS so I’ll never be a single digit dress size and got hair in places I wish it wasn’t. The doctor and I are working on the weight problems. I don’t think I’d ever want to be that skinny! Remember ladies that thin wasn’t in until the late 50’s early 60’s. Prior to that pleasently curved ladies were considered to be the ideal!
Maebnus3 wrote:Reconstructive surgery (because I think people deserve the chance to feel normal) and stuff that will make you healthier, in less pain, etc (breast reductions, septum corrections, etc) aside…
I think too many people use cosmetic surgery for a quick fix (just like bariatric surgery), but I don’t disagree with it as a whole. I believe most things have their place. I tend to think some ppl are rather shallow (usu. the naturally gorgeous ones that feel the need to “fix” something), but for some people it can change how they feel about themselves in a much needed way. And some people just have a near impossible time fixing things themselves.
Personally, if I had the money, I’d be inclined to go for some lipo & an abdominoplasty. I can live with the rest of my flaws. But despite all my [correctly done] efforts, my baggage isn’t budging. I’ll never be a single digit size; I’m just not built that way. But it’s miserable knowing you’ve done right and it’s still not working, esp. when it’s 80 lbs & not just 5-10 vanity lbs. (And yes, I’m seeing a doctor… no, it doesn’t seem to be thyroid-related… but I’m on a thyroid drug & another Rx drug now anyway)
Bigger boobs for a graduation present is really pathetic though.
I know Exactly how you feel!!! I never was skinny, but this latest weight gain makes it something like 100lbs the doc want me to lose. I’m one of those people who can eat right, exercise till I dropp and the weight just stays there. *sigh*
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