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Whatever happens, you did all you could. It’s never easy dealing with psychiatric illnesses. And you should never feel bad about feeling good about your life. If you can communicate this good feeling, great, but if he won’t listen, then you did the best you could, short of being a healthcare professional. Sending something painted just for him is a great idea; it’ll show him someone cares. And don’t be afraid to seek counselling for yourself, either. This is not an easy situation to deal with. Good luck!
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmI agree with the comments. Our Chaplain had a brother that commited suicide. He taught suicide prevention classes for years and had no clue that his brother was planning this. I can only imagine how he felt and how his faith must have been tested by that. Just remember that individuals are responsible for their own lives. Do all you can but dont berate yourself if it does not go well.
Yeah. I’ve thought about it more. The best counselor I’ve got right now is the Bible, and that helps. It’s just tough to deal with since he doesn’t even want me to know about the attempt, and I need to fit my writing in with my knowing without letting on that my uncle passed on the info.
Make him a dragon and then send a note with him saying that he sounded blue, and you thought this guy would cheer him up.
We’ve had suicide rear its ugly head here a few times. Recently one of my best friends lost his stepbrother to it. My husband lost a dear friend in high school, and our live in has considered it more than once, and told us if is wasn’t for us, he’d be dead. And last summer we lost a dear friend, worst part was the whole list basically was there while it happened. First we got a panic stricken email from her sister to the list asking if any of us knew where she was. A day later we got our answer, LB had been found and she had left us, her 4 kids and her husband and lover by suicide.
It’s a tough scary situation to be dealing with. I remember when our live in first came here, I was terrifed to leave him alone. So scared of what I’d come home to. It was a really scary 3 or 4 months. Thankfully with a lot of love and support he made it through, it has been 6 years since and he is doing very well now.
Just try to be as loving and supportive as you can from where you are. If you can talk to him over the phone, that might help.
But the truth is, if someone decides that they really want to go, there isn’t a whole lot that can be done. LB gave us no warning, we had no clues at all that she was feeling that way. Her loss broadsided the whole mailing list, many of whom had met her in person, on top of that, she was responsible for talking others out of the course she took. So it was even more of a shock.
Just try to be the best friend you can, and be as supportive as the distances between you allow.
Hang in there.
Kyrin
GB I send my warm thoughts and sympathies. Stay with him, no matter the cost, let him know that you aren’t mad at him for attempting, and that he needs to let you know how he is doing, that it is really important to you that you know the good and the bad. And THE MOST IMPORTANT, let him know that you are there for him NO MATTER WHAT!!!
Sometimes those of us who contemplate suicide, and/or attempt it, don’t go to the ones who matter most and can actualy help us, untill it is too late…..Especialy when it’s the people we care about most and don’t want to worry about us….Keep that in mind, and keep trying to get through to him.
Thank you, all of you.
I sent him a MySpace message yesterday that he hasn’t responded, but I’ll write to him again soon. I’ll write normally and describe normal life. Again, I can’t let him know I know about his attempt. That’s the hard part. I’m just going to have to show him I care.
And Kyrin, I love that idea of the blue PYO. I need to make another order from Windstone. 🙂I’m sorry your friend is going through a hard time and feels suicide is his best out. My comments would be similar to DDVM’s. A dragon painted by you sounds like a great idea as well.
Well, he wrote me a nice long e-mail. He says he’s off the drink again and doing all right, looking for work. I think the latest bad depression is over. I hope it doesn’t come back.
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