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I’m so sorry.
It’s really a bummer that they don’t live as long as we do. My kitty Zinc just turned 18 this year, if I am very very lucky he will make it to 20, but I know I can’t count on it.
14 years is a good number of years for a cat, since I think the record number of years for a cat to live is somewhere around 20 and average is about 12 to 15. Though in checking these numbers there may be a cat that is as old as 37!
Anyway, your kitty has lived a good life, and while he isn’t as old as you would like him to be, at least he isn’t a baby either. *hugs*
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Necron99 wrote:sorry to hear your cat is so bad off , but you are being very responcible and humane to this for him. It sounds sick but i wish we could do this for humans too when the suffering gets unbearable
No, it doesn’t sound sick to me; I say that all the time. I lost 2 family members to stomach cancer years ago. They wasted away to nothing, too. Euthanazia is not a bad thing, regardless of the species, in my book.
I’m so sorry about Turbo. But it sounds like you are doing the best thing for him. He’s lucky to be so loved. *hugs*
I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is never easy to say goodbye. I remember having to put our dogs down before and I’m crying. You have my sincere sympaties at this difficult time. 😥
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I’m so sorry about your kitty, I know nothing I could say could make it better-I started crying earlier just reading your post.
tasgrs wrote:Necron99 wrote:sorry to hear your cat is so bad off , but you are being very responcible and humane to this for him. It sounds sick but i wish we could do this for humans too when the suffering gets unbearable
No, it doesn’t sound sick to me; I say that all the time. I lost 2 family members to stomach cancer years ago. They wasted away to nothing, too. Euthanazia is not a bad thing, regardless of the species, in my book.
Risking turning this into a political debate.. My grandfather died of lung cancer which metisized to his spine last year… apparently in the couple of weeks after the last time I saw him he was going to kill himself, but wanted to say goodbye first. So I would say I agree on the euthanasia thing. It must be terrible to contemplate killing yourself because you know you’re going to die soon anyway.
tasgrs, your kitty is so aware that he is going with all your love with him. He can’t help but feel it surrounding him and helping on his way, along with his other kitty companions that have been with him. I have had 2 beloved cats die in their own time very loved, and they both knew they were loved, I am quite sure of it. My brother’s cat is now dying too after 10 years of being the first cat or animal he has ever let himself love completely and he won’t let himself grieve the way you are doing. My office partner just had 2 of his prize showdogs shot over the 4th because they became frightened at the fireworks, broke through the gate and went into a neighbor’s yard who shot them, removed the collar, and threw the body of one killed into a creek bed, and left the other to die under a bush. Joe is not dealing well with that either. Yours is a much healthier grief, for sure! Better for you, for the cat, the other cats, and for your family, so hard as it is! I know it hurts so damn much! And, it also teaches us how much we can feel, and with that, the capacity for joy. Humans can’t have one without the other, tasgrs. So know that the waves of grief come very high and close together at first while it is fresh grief, that it can feel really crazy, hard to concentrate, hard to sleep and eat, etc. You are wounded, so take it easy on yourself and take good care of yourself, eat well, sleep and exercise, get your Vitamin B’s, 6’s and 12’s, they are stress vit’s. It’s OK to have all your feelings, all the coulda shoulda woulda’s, angrys, sadness, whys, why this kitty and not some other one, or whatever goes through your mind. It’s OK to feel this way about a cat, yes she isn’t a people, but she is not “just a cat” she is a loved part of your life and deserves to be grieved and you are going through normal grief with all its craziness. It will also model good grief behavior for your kids if you have any, that people grieve when they lose what they value and this is how they do it, they cry and mourn and feel sad and have ceremonies and say goodbye. So, good on you for having the courage to “do it right”, it does take a lot because it does hurt and it isn’t fun and it’s sometimes downright awful and you are doing it amyway. So, my heart is with you, I promise the intense pain will pass and you will feel better later and be better and deeper because of the experience and the memories of what the cat brought to your life will be with you always. My cats are with me still in memory! Love and Light.
I’ve been though things like this before. I think it was easier to me to choose when to put them down. To do it suddenly doesn’t give you the chance to say goodbye. It’s still the hardest thing to do. Sincerest sympathy to you, and your family including your pets. I’ll be crying for you tomorrow. (I’m trying not to right now.)
Ah, I’m so sorry, tasgrs 🙁 I recently had to go through the same experience. My deepest sympathy *Hugs*
I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going thru. I had to do it with Junior (my horse) a little over a week ago, and I think I may have to do the same for Mister (my cat) who’s 14, he just isn’t getting any better, the same exact thing as my horse, no skin pigment and very prone to cancers. His appointment is tomarrow as well but I don’t think I’m going to hear what I want to hear.
I’m having Jennifer do me a feather with my Junior and I may be doing the same with my Mister ( and look up pics of my rottie mix Jed, I just don’t want to OD her). I figure that would be a wonderful memorial to them for me. 😥I’m so sorry to hear about your kitty 🙁 Even if you know you’re doing the right thing, it still hurts, and saying goodbye is difficult no matter how much time you have before the end to do it. I’m sure your little guy knows how much you love him!
I’m so sorry to hear about your kitty. Its sooo not easy knowing that you have to put them down. I had an iguana that had renal failure because his first owners gave him dog food instead of the veggies he needed. I didn’t want to do it but he lapsed into a coma and would just lay there. I had hoped he would pass on his own but after three days of him just laying there I finally called the vet and had him put to sleep. If you know they are suffering its just not right to let it continue. Know that you are doing the right thing even though its so very hard to do.
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