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skigod377 wrote:
Slap her. She is supposed to be your friend?? Whatev!! A friend would not discount your wishes and damage your stuff like that. You should not have to buy more furniture to keep an ADULT from touching things. Sounds like she is selfish and self centered. I would not allow someone like that at my house anymore. And I still think you should slap her.
😆 That’s fantastic, Ski. I know you didn’t mean it to be funny, but I thought about it and the mental image of the look on her face if I were to actually slap her had me crying with laughter. Hmm… she’s bigger than me, though, by a long shot. Were we to get into it in my itty bitty room the entire bookcase would probably fall on us 😆 Thanks for that, it made my morning.
Tyrrlin wrote:I had one of the Pearl griffin chicks sitting on my desk at work. Some joker would come into the building (which only a few of us have keys to that specific building) and move the stuff on my desk around…including the Windstone. The first time, I laughed it off, even though NO ONE could tell me who did it (which I find really surprising as the Supply area HAS to be kept under watch). But it kept happening…I would find the Pearl chick placed in a drawer, or sitting on the windowsill, or put under the desk on my computer tower. (Walking in to my office to discover the chick missing just about gave me a heart attack that first time, I tell you)
Another one of my friends (one who asks and handles nicely!) is in love with my butternut poad. One day she decided to “borrow” him as a joke… I thought I might die, since I didn’t know she had been over and couldn’t find the poad. She came over when I wasn’t home and Mom thought it was so funny she let her walk out with it 🙄
Megani-chan wrote:skigod377 wrote:Slap her. She is supposed to be your friend?? Whatev!! A friend would not discount your wishes and damage your stuff like that. You should not have to buy more furniture to keep an ADULT from touching things. Sounds like she is selfish and self centered. I would not allow someone like that at my house anymore. And I still think you should slap her.
😆 That’s fantastic, Ski. I know you didn’t mean it to be funny, but I thought about it and the mental image of the look on her face if I were to actually slap her had me crying with laughter. Hmm… she’s bigger than me, though, by a long shot. Were we to get into it in my itty bitty room the entire bookcase would probably fall on us 😆 Thanks for that, it made my morning.Ah! She is bigger than you, too?! That puts a new spin on it. It Sounds like she has a total bully complex. She is jealous, as the other members pointed out, and she is pushing you around. From the outside looking in, it looks like she is just bullying you and is not a real friend. I hope she offers more to the relationship, though damaging your stuff is still not excusable.
That’s part of what I don’t get about this whole situation… usually she is a great friend, and we’ve never had a real fight. We hardly ever even disagree, with the one exception sometimes being that attitude of hers. So she’s not nearly as bad as she sounds, believe me 🙂 I can have an attitude myself when push comes to shove, so I know better than to get stuck in any sort of abusive relationship 😈
Megani-chan wrote:Tyrrlin wrote:I had one of the Pearl griffin chicks sitting on my desk at work. Some joker would come into the building (which only a few of us have keys to that specific building) and move the stuff on my desk around…including the Windstone. The first time, I laughed it off, even though NO ONE could tell me who did it (which I find really surprising as the Supply area HAS to be kept under watch). But it kept happening…I would find the Pearl chick placed in a drawer, or sitting on the windowsill, or put under the desk on my computer tower. (Walking in to my office to discover the chick missing just about gave me a heart attack that first time, I tell you)
Another one of my friends (one who asks and handles nicely!) is in love with my butternut poad. One day she decided to “borrow” him as a joke… I thought I might die, since I didn’t know she had been over and couldn’t find the poad. She came over when I wasn’t home and Mom thought it was so funny she let her walk out with it 🙄
You’ve got to be kidding….I get furious if mine are even moved…if one went missing I would be on a tirade and the offender would be banned from my house…windstones are not toys. 👿
I think it’s the sparkle factor. They are bright, shiney, and not behind glass. I guess that makes people think they can be messed with 🙄 I will be so glad when I get a curio!
We had a little talk after the poad incident, believe me. Like, what if she had taken it and something happened to it, would she be willing to pay $100 to replace it? She got the message. Poad and dragon visits are now firmly restricted to my house only.
