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skigod377 wrote:
I hope the counseling works if you guys go ahead and do it.
We’ve been in counceling for about a year now, the 31st is just our next appointment. it’s been a HARD year. 😳
*Hugs* Crimson…I got a vacuum one year. Talk about a kick in the teeth. I mean I complained aobut the old one, but hey, that is not even a gift really. More of a necessity. And we HAD money that year! LOL
Men don’t think alot of times, so I have found out. I feel sorry for them, as women sometimes I think we feel 75% of the feelings in the relationship or more. To have one who seems to care more about himself hurts us far more than to not have one at all. I’m no doctor, or therapist, but it seems to me, that all relationships struggle from time to time.
Its the guys who say they don’t believe in love that need to be kicked in the ever lovin’ a$$! 😡 😡Hang in there hun, you got more guts than I would! Oh, yeah, BTW…I like the earing idea the best, but if I was in your spot, I’d take his big gift back, and get my yoga game for that Wii he is so proud of getting you. 😉 We do together gifts here. One for the “house” and then seperate ones…When money allows. Usually, Scott has taken me shopping the day after Christmas or maybe 2 days after for my presents. Otherwise, I did my own x-mas shopping for years. 😈 XD Plus, I ALWAYS stuffed stocking for the cats and dogs and Glen and him, and mine always hung empty…I loved the years the small WE’s came out…I stuffed my stocking those years. *evil grin*
Oh, and on the years we cant afford x-mas, we always get something for ourselves when the taxes come back. 🙂Phoenix wrote:So buy him a nice set of diamond earrings! 😀 Or what ever was on your list…
Some times you have to smack them over the head.
How long have you been married/dating?XD 😈 XD That’s one solution I would do!! Diamonds! 😆
We are so sorry and can identify.My ex was like that,I got a shotgun one year when I specifically asked for a nice piece of jewelry.He has no idea how bad I wanted to use it 😈 😆
I solved this problem by making sure I bought myself something nice I wanted for Christmas,wrapped it and put his name on it from him.He learned.Go get the part you want and keep the wii tied up for days,he will begin to see.Smooth manipulation hun 😆
You will be able to enjoy it,he will too AND he will think,maybe,he didn’t screw up too bad since he now knows it upset you so.Nobody wants a gift jaded.Just be sure to set limitations to his use of YOUR Christmas gift. 🙂Every act matters.No matter how small💞
(Wanted......Toaster Dragon)
Male Hearth....one day🤞Dream on.A vacuum…and a shotgun. Well! *laughs* It was funny, but it also reminded me of the times I got nothing at all and would have been happy with either. It took me a long time to figure out I should go for higher caliber men. Not so much money wise, but thoughtful wise.
lamortefille wrote:A vacuum…and a shotgun. Well! *laughs* It was funny, but it also reminded me of the times I got nothing at all and would have been happy with either. It took me a long time to figure out I should go for higher caliber men. Not so much money wise, but thoughtful wise.
OMG—a shotgun from an ex! 😮 😆 Man oh man, talk about a death wish!!! 😆 There’s a crazy picture in my head—wife expecting diemonds and sees a long, long gift wrapped package with her name on it. ‘Merry christmas hon’ says the husband as she unwraps it. She then uses it immediately–scene slowly fades. XD
LadyFirebird wrote:lamortefille wrote:A vacuum…and a shotgun. Well! *laughs* It was funny, but it also reminded me of the times I got nothing at all and would have been happy with either. It took me a long time to figure out I should go for higher caliber men. Not so much money wise, but thoughtful wise.
OMG—a shotgun from an ex! 😮 😆 Man oh man, talk about a death wish!!! 😆 There’s a crazy picture in my head—wife expecting diemonds and sees a long, long gift wrapped package with her name on it. ‘Merry christmas hon’ says the husband as she unwraps it. She then uses it immediately–scene slowly fades. XD
I forgot about that! OMG! I thought the vacuum was a butthole thing to do. 😕 Mi, you kept your cool though cuz I woulda pointed it at him and said, “Why yes Dear! I love my present, and it will come in soooo handy! Next year will you get me a shovel?!”. 👿 Bet he wouldn’t have slept for a month! XD XD
XD Yeah,it is funny,now.At the time I did want him in his grave.It was a dumb move on his part 😆 But I’m cool 8)
Every act matters.No matter how small💞
(Wanted......Toaster Dragon)
Male Hearth....one day🤞Dream on.OMG a vaccuum??? That, I think, takes the ‘terrible gift’ cake! I would have been mad.
I eventually gave up on hints with my 1st hubby. I would send him a pic, a link to the website. Hmmm… and I still got money. Guess ordering on line is too hard. :nea: I think my current hubby would be hurt if I tried to send gift hints. He never asks what I want for Christmas, but I think its kinda sweet that he goes it alone.
