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emerald212 wrote:dragonessjade wrote:Dragon Master wrote:
I would keep bringing the person talked about directly to the person doing the talking EVERY TIME it happens eventually the game will be over and she will stop. I would also confront her with things like we DO NOT have to tell the entire office when WE get food, and when asked why you do not eat at your own desk ask her what difference it makes to her where you eat. Eventually she will see that you are not going to take any crap from her and hoepfully she will stop. I woudl also ask her if her arms and legs where broken when asking you to get paper for any printer.
Ig you have ever seen Florence on the Jefferson’s THAT is how you should handle things.
Yes, I will take it into consideration. I haven’t seen Florence on the Jeffersons. Is that a comedy movie?It’s an old TV show. In fact, I think it was a spin-off of All in the Family that we talked about before. Florence was the maid and she lipped off every chance she got. Most of the time she watched TV and ate the Jeffersons’ food.
I will have to see if I can find it somewhere. I will give you a tv show and character that this person reminds me of. Have you watched Keeping Up Apperances on the BBC? My co-worker is the bucket woman to the T.If you have to deal with someone who makes you uncomfortable, the best thing to do is make them feel uncomfortable.
Maybe the next time she talks to you, talk to her back in a really loud voice. Don’t yell, just loudly converse with her… Something like “WHAT’S THAT YOU SAY? XXX SAID WHAT ABOUT WHO?” or “SURE I’LL BE HAPPY TO PUT PAPER IN THE COPY MACHINE”.Always use eye contact. Don’t look away first. This is most important. People get really uncomfortable if eye contact is held for any length of time. It’s a dominance thing.
Also, depending on what part of the country you are from, breeching personal space is a big way to make someone uncomfortable. If the person you are talking with is from the country, they have a larger personal space zone than someone from the city. This usually means your comfort zone will be invaded, but stand your ground.
When you make someone like this uncomfortable, they will start to avoid you. Then you can really have fun! And the best thing is, is no one else is any the wiser. It’s not something she can go to a supervisor and complain about because it’s just body language.
haha, that is good. Don’t say anything, but use your body language. If they do go to the supervisor then you can say, I didn’t say anything. 😆
Ooh. Another good body language trick…
This helps you know who thinks of her as an ally.
When you are in a meeting or a group setting. Look to see how she is sitting. Say she is sitting in between two people. Her body will naturally lean towards who she thinks of as a friend/ally. Now if the person she is leaning towards is leaning away from her, good chance that that person doesn’t care for her. BUT if that person is leaning towards her, watch out and be careful what you say around that person as well.When your coworker is talking to you and telling you gossip, watch what her hands and eyes do. If she says something and her hands go to her mouth, good chance she’s lying. If she says something and her eyes drift towards her left, good chance she’s making up stories.
You have to test this because there’s like 10% of people out there that are oppisite to this. To test her, ask her something like “Do you remember that girl that delivered that package a year ago” or something that will make her work to remember. When she thinks about it or answers, take note which side her eyes went to when she thought about it. Most people will look up and to the right if they are being truthful. If they are stalling to think of a “story/lie” often they will look up and to the left.In casual conversation if someone makes a statement that is not true, their eyes will tend to go down and to the left.
Fun stuff!
Phoenix wrote:Ooh. Another good body language trick…
This helps you know who thinks of her as an ally.
When you are in a meeting or a group setting. Look to see how she is sitting. Say she is sitting in between two people. Her body will naturally lean towards who she thinks of as a friend/ally. Now if the person she is leaning towards is leaning away from her, good chance that that person doesn’t care for her. BUT if that person is leaning towards her, watch out and be careful what you say around that person as well.When your coworker is talking to you and telling you gossip, watch what her hands and eyes do. If she says something and her hands go to her mouth, good chance she’s lying. If she says something and her eyes drift towards her left, good chance she’s making up stories.
You have to test this because there’s like 10% of people out there that are oppisite to this. To test her, ask her something like “Do you remember that girl that delivered that package a year ago” or something that will make her work to remember. When she thinks about it or answers, take note which side her eyes went to when she thought about it. Most people will look up and to the right if they are being truthful. If they are stalling to think of a “story/lie” often they will look up and to the left.In casual conversation if someone makes a statement that is not true, their eyes will tend to go down and to the left.
Fun stuff!
Wow, that is nice to know and very interesting. Haha, I am gonnna try this next week (thankfully she is only at work Mon-Thur).So, Pheonix, besides being my new special arms dealer, you’ll be able to make me a secret agent in NO time! ROFL 😈
LOL, I’m not a secret agent. I don’t have to travel for what I do.
It’s just a matter of opening your conscience and taking note of what others are doing.
Do you know how many US agents would have been caught by the Germans had they just looked at how the men were crossing thier legs? It’s easy to fake accents and papers, but it’s hard to change something that’s unconscience!Plus it’s fun! I love my job!
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