Love/Marriage stories…I wanna hear yours!!

[WolfenMachine]

Okay, yes, Wolfen is a big sap when it comes to love stories 🙂 Another reason Im wanting to hear your stories is this…

I’m dating a guy now…we made it official in January. I’m content with him, but there’s really no spark. In the past, the first few months have been magic. All the songs on the radio were about him/us, all the heros in movies and books had his adoring eyes, and I was thrilled and excited-a natural high just being around him.

…..but none of those relationships worked out. SO I dated Josh for 4 years. There wasn’t a spark, a flame, but he was an honest man, a hard worker, he had both feet on the ground, a good job/career, and was (okay yes, we are all vain-admit it!) gorgeous. I thought “maybe its supposed to be this way. Not a fiery passionate flame, but warm and comfortable.

….but that didn’t work either. He dumped me, ran off to join the Navy, and 3 months later is engaged. We really didn’t have much in common besides we loved nature and animals, cheese, and similar kinds of foods and we had a lot of movies we liked to watch together.

SO now I’m dating Matt. Its easy, comfortable…he fits into my current life easily. He’s not over bearing or demanding, he loves my cats and my over whelming Windstone collection…but there’s not much of a spark….but we are almost the same person in a lot of ways…we think alike, we love cats, we love art, we love tea and good food, we love to cook, we both love cars, and we both agree religiously and both of us don’t want kids. My friends and family LOVE this guy.

A big part of me has always thought that when I met the right person, everything would start to fall into place…things between us would be easy, fun, exciting. We would both be thrilled to see each other, but we would both have lives outside each other, and at the end of the day could come together and talk about what happened, as well as share things we liked. It would be just like the movies where all the songs on the radio are about him/us, and I’d “just know”. Ive heard, and I believe, that “When you meet the right person…you’ll just know.” there wont be so much doubt.

Before meeting Mat, I met another guy-we clicked immediately, and it seemed like he was kinda great. He had a job, a car, and was in my shoes too… was living with his ex, they broke up, and he moved back in with his parents (*sweatdrop* yeahhh me too) he has a cat and dog (so no cat allergies! Good!) very attractive (to me at least), he already had a little girl (never met her but saw pictures-brought her dad a pony to give to her hehe) and he was okay not having any more kids. I like kids, I just dont like babies (don’t hate me! *cowers*) and if things progressed between us, I would have been thrilled to death to be step mom to spoil her and play with her and take care of her best I could. We’d lay around in his room listening to music and singing along to all the songs on the radio because we both knew them all (music is a big, important part of my life, so someone who has similar musical tastes as me is something I am looking for) This guy made me feel alive, and made me feel like I was glowing. Even my friends noticed how happy I was….

…but then 3 months later, he told me in a rather harsh way that he didn’t want to date me. It kind of crushed me. Just when, after Josh left me, I thought I was ready to give my heart to someone again, he told me he didn’t want it.

I’m obviously going to give Matt a chance, I’m just worried because he’s not exactly what I want to find, but I dont know if my expectations are realistic.

*I tried following my heart…it didnt work
*I tried following my head and letting my heart follow after…it didn’t work

SO basically Im kind of torn between “it will be magic” and “the cold hard facts will bring you two together”

What is your experience? When you met the love of your life and he asked you to marry him, what was it like for you? Im wildly curious 🙂

[dragonmedley]

OMG, you’re making me think back… waaaaay back. Dean and I met in university; we were both on the same floor of residence. My first thought when I met him was, damn, that guy has no neck. And what he thought of me? “Who the heck is this weirdo?”

We ended up going out as a group one night and I don’t know, we just hit it off. No violins, no lightning bolt, just easy talking, easy laughing… and even with the short neck, I found him quite attractive, thank you! 22 years later, here we are.

Now, we’ve always been really open and honest with each other (hence why I know he thought I was a weirdo), which I think is an absolute must for a relationship.

Truth is, I wasn’t looking for anyone, and I never really have a set type of guy. It seems to me you get attracted not necessarily by looks, but by something the other person projects. That’s what you have to look for, which I think could be called a spark. I mean, I’ve met some drop dead gorgeous guys, but I’d never even try to approach them romantically because they just project a feeling, a being, I don’t like (I’ve rarely been wrong about that first feeling you get when you first meet someone).

There’s always a high at the beginning of a relationship, but if it’s too high, it blinds you. So yeah, from what you say, I’d definitely give Matt a chance because you probably have the basis for a long term relationship. What lasts isn’t the walk-on-cloud feeling, it’s how the other will react to you and your passion, how they’ll know that YOU would like this thing even though they’d pick something totally different for themselves. It’s also doing things together and still having your own space.

