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I’m so sorry to hear that, purpledoggy. But it sounds like you’re handling it right. I’ll be praying for you.
Regarding your concern about having a child when your husband is ill: How does he feel about your being pregnant? Is he happy too? If so, then it’s OK, because you both wanted a baby, and what your child will remember is a happy father. It kind of falls into the category of “take the happiness that offers itself, while it is there”: this is an important thing for a couple, and if time is uncertain then it’s even more important. And nobody knows how long they have. It sure doesn’t make it any easier, to know that your husband’s health is uncertain: that would be a burden for anyone, and I think you’re very brave. I wish I had some more constructive suggestion to make, but all I can say is take care of yourself and your baby. Help your husband by taking away that worry. And talk to him as often as the hospital staff and his need to rest will let you. He’s probably feeling a little isolated too, and knowing that you’re OK will be important to him.
Hang in there. You’ve got lots of family, by ties of blood but also by ties of friendship. If you feel that this isn’t the best time for your blood family to know about the pregnancy, that’s OK. People sometimes lash out at the wrong target when they’re upset and worried. Talk to us chickens instead. I can promise you I won’t do any lashing.
I am very sorry PDiddy 🙁 That is horrible. The worst is not being near him. I hope he gets better soon.
Best wishes to you both. That’s really tough and I know I couldn’t do it. Be strong, we are here for you!
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My art: featherdust.comI’m so sorry to hear about your husband, PD. Just take care of yourself and the baby, and spend whatever time you can with him. Don’t drive if it makes you too tired, just do phone time until you can be with him. I’ll send healing wishes to you and your hubby. Blessed be, and take care. We are all here for you. (I wish I could hug you in person!) *hugs*
purpledoggy, i am saddened to hear about your husbands illness. i am sending warm thoughts your way. stay healthy yourself.
I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. I am so sorry to hear about what’s going on in your life. I know that things will be ok. It might not seem like it now, but with you two decking it out together, it is definitely better than going about it alone. I will pray for you, and I hope you are doing well!
I’ve been talking to my husband all day. It looks like he has developed diabetes and just may have to go active on the transplant list. Its not what I wanted to hear. I asked him how he felt about it and he said excited and scared. He has no quality of life right now with his lung function as bad as it is but its really scarry to think about such a big surgery. He keeps telling me to come and get him since he wants to come home already. He was doing good this morning but his fever came back so he won’t be getting his pic line which he will need if he is to come home. The transplant surgeon is going to talk with him either today or tomorrow. They said they will wait and see how much damage has been caused by this latest infection before they say yes or no. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. It means alot to me.
Looks like he may only be in there for 5 days. One of his doctors just came in and talked to him. They said they think they caught it early and he may only need to stay in the hospital for 5 days then he can go home on iv’s. He won’t be able to get his pic line until Friday since he keeps getting fevers. At least they are offering me some light at the end of the tunnel.
Glad to hear about the Light Visibly shinning through for you PD,:D and the only thing you need be concerned about with that baby is that your Husband and you both want it. And that is all that your child ever needs to truly know, that Both Mom and Dad loved it that much that they were willing to do anything and everything for it. Oh and that you’re looking after yourself, not worrying too much….And stop lifting filled stretchers!! 😆
That’s good to hear. Bad to hear he may have diabetes on top of everything else. Hopefully he can get a transplant soon.
As to your question about whether its right to bring a child into this, knowing his/her father might not be in their life long. Think of it this way, it is no different than the risks anyone else takes when they choose to have a child. You never know what will happen, there could be a car accident, or sudden illness that can take a parent away.
You both wanted this child, and this child will be loved. And when the time does come for your husband to leave you, you will always have that beautiful little person to remember him by, they represent all the love you two have shared and you will always have that.
When it comes time to tell your family, be firm. Tell them you don’t want to hear anything negative about this child. That you and your husband knew what you were doing, and that you both wanted this child very much, regardless of what may happen in the future. You are living for now. You are an adult, and this is your life.
Tell your mom the same thing I told mine. This is my life, these are my choices, and I don’t expect you to approve of my choices, all I ask is that you accept them. And respect my right to make my own decisions. I also told her that if she couldn’t accept my choices, then I would step out of her life.
Accepting isn’t the same as approving, you don’t really need their approval, though it would be nice, all you really need is for them to accept your choices, and to be as supportive as they can.
If they can’t be loving, and supportive, then you don’t need them. Blood relatives or not.
You have friends here, and we will do what we can to help be as emotionally supportive as we can throughout all this.
Kyrin
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