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You know a long time ago, years before I was born, she tried to strangle my brother. 😯 I dunno what exactly happened since I obviously wasn’t there, but I think he said something she didn’t like so she grabbed him by his throat and shoved him up against the wall. x.x She’s insane and she has the nerve to tell me *I* need to be locked up?? She won’t even talk to him any more since they always fight. She fights with everybody, even my father. But of course he won’t do anything about it.
It can be really hard on a family when a parent is unstable. Most of the time the affected person is so deeply in denial that they refuse help from anyone but especially family. My sister is manic depressive. When you can get her to take her medicine she’s great. The trouble is that her illness makes it so that she won’t take the meds. When she starts to feel better she thinks she doesn’t need the meds any more so she stops taking it. When that happens and she starts to cycle through again to the depressive side, she feels like she CAN’T take the meds. So between the won’t and can’t it makes a bumpy ride for the rest of us….. Sweetheart, your mum is ill and your dad probably doesn’t know what to do to help. Then when you aren’t feeling well it just makes all of what you’re feeling harder to bear. We love you!!! No strings attached!!! Take recovery and change in baby steps. Hang on…..
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I suppose I could talk to my doctor about the things she says/does to me, but it probably wouldn’t do any good. She’d find some way to turn it around and make the way she acts my fault. She always does. One time like five years ago she accused me of dipping her toothbrush in pinesol and trying to poison her. She started screaming that she was gonna call the cops, and I’m siting there like O____O wtf…? All because the cap to the toothbrush was missing. Then about two weeks later she finally figured out the cats were playing with it and knocked it off. *flails*
Anyways, even *if* I did what she accused me of, it wouldn’t be NEARLY enough to poison her. She wouldn’t even have swallowed it. So why would I bother? Ugh.
Chemical imbalances can do really weird things to people. Of course you wouldn’t ever hurt your mum. Deep down she knows it but paranoia/instability won’t let her behave in a rational manner. I know that doesn’t seem fair…. she’s supposed to be the mum, not you! She just is not capable at the moment. It sounds like it’s been going on for a very long time. The only way she may change is if your dad insists she get help and even then there’s no guarantee….
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That’s horrible, I am so sorry your Mom acts this way. Hang in there, I think talking to your doctor is a really, really good idea!
I’m sorry to hear about all you are going thru. I have found the Forum is like my calming rock. When it’s slow at work I can come here and chat, You know we are here if you need us. Sounds like your mom is the one that needs to be locked up
My dad won’t do anything. He just tries to ignore it. *sigh*
He did convince her to let me sleep on the couch though. I can’t really explain it too well, but anxiety/panic attacks/stomach issues prevent me from sleeping in my own bed. It’s been that way since I got a nasty stomach flu five years ago. I just can’t sleep there any more, no matter if I’m half sitting up, or what position I’m in. I throw up every time I try to sleep there. So I’ve been stuck on the couch in the living room since then. my mother of course fought with me the whole way, but eventually I talked to my dad about it and he convinced her to let me stay there. She still complains about it once in a while though.
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As soon as I started to feel better they came home. I figured if I left my room she’d yell at me again but I had to give me father some papers so I went out anyways… and the second I get out there she starts screaming at me that she doesn’t trust me and accuses me of hurting the cats while they were gone. What. The. F**K. I’ve been in my room talking to you guys the whole freaking time. What is WRONG with her?? So I came back in here and I heard her and my father screaming at each other. So now I’m sitting here uncontrollably sobbing again, worse than before. I wouldn’t be surprised if she actually does call the cops this time, even though I didn’t touch the cats. Like I said, I’ve been in here the entire time they were out. She’s probably checking them for wounds right now. T____T
Oh, I’m SO sorry! 🙁 Try not to let her have the satisfaction of seeing you cry. I know that’s hard to do but try…. Hang in there babycakes; love ya!
twindragonsmum
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Okay.. she apologized… but somehow I get the feeling my father told her to and she doesn’t really mean it. x.x But now she’s trying to be all nice to me, and it’s really creepy. O.o;
*hugs* your mum sounds like a lunatic! Your poor family! I agree too that talking to your doctor is an excellent idea. It won’t help her, it will help you.
Dearheart, your mother is seriously disturbed. You really need to consider getting out of there, and at this point a mental home for you would likely be a much healthier environment. Even though you aren’t the one who is mental here.
So next time your Mom brings up putting you in a mental home, tell her, “Thats a great idea Mom, let me go pack, and we’ll go right now!”
She will likely recoil and change her tune, but seriously, I’d still push to have her take me there.
I know it sounds nuts, but I really feel at this point that whatever it takes to get you away from that house and that woman is what you need to do, so if signing yourself into a mental institution will do it, then do it.
Make sure you are the one signing the papers admitting you and that you are the one putting yourself in there though, that way when you want out, you can just sign out again. They can’t hold you if you don’t want to stay, but only if you self admit.
Anyway, its something to consider. If you go this route to get out of your parents house, you will also have access to the therapy and counseling you need, so there is more than one good reason to do this.
Whatever you decide, we’re here, we care, and yeah I know I am a PITA, but I’m a caring PITA! I’m gonna keep pushing you towards a better life, and while an institution doesn’t sound like one, it is a step in that direction, somewhere you can start where you will have the kind of help and support you need to make it into the real world again.
*hugs*
Kyrin
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