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So my mom has been planing this baby shower for me and she tells me everything about it. Now she can’t have it in her house because she is redoing her kitchen and living room. Soooo she is going to have it in the garage. Now if it wasn’t the middle of November and cold out I might not mind this but I started to think. I’m sure its not a good idea for me to be sitting in the middle of a dusty, oily, cold concrete garage and I’m sure it will be no good for my husband being so fresh out of surgery. My husband tried to say something to her about changing the location instead of having it in a garage but she got mad and said she wasn’t going to pack everything in a car to take somewhere else. Do you think it would be bad for my/the baby’s health to sit in a garage for a few hours? Should I try to say something to her about it or am I being too paranoid?
If your mother doesn’t have room in the house for a party, then ask her to change the date to when she can. Beside the fact that you and your husband shouldn’t have to sit in a cold garage, her guests shouldn’t have to either.
It seems to me she is sabotaging herself on this. She knew she was throwing you a baby shower so why did she decide to redo the kitchen and living room. If she had those scheduled to be done for a while then why did she decide to have the baby shower in the middle of it?
I like Tintaglia’s advice, either change the date or change the location. You, your husband and the guests shouldn’t have to sit in a cold garage for such a special event.
pegasi1978 wrote:It seems to me she is sabotaging herself on this. She knew she was throwing you a baby shower so why did she decide to redo the kitchen and living room. If she had those scheduled to be done for a while then why did she decide to have the baby shower in the middle of it?
I like Tintaglia’s advice, either change the date or change the location. You, your husband and the guests shouldn’t have to sit in a cold garage for such a special event.
Ditto for me…can’t she have it at one of your other relatives’ house? And how does she plan on serving food if she can’t use the kitchen?
I don’t even know if she is going to have food. My mother-in-law wanted to get together with her and have one big baby shower. She offered to go in half with her to rent a hall but my mom refused. Then my mother-in-law got a hall for free from a friend and my mother still refused. She keeps saying she is not going to drag all the stuff she got me to another location. As far as I know the only things she has gotten me are what she finds used on craigslist. She wanted me to hold off getting a crib mattress so as she said “I would have something to unwrap at the shower” but I’m not waiting for that. I’ve already got the crib and I want to make sure the mattress fits it right. I know if I say something to her about having it in the garage she is going to flip on me. She has already rolled her eyes and yelled at me twice today for stupid things.
So have the party at the hall for everyone else and you can have a private party at her place later. I’m so sorry she’s making trouble for you. 😥 It would definitely not be a good thing if you or your husband caught pneumonia!!
I agree with what everyone else has said.
Aside from the health reasons — which is the most important consideration — a garage such as you described wouldn’t be an appropriate place for a baby shower.
Seriously! Put your foot down… your Mother-in-law got you a nice hall which will be fare more comfortable for you, your husband, and your honored guests… go for it! If it’s too much work for your mother to take a few wrapped items someplace else… I don’t know what to say. If the items are that large, why not have her bring something small and you can get the rest later?
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My art: featherdust.comNambroth wrote:Seriously! Put your foot down… your Mother-in-law got you a nice hall which will be fare more comfortable for you, your husband, and your honored guests… go for it! If it’s too much work for your mother to take a few wrapped items someplace else… I don’t know what to say. If the items are that large, why not have her bring something small and you can get the rest later?
Well said! Geez, if you dont want to have a baby shower in the garage (who would? 😯 ) then DONT have it in the garage!! It’s for you isn’t it? I mean, geez, not to be snotty but although it probably wouldn’t hurt your health I still say its not a good place for a baby shower. 🙄 🙄
A party in a garage, let alone a baby shower? Huh? Now that’s just too strange!
I wouldn’t go.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmA garage is no place to have a baby shower. Your husband’s immune system is probably weak right now, and could catch a cold very easily. Nobody should have to sick in a cold garage though. Your mom is being way too controlling with this. You should definitely go with the hall that your mother-in-law suggested. That would be much more appropriate. I sure do hope it all works out for the best! *hugs* 😀
You really ought to though, it would be very liberating…plus it will happen eventually. What happens when she wants to override you or your babies doctor eventually when she disagrees on something regarding your baby’s health? It’ll cause you less anguish to stop her trampling you now. 😕
Souns like your mother is fixated on what she has to do. A party in the garage isn’t a party. Have it somewhere else. If her only beef is having it somewhere else, then get a friend and you guys can “drag all the stuff” to the party. That way all your mom has to do is move her own self. If she still gets pissed, she’s obviously moved into an unreasonaable position and you should ignore her. I know thats harder than it sounds but coming from a controlling family myself you have to draw the line somewhere or they’ll keep pushing.
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