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I talked to him this morning about what his mom said. I told him she went overboard and that wasn’t called for. He says she is an idiot and he doesn’t listen to half of what she says but I know it still got to him. I hate his mother and I know she thinks she will be taking off a week from work to help him when he gets home from the hospital. This woman has no medical knowledge and every times she opens her mouth to tell the doctors something she just screws it up. She tries to tell the doctors what he does at home for therapy when she has no clue since she never comes over. I just cant’ forgive her for exposing him to second hand smoke for 20 years. I mean if your child had a terminal lung condition wouldn’t you make your boyfriend smoke outside and and least try to learn some medical terms? I made the mistake of letting her give him an enema once when he had a bowel obstruction. I went to get something from downstairs and when I came back she had the enema bag tubbing all the way in when its only supposed to go in an inch or so. How she didn’t puncture his bowels I have no idea. On top of dealing with her my mom has been having a super bipolar moment. I called her to find out why she was yelling at my dad to go over my house and fix some stuff when I wasn’t even going to be there. She started yelling at me on the phone telling me how worthless I am, blah blah blah. I haven’t talked to her since so she has been sending me emails about how sorry she is and how she shouldn’t be stressing me like that. Also our 9 year wedding anniversary was yesterday and I think we both forgot about it. I didn’t know what the date was until I went to work and had to write it down. Oh well I guess we can pretend its today lol.
starbreeze wrote:I know her intentions were good, but that was extremely tactless. 😕
That’s putting it mildly! Of all the stupid things to say…
Purpledoggy, you didn’t forget your anniversary. Subconsciously, you’ve planned a celebration for when you’re both home!
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmI’m sorry to hear how much trouble your mother and mother-in-law is giving you but am glad you are able to let us know how things are. I hope for the best for you, hubby and baby
Wow, that is crazy your mother in law said that to him. I do hope you can find something to motivate him tho…like Emerald suggested.
He did really well today. I had to really push him to get up and walk and he did have a panic attack when we tried to get him out of bed. Once he gets up and going he is fine but for some reason he can’t get past his anxiety about having to get up and move. He was getting ready to walk again when I had to leave to go to work. I hope he will be able to go home some time next week.
Sometimes reverse psychology not only goes too far, but back fires.
Purp- you might mention this to hubby and tell him (if you do) that it is coming from someone that does have an Anxiety Disorder. The disorder would make many think the person is just always nervous when in fact, Im AWESOME under high pressure situations. It’s when Im sitting in bed surrounded by kitties and loved ones, doing nothing but watching something so benign as The Brady Bunch, for example, that BLAM! And attack will hit for no reason.
Among my symptoms, is a huge uncontrollable adrenaline rush. My unconscious and body has unfortunately learned to associate feelings of adrenaline, even when normal & appropriate, with the attacks. So, when normal adrenaline comes into play, my mind will link it to an attack and since they are what I fear most, I’ll work myself right into one in seconds.
With regards to your hubby, being what he’s just been through, more adrenaline may be needed to do things we take for granted such as rising from bed. It’s impossible to have an anxiety attack without a racing heart and adrenaline rush. So, his unconscious might be doing what mine does and asscociate the natural adrenaline he is feeling when he now must do anything more than lay in bed, and take it to an attack level. Does this make sense? I know to those not afflicted you may think it’s mind over matter to solve this vicious cycle, but believe me, Ive worked on it for years. Gotten better but there is no cure or quick fix. You can conquer it but it’s not across the board for everyone.
Good luck and glad he had a decent day. Dont forget about you and get some physical and mental rest!
Hugs and in my heart & thoughts xoxoGood. I’m glad he got up and is walking again. Is he afraid he’s going to shake his new lungs loose by walking around? I think surgeons usually do a better job of that. 😀 I hope he’s well enough to come home soon, and the panic attacks go away. I had those for a while in college and got PAC/PVCs (heart palpatations) from it that triggered the asthma that I didn’t know I had. It was scarey not being able to breathe and feeling my heart skipping in my chest. Once I found out it was anxiety, I could convince myself to calm down. Finishing that semester helped too. I’ll send healing and calming thoughts to both of you. 🙂
Wishing you 3 the best of luck. Wlaking os good for him.
Did you ever tell us why his lungs where in such bad shape? You might have but I can’t rememberI just got a call from the hospital that hubby went into afib with rvr again (rapid heart beat). They said they can’t seem to break it so they may send him back to icu. I’m waiting for someone to come and releave me at work so I can leave and go up there. I won’t be able to update until tomorrow at the earliest.
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