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I don’t have anything else to add as the others have already said it and said it very well. Just remember it takes two to make a marriage and two to break it and it takes both of you trying to make it work one alone can’t do it – the voice of experience speaking – I do hope everything works out the best way for you whatever you decide but don’t hurt yourself. Things have a way of working out no matter how bad they seem ar the time.
I hope this statement doesn’t offend anybody but I have been told “God never gives us more than we can handle”
Glad you are back. You only have one life, hon, please dont waste it. No matter how bad it seems its never as bad as all that. This too will pass.
safyre_dream wrote:I’m here for another day… 😳
And I hope many more to come! Don’t be embarrased, I am really grateful that you did post that because you were trying to reach out to someone. I just hope that we will be able to provide you with some good advice and solace, and I hope that you are getting some help that is truly beneficial to you!
*hugs* *hugs* and more *hugs*safyre_dream wrote:I’m here for another day… 😳
… and many more. No matter how bad it seems, you can get through it even if you don’t think you can. The fact that you reached out shows that your will to live is stronger than you think yourself to be. You have inner strength that you haven’t tapped into yet. Hang in there. We’re all here for you. *HUGS*
Oh Jamie!! I’m so sorry that I missed this post untill now, and i am so glad that you are still here!! Please Please take care, and know that you are a loved and valued person in our community! If you ever need anything at all, please PM me, I have been through this myself, and while I can’t take the pain away, I can listen. Blessed Be Jamie, we all love you!
~MicheleI’m sorry too that I didn’t see this thread until now. Safyre, I know that you’re going through something terrible right now, and I’m glad you put the shout out for help the other night. Everyone has given good advice. I just want to be one more voice urging you to find that counselor.
I went through some nastiness during the past two years, working a very stressful job for a woman who was a master manipulator. She had me convinced that I was of little value and did her best to squash any efforts I made to improve the workplace situation. As time went on, I had outbursts of almost uncontrollable temper, which both embarrassed and scared me. It got so that I began thinking about physically injuring myself . . . and I work with extremely sharp instruments every day. I thought about cutting my arm, stabbing my eye; things that I would never have ever considered under normal circumstances. When I realized that these horrible fantasies were not going to go away, I got really frightened and finally, finally called a counselor.
Well, the first thing she got across to me was that between stress, depression, and a really rotten workplace, it was no wonder that I was falling apart. And she helped me understand that just about anybody would have been ready to snap under that kind of strain. When I stopped blaming myself for being “inadequate,” we started picking away at the huge thorny tangle of Mess that my life was in. She taught me some simple methods for calming down from a burst of temper. She taught me how to find what was really bugging me in a situation, rather than drowning in anger. And piece by piece we identified what was wrong with my life and what I could do about it.
Ultimately I chose to leave that job, that town, and that chapter of my life. It wasn’t easy. I took a lot of grief from a few co-workers who refused to see my reasons as valid . . . but I discovered that what they thought had lost its hold over me. I also discovered that in making the move to a new place and starting over, I felt a lot better about my ability to handle life. I had been terrified by the obstacles in front of me, but once I had the time–in counseling–to work out all of my options and determine that moving was the best thing to do, I wasn’t afraid of that change.
Call that suicide hotline, do it tonight, and talk to them. There’s no shame in asking for help–we all need help at some point in our lives. Tell the hotline what you have told us, and don’t be ashamed. Bad stuff can happen to good people, and you never “deserved” any of this. The important thing is that you must call that hotline and get help. It’s scarcely any different from talking to us here, except that the hotline staff are trained to help people in your kind of situation and know what to do! You have my best wishes, along with everyone else here; now go and get in touch with the people who can bring you to safety.
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