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I have no advice or suggestions for you, Snap.
All I can say is Thank God you were not successful. The world would be a poorer place without you. And I am very sorry for your pain.
Sorry to hear about all the sadness. *hugs*
It sounds like you know what you should. The hard part is breaking the ties. I think there’s always a bond with your first relationship, but the time comes when you have to move on. It sounds like your ex will continue to lean on you unless you make it a permanent break. It may feel like you’re letting her down, but you have to let her move on as well.
And above all else, if you have a relationship with Tami that you want to keep, you need to put her before your ex. If Tami feels that she is losing you, then you may end up losing her. Be careful what you dwell on and don’t take for granted the person that is waiting in the background for you.
I agree with the others that say remain anonymous in contributing to, or buying, the headstone.
And always hang in there. Tomorrow is another day to give it the world another try. *hugs*
Pinky: “Gee Brain, what do you want to do tonight?”
The Brain: “The same thing we do every night, Pinky- try to take over the world.”I’m so sorry Snap for the bad events in your life. But know you are lucky to be loved. Cut your ties with the ex (I know that that is easier said then done) and the donation thing sounds pretty good.
AdaraSky wrote:I’m so sorry Snap for the bad events in your life. But know you are lucky to be loved. Cut your ties with the ex (I know that that is easier said then done) and the donation thing sounds pretty good.
I agree with AdaraSky and other members.
You should learn to put the ex in the past and live a healthy relationship with Tami. Sounds like she loves you no matter what and she gives of herself. The ex only takes advantage of you and your sentiments toward her. She know you still care for her and uses it to her own advantage. Cut your past with her. I know it won’t be easy since you seam to still have feelings for her. But you definitly need closure on that relationship.
Move on, change Phone # if you have too.
Good luck on whatever you deside to do. 😉
Take your happiness seriously.If I bought a headstone she would have to be involved. It has to have permission of the plot owner to be installed. Thinking more about it, I’m sure her mother is the actual plot owner and hates my guts so that pretty much solves it there. Screw it. I can’t save the world.
I have no advice, I’m unfortunately been on both sides of the fence. I’m just sorry you’re hurting. And please know that we love you.
No you can’t save the world, but you can save yourself. Do what you think is right.
Yup, you can only save yourself.
Thank you for sharing all of that with us. I have been on both sides of situations like that, too, so I have no tomatoes to throw.
There are reasons why she is your ex, right? Has she changed at all over the years and/or is she willing to change or at least meet you half way? Some people can’t/won’t change and it’s best to let them go and move forward with your life. I’m sure she will always have a place in your heart no matter what. Are you in love with the memories, etc. or are you in love with the person she is now?
I feel bad about the baby not having a headstone, but if it was my baby I would be working 2 jobs or whatever until I could afford one. Even a plaque would be better than nothing.
Best of luck with the whole situation. You have a lot of thinking to do.
The garden where she is buried has restrictions on what can be placed, and in this area it has to be a certain height, no flat markers, no stubbies.
Snapdragon wrote:The garden where she is buried has restrictions on what can be placed, and in this area it has to be a certain height, no flat markers, no stubbies.
Ah, I see. The cemeteries and memorial parks down here have restrictions, too…even to the point of plastic vs. real flowers. 🙄
lamortefille wrote:Snapdragon wrote:The garden where she is buried has restrictions on what can be placed, and in this area it has to be a certain height, no flat markers, no stubbies.
Ah, I see. The cemeteries and memorial parks down here have restrictions, too…even to the point of plastic vs. real flowers. 🙄
My grandpa’s cemetary has strict restrictions of the real versus fake flowers too. You aren’t allowed to put real flowers on a plot and the fake ones are discouraged and removed as soon as the color starts to bleach from them. He’s buried in Arizona, so the real ones die immediately and the fake ones bleach very quickly.
I’m sorry you’re in this situation Snap just do what you feel you need to.
I need to organize a Windstone convention so you can all smother me with love and make me forget about stupid people that I shouldn’t bother with.
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Where in reality that would probably just scare me off but hey we can all be bold behind a keyboard
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