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I’m sorry PD, That sucks that your family is like that to you. I can relate, my younger brother is the favorite, and my Mom does things for him and then rubs it in my face, she thinks it’s funny. Family sucks sometimes!! At least you get free food!!
Go, have a good time, congradulate your brother and his new wife, and ignore your parents.
Remind me to send my Mom a really terrific Mother’s Day card would ya…cause after hearing about your mother, I know I lucked out big time.
*hugs*
Kyrin
*grin* My mum keeps encouraging me to elope. For all sorts of reasons, it would be less complicated than arranging a wedding!
But I have no siblings, so I’m lucky like that.
*hug*
I shouldn’t have gone to the dinner, all it did was make me feel worse. My mom made it a point to tell me she paid for my brother and his wife to honeymoon for a week in the Bahamas. She was telling everyone how happy she was for them to get married and how she wants lots of pictures of them by the blue ocean. At my wedding she was late, refused to come to the rehearsal or dinner, never did an announcement for me or even video tape my wedding. She told me to make sure I bring the video camera tomorrow so she can videotape the wedding and brought copies of the wedding announcement she put in the paper to pass around for everyone to see. Plus she got her future daughter a diamond necklace (she left the price tag attached so everyone would know how much she spent). It all just made me feel so sick that I congratulated my brother and his wife and left early. I just didn’t feel like putting myself in that situation any longer.
I’m so sorry to hear that your mother is being such a rotten person. I can’t remember if you are part of the wedding party or not, but if you aren’t I would go for the ceremony tomorrow, congratulate your brother and his bride and then leave so you don’t have to deal with her more than you have to. You shouldn’t punish your brother by not going for her bad behavior.
we have no problem what so ever with her brother and wife , we go places with them and like them alot. Its her mother forcing donw PD’s throat how much she has done for her brother and how she welcomes her new daughter inlaw in her family while she just tells PD to divorce me bacause of my cf . The beast threw down the Jamacia stuff in front of me and says this “look what i bought them arent i generious , it had the price of the trip on the outside of the folder and she made sure i saw it . I just hate how they treat PD like a plauge , when they did finally show to our wedding it looked like they wore what ever was in the closet ..her grandfather wore a plad flannel shirt . It really is sad to the point i am thinking of not allowing Alyssa over her house , i dont want her to hear what she has donr for PDs brothers kids and what she will never see, i have been through that it hurts
Necron99 wrote:we have no problem what so ever with her brother and wife , we go places with them and like them alot. Its her mother forcing donw PD’s throat how much she has done for her brother and how she welcomes her new daughter inlaw in her family while she just tells PD to divorce me bacause of my cf . The beast threw down the Jamacia stuff in front of me and says this “look what i bought them arent i generious , it had the price of the trip on the outside of the folder and she made sure i saw it . I just hate how they treat PD like a plauge , when they did finally show to our wedding it looked like they wore what ever was in the closet ..her grandfather wore a plad flannel shirt . It really is sad to the point i am thinking of not allowing Alyssa over her house , i dont want her to hear what she has donr for PDs brothers kids and what she will never see, i have been through that it hurts
I don’t see any reason why Alyssa has to be around PD’s mom, so I support that decision. I myself will never let Chloe see my dad or step-mom (despicable people that they are-If I wrote down what they have been doing over the last few months, I would have to write a book).
I think it’s great that you still enjoy spending time with PD’s brother. So many people would take PD’s Mom’s terrible behaviour out on him too. I wouldn’t want Alyssa to be around her evil influence either. Go to the wedding, as Peg suggested, just long enough for PD’s brother to know you share his joy and then come home. I’m sure Alyssa could give you an excuse or two if you feel you need them.
What a stinking B#$CH!! I wouldn’t let Alyssa anywhere need her for fear of her catching the b@tchiness.
I do however agree that you should go to your brother’s wedding though. For his sake. Just ignore your mother.
Some people are just mean. She’s just rubbing it in your face for whatever glee she gets out of it (or however her mind perceives it). I agree. Go to the wedding, especially since you are both on good terms with your brother. You are there for him, not her. No one has to attend a reception (other than the bride & groom and the wedding party of course!). The wedding is the main event anyways 🙂
This is from my mother:
I am a middle child. I was in my thirties when my mother told me that my older sister was my father’s favorite and my younger sister was her heart. It took me years to deal with that, and then I realized I had my own family. I begin to deny them the pleasure of my company. It got to the point where I was out of touch for so long that my mother would call me and curse me for not staying in better touch. I would tell her that I felt that I was being a pest and perhaps they needed some time away from me. I am at peace now. Remember, everything happens for a reason.
Regarding the wedding: attend and get out of dodge as soon as you can. If you can get out of videotaping do so, wish them well, and get the hell out of there! Said with much love.
My mother has a way with words! Purpledoggy, we’re sorry you have to go through this. Keep in mind it will be over soon.
starbreeze wrote:Go give Alyssa a big hug. She’s better than any diamond necklace.
Yup, and Danny, too. Your mother is a nutbar and I really think she hates that you are happy! Don’t give her ANY satisfaction. Go to the wedding and have some fun. Don’t hurt your brother and his new wife by not being there. You are such a strong person…you’ve been through so much and made it through just fine. Someday your mom will be gone and you will all be sitting around discussing what a conniving, petty, sad woman she really was. Sorry, I don’t mean to talk trash about your mom, but really….it seems she lives to hurt you.
lamortefille wrote:starbreeze wrote:Go give Alyssa a big hug. She’s better than any diamond necklace.
Yup, and Danny, too. Your mother is a nutbar and I really think she hates that you are happy! Don’t give her ANY satisfaction. Go to the wedding and have some fun. Don’t hurt your brother and his new wife by not being there. You are such a strong person…you’ve been through so much and made it through just fine. Someday your mom will be gone and you will all be sitting around discussing what a conniving, petty, sad woman she really was. Sorry, I don’t mean to talk trash about your mom, but really….it seems she lives to hurt you.
before she leaves i hope she is happy inthe thought that she will be a ward of the state when she can no longer take care of herself, not even pds brother is gonna take her because he knows her games
Ok so the rehersal dinner might have been bad but the wedding was wonderful! I can’t imagine what they paid for the whole thing but my brother and his wife sure did everything right. The ceremony was wonderful. Everyone looked so nice and the vows were short and didn’t say anything about God only about them (I hate weddings where all they do is preach). They had everything at this beautiful bed and breakfast. We had a good time and Alyssa got passed around to everyone. I kind of felt bad because it seemed everyone was paying too much attention to Alyssa and not the bride. I wanted to stay longer but we had to go since it was Alyssa’s bed time and I didn’t want to screw up her schedule. I think part of the reason I had such a good time was I ignored everything my mom had to say. I think the one thing that really got to me was they had a little note on each one of the tables saying they donated to the american cancer and heart societies instead of having wedding favors. They did it in honor of the brides parents who both passed away and our grandparents who both died of cancer. I thought that was so sweet and I never in a million years would have thought of that.
My brother and his new bride
a not so great picture of us
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