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[fatalbeauty]

when I met my husband, I had just gotten out of a relationship about a month before and wasn’t looking for anyone really yet….

we both have Aspergers Syndrome so when an ad in the paper showed up for a new meet-up group, both of our parents saw it and suggested we go…the first meet-up was a restaurant and he kept asking me the same question about why I didn’t know how to swim…I thought he was a bit weird and didn’t like him at first….

…next meet-up, he was sweeter, went to a local putt putt place, got talking with him more, felt nicer and I found myself starting to want to see him again…

next was the Wild Animal Park, we just clicked and wandered around the park, him always at my side as we walked around….

went on a date later that day and despite it being a really crappy movie, we kept on seeing each other as much as we could….

we were invited to got to Puerta Viarta(I forget how to spell it) and hubby proposed there a little less than two years of dating, we got married in 2011 and just celebrated our two year anniversary in April….

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[Jennifer]

I had been in a relationship since I was 15 with a fellow, had moved in with him when I turned 19, and lived together for some years. I was immensely loyal, but– and I won’t get into details out of respect– things didn’t work out. During this time I had two very close friends: My roommate Vantid and a guy friend that lived pretty far away. He was like a brother to me, a best-friends brother. When I was going through some extremely hard times he advised that I do what I need to do to be happy and healthy, which at the time seemed like an amazing concept that I hadn’t even considered. My ex and I parted, and I got closer to my other guy friend. He visited me a few times and I him, and there was this amazing.. cohesion? Meshing? I don’t even know (not physical, mind you). Almost like we were the same person, but not in a creepy way! Long story short is that we are married now, and though I have known him for 10 years this year, that amazing closeness and the feeling of absolute belonging has never gone away. In fact it’s gotten stronger than ever.

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[phantomess]

I met my husband online around late 2004- not on a dating site, but in a Yahoo chatroom. It was a car chatroom and we were both just chatting for fun, not looking for romance or anything. We added each other to our friends’ list and ended up chatting with Yahoo Messenger a lot. At that time I was living with my parents, going to community college and working. We had a lot of main interests in common, very similar senses of humor, great chemistry etc. Our interest in cars first brought us together and we were never short on movies or music to talk about, and our opinions & views on SOOOO many things matched! He even had long hair, which I’d always wanted in a guy, lol. Overall it was pretty clear we were perfect for each other, but at first I was pretty adamant about not wanting to meet anyone from online.
Well, after nearly a year of chatting, he flew from Colorado to California with a friend of his who was attending a wedding, and he basically insisted on meeting me. I gave in and he came over and met my family and I all at once. It went well with us in person as well so we took turns visiting each other over the next year, and after completing my second year of college I moved out here to Colorado to be with him. It was kind of hard on my parents the way I left with them not knowing him very well and them wishing we were married before living together, but my parents maintained a good relationship with us the whole time and I/we visit at *least* once a year (in addition to keeping in frequent contact).
I was only 19 when I made that move out here! After living together for 3 years, we got married. Been married for 4 now and we are happy. 🙂 And we don’t have all those typical BS complaints about each other that so many people in relationships have. Lol, that was one thing we talked about in our chatting days, too!

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[Chloe]

Okay, here goes:

When I met my husband I was dating my first love. I had a crush on my first love since I was fourteen. We dated me for about a month when I was fifteen, then he broke up with me with no reason or anything and just wouldn’t talk to me again, though we went to the same school and worked at the same place. When I was eighteen, we saw each other again and started dating. I was still nutso crazy for him. I was in college in another town, and he went into the Air Force. I waited for him.

While he was away I went home for the summer and worked a fast food job. I became really good friends with a guy there, and we started hanging out together all the time, as friends. His roommate was named Shawn, and was tall and skinny (my type) and had long hair down to his waist and nose hairs sticking out (not my type). Besides, I was crazy about my first love!

So, from the beginning to end of summer, me and these guys became inseparable and we had a blast. There were four to six of us running around at a time, going to art museums, concerts, or just parks and swinging on the swings! I practically lived at their place. Then, the guy I met first told me he had a crush on me. 🙁 He knew about my boyfriend, so there was no need to explain anything, but I did feel badly.

During some point in the summer I remember thinking, “Boy, Shawn and I seem to click really well, he’s kind of attractive.” I made the mistake of telling one of my girlfriends this….and she was all over him that night. I was really suprised to feel jealous!

