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frozendragon wrote:
but basically we just get over it and deal with our own problems that we’d rather not announce to everyone…
and then later we’ll buy our own Windstones when our problems get better… 😀
That’s what I do! 😀
Kudos, eaglefeather, for asking this. I know it’s something I’ve wondered about, but not had the guts to ask.
skigod377 wrote:eaglefeather831 wrote:I’m not trying to be mean, selfish, or pitiful I promise! But I do need to know…what determines if someone gets a gift from the whole forum? A personal example is that When I gave birth to my baby, the forum didn’t send anything to me, but others who have given birth to baby’s have recieved gifts from the forum and other individual members. I did get some clothes from Ski though! 😀 I also haven’t heard of any plans to get other new mommys any gifts (or maybe I’m out of the loop?) It’s just that I had always felt hurt when some got special attention for the same thing that I had done/experienced, but I didn’t get nearly as much attention. Is it determined by the amount of time spent on the forum, or the closeness of relationships? I REALLY hope that no one takes this personally because that isn’t my intention, but I have always felt comfortable being honest with you all, and I am hoping I wount get yelled at. 😳 I love you all so much, and I am not expecting anything, nor do I want anything because it would just make me feel guilty, but I just have these feelings.
Whoa, that was a group gift from the forum and the card said so. 😕 I put out a topic just like the others that are going around and you got a gift from the folks who PMd me. 😉
Oh, and to answer the question, I come up with things when I think its appropriate. “The Forum” as a whole does not arrange anything, per se… When I come on and see someone going thru something that I feel could warrant a pick me up or congrats I will ask if anyone else feels that way, too, and whoever does will chip in for a gift. The amount depends on how many people respond to the idea. The less people who respond, the less attention is paid to the gift, would be my guess. Anyone can organize something so I guess its up to the individuals. 🙂
😳 I truly did miss that. I thought it was only from you Ski. I’m sorry everyone! I have no intention of trying to sound ungrateful because that I am not. I apologize!
Stephanie wrote:frozendragon wrote:but basically we just get over it and deal with our own problems that we’d rather not announce to everyone…
and then later we’ll buy our own Windstones when our problems get better… 😀
That’s what I do! 😀
Kudos, eaglefeather, for asking this. I know it’s something I’ve wondered about, but not had the guts to ask.
There have been so many times that I have wanted to arrange a gift for someone, but I never know how to arrange it.
just PM someone like Ski or Star… of GB.. they’ll usually be able to get something going..
and I know BDW has been doing stuff too…
Money is also another reason. There are not that many folks who organize things like this but when we concoct something, I, and im sure the others as well, usually end up paying more than half. Its not a big deal, but im sure everyone agrees that it cant be done all the time. If I have the money, the time, and the inclination at the same time something comes up, then I will try to start something.
Ok, Im a moron. Eagle asked me a while back if I had sent her some baby clothes and I told her I did send a bag, but couldnt remember if it was to her or not, but could have been. Well, it wasnt. I was thinking of the one we got together for Purpledoggy. Sorry Eagle. I was under the impression this was the group gift. I dont know who sent you those clothes. Sorry all!!! Group gift was for Purple.. *Hides face in shame…*
Stephanie wrote:frozendragon wrote:but basically we just get over it and deal with our own problems that we’d rather not announce to everyone…
and then later we’ll buy our own Windstones when our problems get better… 😀
That’s what I do! 😀
Kudos, eaglefeather, for asking this. I know it’s something I’ve wondered about, but not had the guts to ask.
yup. ditto’d.
there are a LOT of people that go there trouble. lol, but posting it online is not for every one.
I post if things get really hard and i just need to rant..otherwise i keep my quiet. it is my stuff to deal with.most people on my art account know I deal with a lot of crud only because it comes out in my art…but i don’t make it regular habit of posting my troubles on the net for all to be apart.I am not trying to take punches at any one that DOES post when they are having a hard time, since we all do it and it can help us just get through that one spot.
My part of it is if some one is having a hard time, I don’t send gifts for it unless i REALLY know the person, really gotten to talk one on one and know about them, or they are some one i personally respect alot or would like to show gratitude towards for something. It may sound harsh, but this is the net. It is not that i do not care, I know these are real people and they deal with real things, but a gift is something i view as being personal.
