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I had a post awhile back about the whole maid of honor drama with my friend. Last weekend they where supposed to come over so we could talk about things but backed out. I was a little mad about that since I was supposed to meet with someone to sell some car parts and because of them making me wait all day I lost a sale. Well they came over today and pretty much told us they dont want us in the wedding at all now. I dont really care since the whole thing has turned into a drama fest. Ever since we had the baby they dont talk to us anymore and never come over. If they want nothing to do with us because we have a baby then thats fine with me.
Yeah, it sounds like they really wanted to just end the friendship. It’s too bad, but it sounds like you might be better off without them. Your family is far more important!
*hugs* At least it’s out in the open now and you can move on. Thank goodness you didn’t order the dress!
Yeah I would be pissed if I had ordered my dress. I’m also glad I didn’t spend money on a hall for the bridal shower. I knew they had taken us out of the wedding when she took the pictures off her myspace of the dress I was supposed to wear. I’m just mad they don’t want to hang around us at all. The whole time my husband was sick and in the hospital they always came over to make sure I was ok. Now they want nothing to do with us. Last weekend they were supposed to come over here to talk to us but went out with some new friends they made instead. The only how I know about this is they slipped while talking to us.
It’s sad to lose friends, but I believe that people come into your life to teach you something. Once you’ve learned the lesson, they or you move on.
I had a best friend, Jeff, for many years. He was like a brother to me. We would talk on the phone for hours. Or drop by each other’s houses for an impulse Dairy Queen run. Go dancing, to movies, or to dinner. He stayed on my couch when his girlfriend kicked him out. He helped me move when my boyfriend kicked me out. We were thinking of running a business together. We would take care of each other’s pets when one of us had to go out of town. We even went to New Orleans together for a drunk weekend, and we both had other significant others at the time. He even gave me away at my wedding. And now that I’m married, he’s disappeared. I’ve been married for eight + years, and I’ve seen Jeff maybe five times, and that’s usually because I run into him someplace – and it’s weird and awkward now. And the hubby is not jealous of him. It’s not about that at all. We’ve just grown apart. I’m sad about it, but it happens. I understand it. I love Jeff, but I love the hubby more. And if I have to make a choice, I chose the hubby.
I should also say that I think you lucked out on that one. It’s better when it’s their decision to exclude you from their wedding. Now you can stay at home and play with Alyssa, and you won’t have to spend money on a bridesmaid dress.
Well at least now YOU do not look like the bad guys! You also don’t even have to go if you don’t want to
That sucks to lose friends PD, but it sounded like that’s what they were trying to do in the first place. I would bet that there is jealosy about the baby, that happens alot. I got lucky when I got married that my friends were so wonderful, and none of them ditched me, but I only have a very small circle of people that I call my friends, I weeded most of them out when I went through my diasaterous relationship with my ex years ago, they all bailed on me, and the ones who stuck around mean the world to me. Hopefully it will stay the same when we have our baby. Some people are extremely selfish. I’m glad you didn’t order the dress, or any of the other maid of honor duties. The way I see it, it’s their loss. Are you guys still going to the wedding?
Jasmine wrote:Their loss. We think you’re wonderful!! 😆
Ditto!
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😡 Oviously they are trowing away what could have been great frienship from your part. The fact that they reacted the way they did says alot about the amount of importance they put towards friendship.
Let them discover on their own what being a family and the meaning of frienship really is.
Eventualy they might come to their senses. 😉When you go through big changes, this is when you find out who your friends really are.
When we moved to Idaho we had about a half dozen people we considered good friends. When it came to packing up and moving, only one came to help. We gave them contact information too.
I have actually gotten more mail, email, phone calls, etc from my old co-workers since we moved here 3 years ago. So based on that, I guess Kate is a true friend, and the others we’d known for years, weren’t. Though my friend of 17 years actually called me the other day, after I had written her off because of her drinking. Apparently she has sobered up and has been clean now for 8 months and wanted to touch base again. I’m really glad to hear she is doing better.
Anyway, the whole point of this ramble is, sometimes the people you think are your friends really aren’t. Most of my so called friends abandoned me the moment I had Alexander, but didn’t abandon my husband, which made me very angry. But when we moved here, that was it, they abandoned him too, which hurt him alot, which made me angry with them again.
We have good friends here, and I think that we got the best end of the deal in the long run.
Anyway, I am sorry your friends failed you, but at least now you know where you stand and what to expect.
*hugs*
Kyrin
I don’t know if I will be able to go to the wedding. I would like to but they have a no kids rule (which they just came up with last week). I only trust my brother to watch Alyssa and he has been acting strange towards me lately. I think its because his wedding is coming up in two months. I’m just gonna sit back and whatever happens happens. It took me almost 10 years to get to where I am in life and I’m just not gonna stress about things anymore. At least I have more money for windstones now that I don’t have to buy a dress 😉
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