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loneliness combined with boredom and silence is a horrible combination. Been without me boyohs for a whole week… Has anyone experienced this and what do you do to solve it???? HELP!
twindragonsmum
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Aw, sorry to hear you’re lonely! I’ve felt that way a few times myself, but luckily I’ve never been far from a warm cat in my lap or a friendly snake to inhabit my sleeves, and they help 🙂
Don’t hesitate to spend the time doing something you might not be able to when your family is around. Turn up your music and sing! If you’ve been putting off a crafts project or a good book, it’d be just the time for that too. I find myself baking a lot when I’m home alone, but things that freeze well so I can share them with family when they return.
Hope your loneliness can be warded off well!
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Sorry to hear you’re feeling down…
Loneliness and boredom combined are miserable companions. Speaking only for myself, when I’m down in the dumps, I mostly just roll with it. Allow myself to feel miserable, spend a good amount of time on self-pity, go to bed early and usually wake up feeling much better (and slightly silly) the next day.
But if you’re looking to kick it, then I would suggest a good movie (comedy please) something that will get a good belly laugh out of you. A good book also works. Or… housework and lots of it… Something to occupy your body and shut you brain off. Hey, it works for me!
These are the things I do when feeling lonely and bored:
Read something that will make me laugh until my sides hurt. Any book by Terry Pratchett does the job admirably.
Tackle a crafts project that takes a lot of time, concentration, or both.
Go on-line and spend a couple of hours noodling through YouTube or Wikipedia, just wandering and looking at whatever catches my eye.
Go to the library and do the same kind of thing.
Take on a research or planning project for something I want to do “someday,” and fill up a notebook with notes and ideas.
Call a friend I haven’t talked to in ages and talk her ear off. If I can’t call for some reason, I write a letter instead.
Try out a new recipe.
Muck around in the garden or the chicken coop.
Sit with the chickens for a while. I love chicken TV.
Write how I feel. Don’t edit a thing, just let it all out on paper. If the process makes me start writing about something else, I’ll go with that too and see where it leads.
Find out how many marshmallows is really “too many” in a cup of hot chocolate.
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Find out how many marshmallows is really “too many” in a cup of hot chocolate.
BLASPHEMY! There is no such thing as “too many” marshmallows in a cup of hot chocolate. You just need a bigger mug if they don’t fit.
I agree with taking up crafts. I have the next week off and my hubby doesn’t so I’ll be working on some paintings I need to get done to occupy me.
loneliness combined with boredom and silence is a horrible combination. Been without me boyohs for a whole week… Has anyone experienced this and what do you do to solve it???? HELP!
twindragonsmum
I totally understand how you feel. The first week that I had all to myself after my divorce was so strange. I had no idea what to do with myself. My ex had my kids for christmas on top of that and to wake up christmas morning with silence was eerie to say the least. I learned over time to fill it with my friendships, things I wanted to do all by myself, went out dancing which I LOVE to do and watched the movies and read the books that i wanted to not ones the kids picked!! It will get easier TDM. I know it sounds cliche but time does heal all wounds and you will have the chance to find the strong capable woman inside that was probably suppressed to a point throughout the marriage. She will amaze you with her passions if you let her. Find out who that woman inside is who is not the “wife, mother, sister, daughter” but YOU!! It will amaze you probably as much as it amazed me when I finally found BRANDY.
HUGGS and UNDERSTANDING!! 🙂
Volunteer.
At this time of year there are tons of holiday things going on. Toys for Tots, Food for the hungry (any number of varieties), Dog rescues need people to sit at there events and transport animals. Any place staffed primarily by volunteers is full of people, generally nice ones. The work relieves boredom, the people relieve loneliness and the helping of others always makes me feel better about my situation.
I do feel for you, TDM. You’ve been through some very rough waters and not having your boys with you right now really hurts. All the advice I’ve seen is right on. We’ve all felt lonely and bored–I get that feeling a lot myself. There are times that I do wish that I had someone in my life to take the edge off.
What I’ve done was take myself out to lunch–it doesn’t have to be expensive–just sitting there amongst other people helps and keeps my mind off my being alone. I’ve even taken myself to see a movie–yeah, listen to music, read a good book–something that you’ve wanted to do.
Yes, time does heal all wounds but we still feel the hurt every now and then. It does get easier with time. Wishing you the very best this season and that things will get better.
Find out how many marshmallows is really “too many” in a cup of hot chocolate.
BLASPHEMY! There is no such thing as “too many” marshmallows in a cup of hot chocolate. You just need a bigger mug if they don’t fit.
Ah, but see, the process of finding out means that I get to drink a LOT of hot chocolate. :p
TDM, something I forgot to mention: exercise! Go for a walk, borrow an aerobics disk, take yoga lessons (my sister swears by them), chase an escaped hen, put on loud music and clean the house top to bottom…. Getting your heart rate up and using your muscles causes endorphin release, which counteracts depression and sadness. It really works.
Find out how many marshmallows is really “too many” in a cup of hot chocolate.
BLASPHEMY! There is no such thing as “too many” marshmallows in a cup of hot chocolate. You just need a bigger mug if they don’t fit.
Ah, but see, the process of finding out means that I get to drink a LOT of hot chocolate. :p
True, that. 😀
Volunteering is a great idea. 🙂 Especially around the holidays. Giving a bit of yourself to others is a great combat for loneliness.
I watch this video poem when I feel lonely and it always helps. Hugs hugs.
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