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*insert sarcasm here* Rod is getting remarried – the divorce was only final in Sept. He has applied to our church headquarters in Salt Lake to have our marriage vows cancelled (which is a rather extreme step to take in our church culture) I am soooo angry… Makes me wonder how long he’d been seeing her behind my back. Me boyohs are furious and I want to throw breakable objects… Currently sitting on my hands AWAY from Windstones and glass collection to keep them safe. Anyone wanna join me on trip to Idaho Falls? *wanders off to find my baseball bat*
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How can you have several years of marriage and marriage vows ‘cancelled’ ????
I’d be angry, furious, and PO’ed too!I’m So Sorry – it’s better to try and move on. I know that is easier said than done, but I also know that the following saying truly does happen, in my experience anyway… ‘What goes around, comes around…’ I’m sure eventually he’ll get his…
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I’m sooo sorry! *hugs*
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I don’t have a baseball bat, but I think a tire iron might work nicely too. :crazy:
I take it your church doesn’t recognize divorce and if he wants to get remarried in the church he has to have the wedding vows cancelled? (sarcasm**what a shame! J) On what grounds can wedding vows be cancelled???
I’ll go with you, just let me find a sitter for the kids. How do you get your vows cancelled? What good would that do? What an a hole!
Get a punching bag, for you and your boys. And you’re better off, all of you! Seriously!
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmIt isn’t much consolation right now, but chances are they’ll both get what they deserve (i.e. each other).
What kind of woman would marry him after what he did to you? How did he charm her into that? You should track her down and talk to her so she doesn’t make that mistake! Men can be such idiots sometimes!
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HOLE-E-CRAP! Well, Woman… In the words of Elsa from “Frozen”…”Let it goooo… let it gooo!!” Just let it go. What a douche.
Thankies all… Did I mention I’m supposed to write a letter to his Bishop with my thoughts on the matter? I’m really struggling with this. I don’t want to sound bitter, I’m kinda worried about the woman he’s marrying but I figure she’s a big girl and been married before so she should be able to look out for herself… Me boyohs are not happy at all. They’ll be getting older and younger siblings at the same time. Rod keeps telling boyohs that she doesn’t intend to take my place, she just wants to be their friend, but they’re not having any of it and S has already said that he won’t be going to the wedding. He has plans to finish packing up his stuff at the house and transferring it all to Utah. Don’t know what E is planning. We’re coming up on graduation soon and technically they are adults since they’re 18 so they can do as they like… However, I feel they should still be polite, like they were raised to be… I dunno – not sure how I’m feeling at the moment. Conflicted I guess. *Blerg!*
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That’s a tough one…
For the letter, you could be honest, but polite. The bishop is asking for your thoughts, right?
For the boys, well, I’m putting myself in their shoes, and I don’t think I’d want to go either. I’d just send a card to be polite.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmHere’s another thought, regarding the letter to the Bishop: If you can write a letter that states plainly Rod’s behaviors towards you and the boys, and keep your anger controlled during it, the Bishop will be more likely to accept that Rod really did these things. It’s easy for a person reading a flame letter to think, “Oh, this person is so angry, they must be blowing things out of proportion.” But a letter written by someone who, while clearly upset, is able to state things in a dry, just-the-facts manner has a lot more impact.
It almost sounds as if the Bishop has real doubts regarding Rod’s integrity and propriety. He may be asking you for your side of things because he thinks Rod did wrong, but without a statement from you he can’t really do much. Either way, an angry letter can be called slander. But a strictly factual letter, with anger held in check, may be embarrassing to the other person but it isn’t slander.
One thought: Is there any advantage to you, at all, for the Bishop to not declare the vows cancelled? Is there any advantage to you if he does declare them cancelled? I’m a little ignorant of the ramifications, is why I ask. But I do know that I want the outcome to be what will benefit you!
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