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Update: So, me boyohs dad is no longer single… Boyohs did NOT attend, send a card or call. The happily married couple showed up on my doorstep Sunday morning on their way to Vegas and wanted to see me boyohs. Luckily mum answered the door and handled things very calmly and politely (very civilized). Wouldn’t’ve been a good thing had it been me since Rod spent Wednesday and Thursday texting and harassing me boyohs and calling me some VERY vile names and screaming at me for being the “most manipulative, lying biatch the world has ever seen”. Good riddance to bad rubbish. I was very proud of myself for not screaming back and answering only with “I’m sorry you feel that way”. As far as boyohs are concerned, their relationship with their dad is currently nonexistent. His loss.
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Update: So, me boyohs dad is no longer single… Boyohs did NOT attend, send a card or call. The happily married couple showed up on my doorstep Sunday morning on their way to Vegas and wanted to see me boyohs. Luckily mum answered the door and handled things very calmly and politely (very civilized). Wouldn’t’ve been a good thing had it been me since Rod spent Wednesday and Thursday texting and harassing me boyohs and calling me some VERY vile names and screaming at me for being the “most manipulative, lying biatch the world has ever seen”. Good riddance to bad rubbish. I was very proud of myself for not screaming back and answering only with “I’m sorry you feel that way”. As far as boyohs are concerned, their relationship with their dad is currently nonexistent. His loss.
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Speaking as someone whose parents divorced while I was in college, let me just say that you played things smart by trying to be civil in spite of everything. It’s better for you and for your kids that you didn’t sink to his level. My dad was just nasty and vicious and selfish when my mom finally filed for a divorce, and everything he did just dug his hole deeper and deeper with my brother and me. I can’t imagine what it would have felt like if our mom resorted to his kind of nastiness too; it was ridiculous enough the guilt and grief he was putting everyone through.
It’s kind of sad, in a way, because he’s lost out on a lot and I don’t think he really understands or ever will that he’s at fault (because that’s part of his thing, it’s never his fault) but I always feel considerably less sorry when I think of how much better off we all are now that he’s not a part of our regular family life anymore and how much he hurt all of us, before and after. Your boys surely made the right decision, and just to echo what has been said before, you and your sons will all be better off without him, mentally and emotionally.
A little off topic, but I think we’re probably from the same church, had no idea!
Back on topic though, that SUCKS things ended up so sour! If you need someone to talk to about it let me know 🙁
I am sorry to hear that and would not take that well if it was me. I am also LDS if that’s what you two are. I wouldn’t expect that kind of behavior from a man in the church though but no one is perfect obviously. It does frighten me a little off marriage though when I hear of friends in the church getting divorces because I can’t help but think even if I am a great partner, that doesn’t mean my man would necessarily be. I’ve been struggling enough dating a guy on and off for over 3 years and found out he cheated on me. I was even nice enough to forgive him and try and be friends but found out he’s psychotic and on scary medication and now has a bunch of excuses for his awful behavior! I am doing my best now to not have to see or talk to this jerk again who is responsible for a lot of my depression and anxiety issues! Sometimes it’s a blessing to be rid of people like that, that I think who no matter how hard you try and make things work, will blame you and make you feel bad for their shortcomings instead of taking responsibility for their actions and their part of making things work!
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Ah, good riddance! And good for you for keeping your cool, no regrets – he’s the one who looks like a fool in the end. What I find interesting is that he doesn’t seem to realize the boys have a mind of their own… a nice way for him to pretend it’s not his fault. Hugs to you, Sean and Ethan.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmKim,don’t let the talk turn you off to marriage.It is a most wonderful thing.The trick is to get to know someone a LOT,being friends first IS the key if you ask me,pay attention to how they speak of the ex,mother,other women in general,ALL clues to their true nature.People almost always show their good side first so hang loose with an open mind,listen with your ears and head as well as your heart,look for a good man,not one at a bar for instance and you can find a good mate.There are a lot of good people out here and one is looking for a lady just like you.I think we have stumbled onto the secret.If he puts you first and you put him first,noone is ever second.You always think,”Is what I am wanting to say or do going to hurt my spouse?”If the answer is yes,then don’t do it.Trust me,it works,though sometimes hard,it works.Respect.
The same goes for everyone I believe.There are a lot of good people out here looking for love with a good mate.Never give up.
TDM,YAY YOU!!!!! You are becoming stronger everyday!! It took loads of control to stay out of that conversation.Show your sons that this is NOT how you treat people much less the Mother of your children.
As a side note:Trust in Karma.She will be poking her head into their relationship before long.Almost never fails.When a person comes between a family to get a spouse,they will have the same thing happen to them.They should think,”How did I get them?” Take heart,you’ll see and you can take a deep breath,smile and say,”I’m glad it’s you and not me.”I am proud of you and how far you have come since he got stupid.Our children learn by example and you are a terrific role model.If you don’t show them,who will? HUGZ!! :love:Every act matters.No matter how small💞
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