So, my first love came home and I was on cloud nine! I went back to college and he went to work in my hometown. We dated for a few months and he dumped me for no reason (or no reason he would give). I was devastated….again. Anyone else see a pattern?

So, it was summer again and I was home with the “guys” and we had another wonderful summer. My first friend had moved on in his crush, so there was no friction, and we were the best of pals. I started to think…”You know, if we were dating, I could get Shawn to trim those nose hairs….”

So, the boys move me back to college and there happens to be a carnival in town the weekend we move. I tell my original friend of my interest in Shawn and he goes wild with happiness, and we are hatching plans all night to get us together. Of course, Shawn sees us huddled up together and thinks we are finally getting together.

So later, Shawn and I are out together….and I take the plunge. “Do you find me attractive?” I say….I am a wordsmith.

He looks startled. “Well, I guess I just think of you as one of the guy. I’ve never thought of it before.” Wow, this did wonders for my self-esteem. I thought that was all guys thought about. Then, we kissed. And the sparks flew! Oh, my lordy, that was the best kissing! Then, we went back to my place and went to bed (in different rooms). The next morning was kind of odd….because I wasn’t really sure if he was wanting to pursue anything or not. At breakfast I tipped his baseball cap, and he squeezed my hand. Were we on??

Yes, we were. We started long-distance dating, but were pretty exclusive. My mom freaked out. Here I bring home a guy that builds his own cars, has hair down to his waist, and works for a pizza place. I remember saying to her “Well, you better get used to him, because I could marry him.” When this popped out of my mouth, I actually realized it was true!

Then, my ex wanted me back! Showed up on my doorstep. Good for me, I wasn’t even tempted. I realized Shawn treated me better in the few months that we had dated than my ex EVER had!

So….after eight months of good stuff with Shawn I was feeling mushy. He picked up on it right away, telling me “You know, I just don’t think you’re the kind of girl I could fall in love with.” I was like, “Well, good, because I am just having fun!” Though I wasn’t….

I called my best friend and she gave me the best advice of my life. She said, “ARE you having fun? Does he treat you well and make you feel good?” I answered “Yes.” She said, “Then just have fun!” So I did!

Then, a few months later….Shawn whispers “I love you.” I was like…WHAT??? I thought we weren’t doing this?? 😀 But, of course, I did love him.

When I left college, Shawn wanted me to move in with him. I had never really lived on my own without parental help, so I declined. I lived a year on my own, then we did move in together the next year. I remember him saying “Yeah, I want to live with you, but you have to get rid of your cat.” I said, “Okay, I’ll just renew my lease here. She should only live another eight years or so.” So, the cat and I both moved in. 🙂 Three years later we married.

There have been many, many difficulties, hardships, and strains on our relationship…but I honestly feel that our strong background as friends is what enabled us to carry through those horrible times. Our relationship isn’t one of instant love….it is one we built through honesty and trust and just genuinely liking the other person.

We met in 1993 and started dating in 1994. We married in 1999. We had our fist child in 2003 and our second in 2006. He lost the right half of his body in 2009. These are the landmarks of our life. And, though we have grown and changed, we have grown and changed together.

The “spark” is nice…but it comes and goes. Shawn and I are about as different as you can get. He has no interest in most of the things that are important to me, and I have no interest in most of the things that are important to him. Half the time he is talking about cars I hear “wah wahwah wah wah”. Reading this, I wonder….how in the heck does it work??

All I can say is, it does. 🙂 For the last 19 years anyway, and I’m hoping for at least the next 19! 🙂

[Falcolf]

I love your stories guys, for a girl who has never had a boyfriend (and might well never) it gives me an inkling of hope, a *maybe.*

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Excellent!

[dragonmedley]

I love your stories guys, for a girl who has never had a boyfriend (and might well never) it gives me an inkling of hope, a *maybe.*

You know what, though? If you don’t want a significant other, there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re not sure, then wait until you are. Never go into a relationship because “you really should”; only do so because you want to.