I think if men really listened when we mentioned the stuff we like, or point at when we are out, they would be pretty well equipped with information! 😉 I don’t know, sometimes I feel like mine is putting off a perpetual busy signal. 🙄 😈
My dad got my mom a gun for Christmas last year… She was pretty upset as she’s never been into firearms. I told mom to buy him a T-shirt that had a bullseye on the back 😀
She gave it back to him and plainly told him she didn’t want it. They have been married for 25 years… We’re not sure how many more years they’ll make it. He’s a pretty unthoughtful man and selfish and lazy to boot…I’m lucky in that Mike is very thoughtful and the only time he screwed up was my first mother’s day. Patrick was 9 months old and I was 7 months pregnant with Ashley. Major post partum depression and I had told him how hard I was struggling with being a mother and told him that he needed to make Mother’s Day “worth it”… Well MD comes and he told me he didn’t have time to go shopping for me…
I was… really…really mad/hurt/crying… You name it. I just picked up my keys and said “I’m going shopping.” and left. Went to the mall, found a really pretty locket, bought it, took it home, gave it to Mike and said “Finish it.” Meaning take pictures and fill the locket.
He was really apologetic and said he didn’t know how important it was for me. It was hard to imagine he was that daft! It’s hard to get over such hurt when it’s caused by someone you love so much.Phoenix wrote:My dad got my mom a gun for Christmas last year… She was pretty upset as she’s never been into firearms. I told mom to buy him a T-shirt that had a bullseye on the back 😀
She gave it back to him and plainly told him she didn’t want it. They have been married for 25 years… We’re not sure how many more years they’ll make it. He’s a pretty unthoughtful man and selfish and lazy to boot…I’m lucky in that Mike is very thoughtful and the only time he screwed up was my first mother’s day. Patrick was 9 months old and I was 7 months pregnant with Ashley. Major post partum depression and I had told him how hard I was struggling with being a mother and told him that he needed to make Mother’s Day “worth it”… Well MD comes and he told me he didn’t have time to go shopping for me…
I was… really…really mad/hurt/crying… You name it. I just picked up my keys and said “I’m going shopping.” and left. Went to the mall, found a really pretty locket, bought it, took it home, gave it to Mike and said “Finish it.” Meaning take pictures and fill the locket.
He was really apologetic and said he didn’t know how important it was for me. It was hard to imagine he was that daft! It’s hard to get over such hurt when it’s caused by someone you love so much.
No kidding. 🙁A T-shirt with a bullseye in the back–would have loved to seen the expression on his face if she did that–but then–probably wouldn’t think anything of it. My late hubby tried–he really, really did. I’d tell him what I wanted and he’d get something, but it wasn’t quite what I had in mind–I was very young and wasn’t specific but it was close. At least he tried and I didn’t get things like a chainsaw or something! I personally think he felt insecure about shopping for me–men are just not with that sort of thing. But there were times that if we were just kicking about and I saw a pair of earrings I liked, he would get them for me [um, within reason–no Tiffany’s here]. But if you tell them jewelry and they come back with vaccum cleaner–no way–I mean how inconsiderate and stupid is that!
Are there guys this stupid? Can I apologize for the male gender?
We agreed on no gifts this year because of buying the house. It doesn’t matter how much money I have, I always buy one big thing for Tami. One year it was a new computer, another year it was getting her car fixed .. whatever. I spend way more money on myself and it’s the one time out of the three times a year you can be UNselfish.
We’ll open presents tonight and she’ll see nothing for her and she’ll expect it, then I’ll stand her up, whisper in her ear and tell her her present has been right in front of her for the last two weeks … hanging on a ribbon in the tree … the mate ring to the other side of her wedding band.
Of course I’ll get yelled at for buying something in between tears but that’s how it goes. 😛
Oh, and as to the Wii? At the minimum I’d go out and buy the Yoga disc, if not pack the thing up back in the box. That is so overbound I don’t know what to say, other than I’m glad I was raised better.
OMG! It’s a good thing I wasn’t drinking anything when I read this thread, or a new laptop would be on MY list. 😀
Yeah…the Wii was a case of male wishful thinking. Is this the first Christmas/Yule he’s done something like this?I also like the idea of giving him diamond earrings—-as long as HE doesn’t have pierced ears! Seriously, tho…as has been mentioned earlier, the guys just don’t think the way we do. (Think of this as testosterone poisoning; it clouds the thinking. LOL)
I also think that if the yoga game was what you wanted, then you should go and get that when money allows.I have been married to the same guy for almost 24 years, and we were together for over a year before the marriage. Overall, I will say that I am blessed beyond words for the most part and George has learned over the years that jewelery is always safe.
Of course, nothing in this life being perfect, I do have to add this: Where my memory is shaky sometimes at best, HIS is like a steel trap sometimes, and I really need to be very careful when with him about what I “admire” in front of him. Case in point would be the year that I commented on a damned near life-sized stuffed tiger while toy shopping for my niece, who was like 10 at the time. So….Christmas morning comes, and here under the tree is this huge freakin’ bright orange and black tiger–with a bright red bow on its head. WTF do I do with this?? 😕
I pretty much gave up on telling him what I’d like for Christmas, because that didn’t work, either even when I would just flat out TELL him that was what I wanted. Selective memory function linked to the testosterone. Sometimes it just takes a little while to “train” the guys. 😉
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