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So, two rounds of mediation and we’re at a stand still. The hearing is next thursday so we’ll see if I’m homeless or not. In the mean time I’ve found a temporary job at the LDS Film Studio here in Provo, Utah. BEST JOB EVER! Wish it could be permanent but since me boyohs are in Idaho that’s where I need to be. Next round of mediation is set for three weeks out. Rod want to give me one lump sum of cash, no equity from the house, no maintanence or alimony and $1,800.00 for child support until the boys turn 18 in a 14 months. I’m just so tired of it all. During the last 16 months I’ve spent 4 days a week in Idaho and 3 days a week in Utah. I’m tired of traveling and just thinking of all that wasted travel time and gas makes me mad. He could’ve tried a little harder to make things work instead of just giving up.
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That’s tough, no one needs that kind of pain and aggravation. I’m sorry you have to go through this, and I hope you and your boys can move on from this soon.
Oh TDM I glad you found a job you like so much! Maybe it will turn into more! *hugs*.
And I’m so sorry you’re going through all this. What your ex wants seems pretty unresonable. In this day and age you don’t get to walk out of a 20+ year marriage scott free. You contributed to the marriage (even if it wasn’t monitarily) so should be entitled to something! Hang in there girl! *hugs*
I actually disagree that you didn’t contribute monetarily. If you cared for the boys when they were small and ran the household when they were in school, you contributed to the financial well being of the household. He can’t just walk away and claim that you didn’t contribute and provide nothing to you. He’s being a bad actor, and there’s something not good going on. He seems WAAAAY too suddenly eager to be rid of you without any strings. No way. You don’t deserve that!
So, we had the hearing and Rod was ordered to release funds so I could rent an apartment. I’m moving around the 8th of Nov. He hadn’t told the boys anything about it so I did. I have two boyohs who are barely speaking to their dad. The judge also awarded me custody four days a week and Rod three but is allowing the boyohs to have a say where they want to stay and when. The judge also appointed a receiver to our case. Rod is required to turn over every paycheck to the receiver who will pay all our bills and any money left over gets divided in half; I get half and Rod gets half. That’s where we are at the moment. I was bummed about the house but am looking forward to making a new home and safe haven with me boyohs at the apartment.
I’ve had a temporary job with the L.D.S. Motion Picture Studio on the production crew building trees, bushes and other props for an upcoming project. It has been a wonderful experience and I’m sorry to leave it on Friday but I filled my contract and had a blast! Can hardly wait to have me boyohs without Rod around. The divorce is moving ahead slowly. We prolly won’t even get on the docket until January sometime. Things are looking favorable so keep your fingers crossed!
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So, we had the hearing and Rod was ordered to release funds so I could rent an apartment. I’m moving around the 8th of Nov. He hadn’t told the boys anything about it so I did. I have two boyohs who are barely speaking to their dad. The judge also awarded me custody four days a week and Rod three but is allowing the boyohs to have a say where they want to stay and when. The judge also appointed a receiver to our case. Rod is required to turn over every paycheck to the receiver who will pay all our bills and any money left over gets divided in half; I get half and Rod gets half. That’s where we are at the moment. I was bummed about the house but am looking forward to making a new home and safe haven with me boyohs at the apartment.
I’ve had a temporary job with the L.D.S. Motion Picture Studio on the production crew building trees, bushes and other props for an upcoming project. It has been a wonderful experience and I’m sorry to leave it on Friday but I filled my contract and had a blast! Can hardly wait to have me boyohs without Rod around. The divorce is moving ahead slowly. We prolly won’t even get on the docket until January sometime. Things are looking favorable so keep your fingers crossed!
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twindragonsmum 🙂tdm
I’m really glad things are looking up and that you can get your life going again. Hopefully, you’ll find other awesome work opportunities like the one you had!
Bigs hugs to you and your boys.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmI’m really glad things are looking up and that you can get your life going again. Hopefully, you’ll find other awesome work opportunities like the one you had!
Bigs hugs to you and your boys.
I couldn’t have said it better!
I am so sorry that you have to go through this TDM. I’m with the rest and hoping the best for you. Sending you lots of hugs, prayers and positive thoughts. This situation totally sucks!! 🙁
So very glad the courts are being fair to you & making sure he can’t lock out resources. I can’t believe how much of a jerk he has been to you. I am glad the boys are almost grown, they are old enough to be able to make their own choices & I am pretty sure they will want to be with you. Rod has failed to communicate & left them in the dark too often, I am sure that has severely damaged their trust in him. And it is all his own fault, he can’t blame you, it was his own actions that damaged his relationship with them. I hope in time everyone will recover from his sudden decision to break up your family like this. I know it is hard. Much love & I am glad things seem to be improving.
Starting the move – me boyohs are really anxious (so am I) Had to get the court papers out last night because Rod had told the boys that they could stay wherever they wanted for as long as they wanted, when the judge said the boyohs were to live with me Sunday 6:00p.m. to Thur. 6:00p.m. There can be changes to the arrangement but Rod and I both are to decide not the boys. We were counseled to make every reasonable request possible. Needless to say, Rod wasn’t happy, but it made the boyohs less confused to see the document and read it for themselves.
twindragonsmum
tdm
Starting the move – me boyohs are really anxious (so am I) Had to get the court papers out last night because Rod had told the boys that they could stay wherever they wanted for as long as they wanted, when the judge said the boyohs were to live with me Sunday 6:00p.m. to Thur. 6:00p.m. There can be changes to the arrangement but Rod and I both are to decide not the boys. We were counseled to make every reasonable request possible. Needless to say, Rod wasn’t happy, but it made the boyohs less confused to see the document and read it for themselves.
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Showing them the facts is the best way to go… if Rod’s not happy, well, boohoo.
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