Normaly if it is some one on the net and i want to do something to help, i will draw them a picture or offer words of encouragement/sympathy.Doing this means that if i send a gift, then i know the person getting it and know they really will appreciate it, and it is not just out of pity that i am sending it.
Again, this is not meant to take shots at ANY ONE here on the forum who has received gifts from people or have posted about having a hard time. I have no ill feelings towards you guys for getting wonderful gifts because you voiced having a hard time 🙂
It’s kinda sad that there’s some people out there who would take advantage of peoples generosity.
I never posted with the intent of getting a sympathy gift out of it, more because I needed to rant, or sometimes, need some neutral advice. So nothing wrong with posting problems, as long as it’s not with the intent of getting something.
And I think it’s totally random, whatever strikes the need for a pick me up at the time.
skigod377 wrote:Ok, Im a moron. Eagle asked me a while back if I had sent her some baby clothes and I told her I did send a bag, but couldnt remember if it was to her or not, but could have been. Well, it wasnt. I was thinking of the one we got together for Purpledoggy. Sorry Eagle. I was under the impression this was the group gift. I dont know who sent you those clothes. Sorry all!!! Group gift was for Purple.. *Hides face in shame…*
You’re not a moron! Perfectly undersandable! 😀 I found the culprit, and it’s Kyrin!! 😀
KoishiiKitty wrote:there are a LOT of people that go there trouble. lol, but posting it online is not for every one.
I normally keep personal issues to myself. This year has been the worst ever, and we’re going thru a medical thing that “you hear about, but it never happens to you” thing. Not to mention what happened to one of my cats.
I just tend to keep to myself… I just don’t know how I’d feel to type it all out on a public area.Kujacker wrote:KoishiiKitty wrote:there are a LOT of people that go there trouble. lol, but posting it online is not for every one.
I normally keep personal issues to myself. This year has been the worst ever, and we’re going thru a medical thing that “you hear about, but it never happens to you” thing. Not to mention what happened to one of my cats.
I just tend to keep to myself… I just don’t know how I’d feel to type it all out on a public area.Well if you ever want to, we will be there for you and right now, I hope everything will go well!
Kujacker wrote:KoishiiKitty wrote:there are a LOT of people that go there trouble. lol, but posting it online is not for every one.
I normally keep personal issues to myself. This year has been the worst ever, and we’re going thru a medical thing that “you hear about, but it never happens to you” thing. Not to mention what happened to one of my cats.
I just tend to keep to myself… I just don’t know how I’d feel to type it all out on a public area.I’ll admit I’ve felt envious of the gifting. We all have problems/issues, but some us of prefer to keep things to ourselves. Of course, that’s our choice.
I would prefer to limit the gifts to one per person.
Sorry you’ve had such a rough year, Ku. 🙁
I agree with the one gift thing too… especially since some people seem to have a new drama or catastrophe every few days…
🙁 😕
purplecat wrote:but sometimes I have to just pick and choose a few topics…and then I feel bad later when I read about something that’s done and over…and I missed out on helping or participating. 🙁
I have that problem too…I don’t always have the time to read everything and miss out on stuff.
That is why I created that special list so when something comes up and members want to do something special all they have to do is contact me so I can get a hold of everyone on that list. 😀Dragon87 wrote:It’s kinda sad that there’s some people out there who would take advantage of peoples generosity.
I never posted with the intent of getting a sympathy gift out of it, more because I needed to rant, or sometimes, need some neutral advice. So nothing wrong with posting problems, as long as it’s not with the intent of getting something.
And I think it’s totally random, whatever strikes the need for a pick me up at the time.
I agree with you Dragon87. We need to let it out at times. And when no one else will listen why not turn to our “FRIENDS” at the forum? There is noting wrong with that.
I won’t post my problems or rant about it anymore because I don’t want members to think I’m doing it to get gifts.
I posted some of my problems because I needed to have someone listen to me for once and I needed to let it out.
It was never my intention to do it for a Windstone or gift.And Eaglefeather, your question has merit. 😉
I do worry that some members will abuse and expect gifts.
This is a great forum and I would like it to stay that way. 😉
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