Mid-Life Crisis!!!!

[Rusti]

That I’ll have nieces and nephews is pretty much a given. My sister is getting married next year and wants kids eventually, my brother is already married and will almost inevitably also have kids (although I think my sister in law is satisfied with their blonde, fourlegged Marley clone right now).

So I’ll have underlings to pass things on to. If I live that long. ;P

[dragonmedley]

I never wanted kids either. Fact is, if we’d planned on getting pregnant, I don’t think we’d have children even now! I was too scared. However, we did have a happy accident. We’ve been hounded by family and coworkers on when we’d have another one: never!

I love my daughter and couldn’t live without her now. No regrets, but no siblings either.

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[siberakh1]

I have no fear of pain, but I have medical issues personally. Having a kid could very realistically kill me, or, if I survived having one, I’d not last caring for an infant (if the birth didn’t kill me, this would… not a joke). I also have never found human infants cute. I’ve babysat, substitute taught (I do like teaching, though I prefer junior high). Now I do have the protective instinct. If I’m supposed to watch over or guard something/someone, I do so very much like a guard dog and will protect it with my life. I’ve never been a very touchy feely person and I get more enjoyment out of cuddling my dogs and any other pet I’ve had than a ‘people’. Maybe I’m just wired for dealing with critters! *laughs* The few times people have been ‘here! Hold my baby!, including relatives, I’m just like,’ um, ok… now what?’ I might as well have been handed a rock (though yes, I know much about childrearing from my mom and watching my nephews grow up and from babysitting, know how to and will comfort a child, etc.). I try to weasel out of it if I can, or at least put my best face on, so as not to offend those who just don’t understand. I feel very much like a fish out of water doing so, and not in a correctible or ‘need to get used to’ way. I just have no instinct or interest in childrearing of human children. I’ll raise anything but them it would seem *lol*. yes, I swear I wasn’t raised by wolves, though my mom does wonder *laughs* I do keep the option open of tripping over and finding someone I like *wink* someday, but I’m not actively looking either. I’m happy being single and quite satisfied if I do not ever find anyone, and they would have to not really want children either. This I seem to get more weird reactions on than anything else!

That being said, I hold anyone who is a good parent with a lot of respect for what they do. It is a tough job and a very different sort of satisfaction than what I need/want/desire.

This doesn’t rule out that I might not consider adoption or foster of an older child someday, as I see it very akin to teaching, but it isn’t something very high on the priority list.

I guess I’m biased on this one, but my vote is for the puppy! 😆 8)

[Tara]

I don’t really want kids either. Sometimes I think my body does, but I don’t. When I hearing a crying child it drives me up the walls 🙄 (especially on the bus). I just want to stangle something 😳 , the baby crying or better yet the the mom who just ignores the baby :spank: (it doesn’t help I have somewhat sensitive ears and shrill noises bother me). I don’t find human babies all that cute either and I don’t really like holding them either. It’s not that I have anything against kids in general and sometimes they can be cute, I’m just not much of a people person and I prefer my peace and quiet. For all you Moms (and Dads) I applode you cause you have do what I don’t … the patience and tolerance to put up with kids. 8)

[Shawna]

Phoenix wrote:

I Think you’re right Kyrin… About the crying.
I would go mental when the kids cried. Absolutely went to anxiety attacks when Patrick had colic. I never had fun when they were babies because of it. I always was thinking “when are they going to cry again”…
Then I read an article about parents vs. singles.
The article basically said society has made it so crying babies or children are frowned upon. But kids cry. Plain and simple. Kids cry. Wow. Just a simple sentence and I was like freed! LOL.
We never took the kids out to restaraunt or movies until we were sure they wouldn’t disturb other people. I wish I had calmed down sooner and enjoyed the kids when they were babies. I think that more than anything is what’s making me want another one.
Oh well. I know it won’t happen, so I just have to wait for grandkids!

Two things I’ve learned as a mom, one, kids cry…two, everything washes…just a matter of figuring out how to wash it! LOL! Three, kids and messes go together, this one works with pets too.

Kyrin

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