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[Starlet]

I met my husband online on a site called student center. We started talking at the end of 03 and met up in 04 a month before his birthday in March. We met at the mall and i brought a friend just incase he was a weirdo. I instantly loved his eyes and felt a comfort with him but hated his gotee lol. We kept talking and he was very silly and loves music as much as I do. Hes a DJ at a radio station. I knew he was the right guy. He was just a loving sweet understanding and protective guy. Turns out I was his 1st girlfriend and he said I was the one and his parents thought he was nuts. in October of 04 he asked me to marry him I did in December of that year, and we have had a amazing marriage. He said he got it right the very 1st time and how many others can say that. At first his mother thought I was pregnant or something but we hadn’t even had sex. 8yrs of marriage later I love him more than even his parents and family have a good working relationship with me and I wouldnt trade him for the world. His mother just didnt understand that her son never dated and then married me out of the blue super fast she stated she now sees how deeply we love each other and how her view of thinking was so off. We still don’t have any children but maybe someday. I thank God for guiding me to him 🙂

[Tethra]

I first met my hubby when I was 16 and he was 26. I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend as all the boys at school were jerks (in my little opinion at the time!) and I was too busy with my music. I just had no interest.

Anyway, I was playing flute in a community concert band and I remember the first time I saw him. I was thinking ‘a male flutist! He won’t last long’. Anyway, he stayed and there were a bunch of us that hung out at breaks and sometimes met up at other times. He used to sit in the 2nd row of flutes just behind me so he could poke me in the ribs and generally stir me up. We were really good friends like this for two years.

We started going to another band together as well and one day he couldn’t come to rehearsal. He called me that day to let me know. I on the train to uni and when I hung up I remember feeling REALLY disappointed. Then I started analysing why. I thought ‘it’s only a rehearsal, why the heck am I feeling like this?’ Then it dawned on me, do I like him?

As it so happened at the next rehearsal at the original band one of the sax players said to John ‘just ask her out will ya!’ She said the same to me later in the night. John and I had the same reaction apparently….’huh, what?’ The whole band had been taking bets on how long it would take us to realise we liked each other (smart alexs all of them).

We used to go to the pub after rehearsal and when we went that night I grew a pair and asked him out. I was so very nervous as I had never done anything like this before. He said yes and I had my first kiss which was amazing. So many butterflies in my tummy! The only problem was that John was leaving for England in 3 months for a year for work. He wasn’t sure he would ever return to Australia and he reminded me of this. I said I know but lets give it a go (I was 18 at the time).

We were totally taken with each other in those 3 months. We spoke about him leaving and accepted that the time away would either bring us closer together or break us up. Happily it was the former and we emailed every day. He brought me to London for 4 months when I left my uni (that’s a whole other story) and I was so exited to see him I didn’t know what to do with myself! I had a fantastic time there and I was the only reason he returned to Australia.

Anyway, when he got back we hit it right off again and I moved in with him a couple of years later. We started going out in 2001, and I moved in in 2005. We knew we would get married and he proposed in 2006 and we got married in 2007. We have so much in common. We have the same sense of humour and agree on most things. We have the same outlook on life.

Getting married never changed anything for us. We were acting like an old married couple before we were going out! We have fun and stir each other up constantly. I am very lucky as my first boyfriend turned out to be the one, but I never went looking, it just happened when I didn’t expect it. I’m very happy it did though!

Wow this was a long post, sorry for my waffling everyone! This should satisfy Wolfen’s sappiness! 🙂

[Bodine]

My dear Jeff and I have been together 18yrs.and counting.
We have been friends for 28yrs..
I think if you have a strong friendship in the beginning and never lose respect,it will always be as wonderful,exciting and loving as it was in the beginning and is meant to be forever.If you are friends first,you know each other on a much deeper level and your relationship has a MUCH better chance of being a lasting one.
Jeff and I worked together at Tyson Foods for about six years.No romance there,just lots and lots of chickens! But as the years passed,our youngest children were in the same classes,he was my Q.C. and I worked closely with him,we grew close as friends and work companions.Our own marriages were on the rocks for years but we both did the right thing and tried to hang in there and keep our families together.They,on the other hand,had other ideas.So,as the years passed,we grew closer as friends and the trust between us grew strong.When my ex decided to unload his .357 at my feet one day,I jumped in my little Camaro and boogied up the road.That’s it,I’m done!The Kids were in school luckily.Anyway,Within a month,Jeff’s marriage fell apart too.Our exs kinda liked each other for some party time so we both agreed they could have each other.How ironic,they fool around and Jeff and I are the ones that wound up very happily married and had never fooled around.It was a struggle to start a new life together after both of our over 12yrs.marriages fell apart,you guys just wouldn’t believe what they pulled to keep Jeff and I apart but we prevailed.As I said,not very romantic but a strong true love nonetheless that many people search their entire lives for and are not fortunate to have found it.We weren’t searching but were standing next to each other all that time.It was very hard at times and still can be but so worth it.Respect,love,friendship,& honesty= :love:
Bless the broken roads. 😉

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