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well my evil mother called me today..turns out my sister is coming out to see her here in ca after 6 years..and this honestly terrifies me..let me fill you in on how both my mother and my sister are so you all understand why i wish i where in hiding right now..my sister in 35 years old..built like an ox and is a cop in toledo ohio and also an EMT..her reasoning for being both..and this is what she said “well if i shoot someone i can patch them up to shoot them again” she also tends to be extremely critical of me and how i live my life and snarky and sarcastic beyond beleife oh and did i forget to mention she tends to just drop by unnanounced at times? during very inoportune moments?..now..my mother..she likes to try to rule my life every moment she can..mind you im going to be 25 next month but she still doesnt get the fact i am an adult now..she says im too immature to know what im doing with my life and that i blew my one chance at true happiness and success when i got kicked from the military..not to mention if i dont dress how SHE wants me too she makes me strip at her house and dress in what she deems ” appropriate” also she critisizes me at every damn turn..causing me more stress then i can handle and making me feel guilty about everything i do…now i try to avoide seeing these two banes of my existance as much as possible but i seem to be failing miserably..right now i dont really know what to do besides give in..go see them and pray i dont kill either of them><
Methinks you should have something needing your urgent attention out of town.
Confront them and tell them off. Then again, from what I read, it just might fall into deaf ear. 🙁
S’wrong with the way you dress? You look just fine & stylish on the show-your-picture thread 😀
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmdragonmedley wrote:Methinks you should have something needing your urgent attention out of town.
Confront them and tell them off. Then again, from what I read, it just might fall into deaf ear. 🙁
S’wrong with the way you dress? You look just fine & stylish on the show-your-picture thread 😀
they wont buy the out of town excuse again :/ and yeah they never listen to me at all and i know i dress just bloody fine but my mother is a (insert vile words here) and she wants me to be what she wants me to be…i really really dislike them
dragonmedley wrote:Methinks you should have something needing your urgent attention out of town.
I agree, this sounds like it should be just between your sister and mother anyways.
I would help but I am just to tired to get out of bed today~
Engaged to a WeaselBiPolarBear wrote:dragonmedley wrote:Methinks you should have something needing your urgent attention out of town.
I agree, this sounds like it should be just between your sister and mother anyways.
they wish to include me-_- i think them putting me down brings them closer together or something…
After listening to all the horror stories on here about relationships with your mothers, all I have to say is that I’m glad I get along with mine. Although I have to say that it wasn’t always like that. When I was a young adult it was much harder, and she snooped into my business all the time. Now that I have a (step)daughter who is 15, I can see why Mom did that. If Meg ever moves closer to us, I’m going to be in her beezwax all the time! 😆
Whether they buy the out of town excuse or not, whether you choose to see them is really up to you. If you live in your own place, you really don’t have to see them. You could always visit/stay with a friend for a few days, not answer the phone etc. You can always just say, no. If they ask, you can tell them why. As bad as it sounds, I’ve hung up on my mother and one of my brothers before when they were getting unreasonable. They weren’t listening and had it in their own heads what they wanted to hear. I’ve screened my calls when I’ve been very busy or just too tired or upset to be bothered with people. I did this a lot in college, or I’d mute my phone. My housemate couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t answer the phone the minute it rang all the time (I’d let it go to the answering machine). I’d call people back eventually (if it was warranted) or just catch them at the next class/meeting/etc. Sometimes you just need to do it for stress/sanity/piece of mind and need a break from the drama. Sometimes you just have to stick to your guns! 8) Then again, I adore my privacy and like escaping from the world for a day or two every now and again.
siberakh1 wrote:I’d mute my phone. My housemate couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t answer the phone the minute it rang all the time (I’d let it go to the answering machine). I’d call people back eventually (if it was warranted) or just catch them at the next class/meeting/etc. Sometimes you just need to do it for stress/sanity/piece of mind and need a break from the drama. Sometimes you just have to stick to your guns! 8) Then again, I adore my privacy and like escaping from the world for a day or two every now and again.
That’s how I feel….I am on the phone or talk to people all day for a living…sometimes I screen my calls with caller id or the ans machine…and call back when I feel like.
It doesn’t mean you don’t love em….but you have to live your own life!!! and you are way to old for your mamma to tell you what to wear!!!! Maybe they will treat you different if you don’t speak to them for a bit….and make it known why.
Dracomancer wrote:they wish to include me-_- i think them putting me down brings them closer together or something…
Don’t you feel special? 😈
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmWell dad-blast them both anyway. 😡 You’re an adult, and it’s not OK for them to treat you like you’re twelve. They might think that Draco-pounding is some kind of bonding experience, but that doesn’t make it right. I’d say avoid that meeting like the plague. I know that’s easier said than done. But if they can’t behave themselves decently, then they can’t have the honor of your company.
One-on-one, either of them would be easier to deal with. Having both of them present at the same time? NO WAY. I’ve been backed into a corner by two aggressive angry people working as a team, and it was a highly unpleasant experience. And you don’t have to justify your decision to them, either. It’s OK to simply decline the invitation with no explanation. But if it would make it easier, how about having your friends arrange something that will keep you “busy” for a week or so?
Well, with your sister being a cop and you being kicked out of the military, it sounds like your personalities are just totally opposite. I wish I had some good advice… I think the buisness out of town is a good one 😆
I think it was Ski that said (a long time ago), people will only do to you what you allow them to do…or something like that…
If confrontation doesn’t work, avoid them like the plague… 😉
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