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Hi all forum members, I am here to simply follow up on the topic that I “dropped in and left”. Due to “life” plus ridiculously slow internet speeds (dial-up) trying high photo contents in most posts, I held off visiting until I could get DSL, which I now have.
I must say I certainly was not expecting a response like that, but then again, how could I not? I’ll admit that I did word my topic wrongly, and unfortunately was unable to return to it in time to address and correct my representations. I know I was not the only one who has felt this way and I guess I felt that it would be worthwhile to bring it into the light. You folks are my friends and I couldn’t help myself adding a bit of protecting with some advice, however darkened by my own suspicions. I should have left it much more anonymous and vague, I certainly agree.
The way I presented it was a double-edged sword, causing distrust in each other and leaving myself open to being discredited. By my refraining naming of the person I thought I was protecting someone may as well have been innocent. “Presenting truth or fact,” as many required so much would have been impossible, because- in my opinion- there is no such thing as truth in the bedazzlement of internet facades. I could not provide more than my own feelings. And I had. It did create suspicion and doubt. The people had their opportunity were able to voice how they felt, whichever way they lay on the topic.
I will not commend Nam for locking the topic, especially as quickly as it was since I had no place to put this response, but I don’t think she did wrong by the forum either. It was wrong to create ill-will towards fellow forum members. I did not intend to create any sort of witch-hunt.
So, in short, this is a defense and an apology all in one. I am not offended by any of the remarks made by other members; they have the right to make them. I hope that those who did not agree with my statement and/or mannerism of announcement accept my apology and understand that I did not intend to hurt any single person on this forum. This is indeed a lesson for everyone, in multiple ways.
Hopefully I’ll be available a little more often now and in a better mood as well.
Thanks everyone for being such a great community. 8)
I have to admit that I was catching up on reading and only read that topic after it was locked. I wont hide either that it made me uncomfortable for the plain fact that I have shared personal things with ppl here, both privately and publically.
I think many ppl who have shared things here on a personal level made comments in that thread to the overall effect of, “are you talking about me?” Certainly I hope if you or anyone do suspect me, that youd contact me in PM. Dont expect copies of medical records, however. My word has always been my bond and Ive always been truthful, usually to a fault. My being blunt as I am is because Im in that stage of acceptance and can talk openly and freely (which is true about every aspect of my life & life long as well).
Safyre, youve always been sweet to me both in posting and PM, so I would hope that if you took issue with me, youd bring it to me. Sadly, I have to admit (which sounds like guilt which I hate saying and is a feeling Id not had to feel on this board and only this board since it has been like no other and always honest and positive IMO), I must not be the only one feeling like theyre looking over their shoulder and wondering if ppl are now questioning me. What compounds it is that my sister in law, for many years now, has always been my middle person when I was unable to communicate myself (and vice versa). It was on attorney’s advice that someone computer and internet savvy have all my accounts and passwords so that should she need to, she could close them down and inform the appropriate ppl of anything. The fact she posted here to say I was afflicted seems to point the finger in my direction even more. Sadly, I wont have her update here if something were to come up for me; Id obviously just drop from sight- and ya may not even notice which is fine as I dont like attention (really; Im a periphery person; maybe I lack some confidence). It’s just the way I feel right now.
I also feel very guilty for those ppl who have made it possible for me to acquire some of the Windstones I was looking for, as well as have sent me things out of the kindness of their hearts, be it cards, other things or Windstones- which was a PYO. I dont come here to try to weasel ppl; I dont like sympathy and I detest pity. However, Im always wanting to push first in line to lend sympathy to anyone that needs it. If that makes me a hypocrite, I’ll accept that badge.
I am not aiming this post at anyone here; not you either Safyre. Im just reacting to how that thread made me feel. For right now, it makes me feel a little bit like other inferior chat boards (to this one) have made me feel which is why I never spoke in them (just read). Veil of suspicion on any member.
For what it’s worth, I trust in everything anyone has ever told me here and I plan to continue my natural attribute of that kind of trust. I would hope that others that have read about me would believe in me and not start to scratch their heads. But I have to admit, Im just not as comfortable here as I was… not for now. I do hope that it will get better and am optimistic that it will. In closing, just so you know, I have no idea what those games were in that article. I dont know what “virtual worlds” are- though after reading it’s explanatory. Suffice to say, Ive never lost touch with reality… even when Ive tried!!! 😆
Can we just presume innocent? I like our community how it is… very friendly and giving and trustworthy. And PT, I would not like it if you just dissapeared.
I apologize for my overly harsh message. I’ve just been part of two forums that degraded into finger pointing and name calling when one member claimed another was lying but refused to name names. Everyone became scared and paranoid that anything they posted would be considered a lie. Needless to say…those forums shut down from lack of members.
I really enjoy being here and I don’t want that to change.
I’m sorry Safyre if I was too harsh. I should also realize that posting at 3:00 am is not a good thing.
can’t we all just get along? I have been made to feel unwanted here too. I was posting like crazy when I first joined because I was excited to finally find a place that LOVED Windstones as mucah as I do. I eventually calmed down but I still feel very defensive on some topics so I will just move on or watch to see what will happen next. Like in the Color Purple “I’m just gonna sit back and see what the wall is gonna look like” I would HOPE that no one here would end up using anyone else. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, they are like a$$holes everyone has one, but we have to make sure it does not interfere with the family we have formed here. I also agree that if you have a problem with a person PM them and work it our with them and do not bring it public. I just hope we can bring the total trust back
First of all it’s really nice to see both Safyre and PT back. I missed you both.
Second, please PT don’t just drop from sight. (Or at least let me know if anything happens.) I believe you. Your stories are always consistant. You would be very much missed if you just disappeared!
I’ll second DM. Can’t we just all get along?
This is one of those subjects that as much as you try to explain it to fix it, it just seems to dig a bigger hole. Best to let it drop and fade away.
PT, please don’t stop sharing. Don’t let one person’s comments affect your trust in others. And don’t just drop out of sight. Too many people would miss you.
Safyre, hope you feel better soon.
Romeodanny wrote:please PT don’t just drop from sight. (Or at least let me know if anything happens.) I believe you. Your stories are always consistant. You would be very much missed if you just disappeared!
I so second that, it’s not funny. Because we’re an online community, very often, we have no other way of knowing what happens to another member, especially if they’re on the other side of the world. Let us know, PT, please. Don’t let any of this make you hesitate.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmI once googled a forum members name to see if there were any recent obituaries or anything in the paper saying they had been in an accident. I think it was SPark… Could have been Nirvana… long time ago. Yeah PT… you cant put us through that.
Dragon Master wrote:Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, they are like a$$holes everyone has one, but we have to make sure it does not interfere with the family we have formed here.
I love the way you put it DM! 😆 But, I actually do totally agree with DM on this. We are a big family… and shouldn’t let something like this cause any friction between us to where we start doubting each other, or anything else.
Safyre did apologize, and I except it. We all make mistakes, and suffer the consequenses from them. But I think we can put this behind us now, and just go back to being the big happy Windstone addicted family that we are! 😀
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