Megani-chan wrote:I think it’s the sparkle factor. They are bright, shiney, and not behind glass. I guess that makes people think they can be messed with 🙄 I will be so glad when I get a curio!
We had a little talk after the poad incident, believe me. Like, what if she had taken it and something happened to it, would she be willing to pay $100 to replace it? She got the message. Poad and dragon visits are now firmly restricted to my house only.
That’s good to hear. Poads are so rare, comparitively, and so special. I hope your mom doens’t allow any more “disappearances”.
Windstone collector in remission. 😉
I missed this whole dicussion, but everybody – especially Ski 😆 – gave sound advice. I hope your Windstones don’t suffer any more rough handling.
Greater Basilisk wrote:I missed this whole dicussion, but everybody – especially Ski 😆 – gave sound advice. I hope your Windstones don’t suffer any more rough handling.
Thanks, GB 🙂 So far, no more incidents since the first post… there’s been company once, and I made sure to keep my door closed and everyone in the kitchen. I was making cookies at the time, so that helped, I think. And there was a partially finished PYO kirin on the table that they got to “ooh” and “aah” over, too.
I got to thinking that for Christmas there could just be a massive PYO party at my place. Everyone seems to have their favorite PYO sculpt, so I could just get a different one for everybody and let them have at it–away from my production pieces! Then they’ll have a (relatively cheap) Windstone that they designed to keep for their very own. Maybe that will take some of the awe away from my collection.
Thoughts, anybody?
If it’s feasible sit outside. If not, then sit at the kitchen table. But, I personally wouldn’t let her near my Windstones. I don’t mind the occasional touchy-feely person fingering them, but to my advantage most of them have heard me talk aobut them and they are very careful. No one wants to replace something they break. 😆
Everyone here has had really good advice and suggestions. I just want to chime in and agree that you’re not being rude or out of line to keep this gal out of your room. She has repeatedly proven that she can’t respect your wishes. So, no Windstone access for her. The PYO party is a great idea, although a twitchy part of me is afraid that someone might want a production Windstone out “to look at and make sure I paint mine right,” and it could get broken or have paint splattered on it. Maybe have a selection of photos around for inspiration instead, or even have people bring their own photos. They aren’t going to understand about Windstone copyright, so avoiding the whole issue–and protecting your own pieces!–is better.
I’m sorry that your friend has chosen to act out this way. I suspect that she is deliberately hitting what she knows is a sore spot with you. That is just plain no good. Something else may be going on in her life, but that doesn’t give her cause to damage your nice things. The fact that she picks up a Windstone while declaiming about troubles in her life tells me that she’s doing it to make sure she has your full attention while she talks. Not cool. And claiming that her ADD “prevents” her from remembering your requests? Hogwash. She can remember things that are important just fine, or she wouldn’t be able to function in day-to-day life. By pretending that your requests aren’t important enough to stick in her memory, she is being hurtful.
Protect your Windstones, and take some stress off of yourself. Keep an eye on this gal; she’s picked up some behaviors that aren’t exactly worthy of a friend. You clearly value her and her friendship, and she is much luckier than she knows to have a friend like you. But protect yourself and your Windstones. One of the hard things about people is that people change, and sometimes in unexpected directions. 🙁
I have a very good friend who is extremely similar, so I completely empathize with you. I think the plan to keep her out of your room is a good one. Its unfortunate that you have to do that… but you gotta protect yourself. Its like dealing with a little kid who can’t help themself… you can’t reason with them, so best to just keep the valuables out of harm’s way.
Everyone has their good points and bad points. My friend who is like that… ugh, sometimes she is such a self-centered manipulative person. 🙁 I hate to say that about her, but its true sometimes. I’ve learned some hard lessons about never lending her money, lol. But in other ways she’s a really good friend. Very loyal and fun to be around. In fact she was the only friend of mine who came through during the darkest days of my life. Also…I KNOW I have my own weird personality quirks too (we all do), and she is patient with me about them. I guess one part of being true friends with a person, is knowing their bad side and their good side, but liking each other anyway. 🙂 She’s lucky to have a friend like you, who will be patient with her when she’s being so difficult!
The paint-your-own-party sounds like lots of fun! If you could afford it, I’d say go for it. 🙂
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