Fear of Death

[Evelynne]

Hi eaglefeather! I’m a Christian too and I also still have fears and doubts. In my case I fear that I will die younger than others in my family because of health issues I can’t seem to solve. And yet…when I really think about it….I am too sedentary and my lifestyle is really not the greatest health-wise. I could eat better, I could get more exercise, things like that, ya know?
It’s weird when you realize half of your own problems, or even most, are caused by yourself!
I have financial issues that stress me out too to the point of getting depressed too. Sometimes all of that makes me feel like I’d rather be dead or would die soon.
Definitely not healthy, but that’s where I remind myself to keep looking to Jesus. When you’re down, you need to be praying to him. I have to do that more too.
*hug* Hang in there!

[pipsxlch]

I’ve fought suicidal thoughts/depression since I was about 7 years old, but I’ve never been preoccupied with dying- it always sounded like such a relief, such a peaceful desirable thing even if the act was violent. Many of us can’t afford therapists/medical help, which you indicated. Even if you’re insured, insurance usually won’t cover any mental issues. I think talking to your pastor is a great idea, both to share your burden with him and God, and because he may be aware of resources in your community for people who couldn’t afford them otherwise. There may be a community clinic, or doctors that donate time to the community.
Are there people who can watch Chloe for you, give you a mom’s day out occasionally? Much as we love our kids, sometimes we need more adult interactions.

[Katherine]

You know, I have thought about that so often, and I do need a mommy’s day out. Most of my support has moved away, or is working too much already, but I have one sister that might. Unfortunately, I would have no one to go with. The closest friend I have is DragonMistress, but she lives half way across the country. Besides my hubby, who works all the time. But you know what, I discovered a place where I could paint pottery, and I might have to check that out. I need more fun things in my life. 🙂
I am glad that I am not the only person who believes they will go to heaven, but then have doubts too. I thought that maybe I was being a bad believer, but I guess it means I am just being human? I am trying to be vague enough to not offend anyone, because I don’t want to. 😳
I guess I am just being human, but I can’t let these thoughts cause me so much fear. :spank:

[WindstoneCollector]

I am about 3 hours away from you! I never noticed until you said something about halfway across the country…And the worst is that I even got an envelope from you a while back. 😳 (Hates when she gets into her own little world…)

[windstonefan]

Dear friend, 8) I think this is a natural fear that the young have. I remember not ever being able to think about it as a woman in my 20’s. Death is not a easy door to walk through when you are so young. So do not walk threw it. Do not think about it at all ,for it is a unpleasant thought for one so young as yourself and you should not think of it at all. Quite simply whenever you find yourself at that unhappy place open another door to a happier place. Think of a happy place you like to go or visit and the next time that thought comes up–simply depart from the bad place to the happy place. It is all about control. You can control these thoughts simply by going to your happiest memory or place. You can be happy with-in -your own mind. Just as I write this think of you place and make sure you are happy there –only you know where it is—go there let the lord god take you there if you feel the need. Remember he is holding your hand as you walk and you are never really alone. I do know this when you are ready to go you won’t be afraid anymore and remember you are young and it is not your time. As the years go by and you get older as myself and most everyone you loved has past on—this my dear is what makes you ready. See you want to see your loved ones once again for it is a beautiful thought to be rejoycing with them once again. God does not want you to go there and be alone now does he? 🙁 Nope! God bless

windstonefan

[windstonefan]

WindstoneCollector wrote:

I am about 3 hours away from you! I never noticed until you said something about halfway across the country…And the worst is that I even got an envelope from you a while back. 😳 (Hates when she gets into her own little world…)

As I finished this and it landed under you–I had not looked ahead –my thought was what a pair! Evelyn

windstonefan

[Maria]

Interesting topic; thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts on the matter.
I’ve never lost someone particularly close to me. Heck, I’ve yet to see a dead person. As far as thoughts of death go, I think I’m probably on the other side of the spectrum from Eaglefeather. I think about it often enough, as most people seem to – like Rusti says, it’s part of life – but I seem to only view it from a distance. Sort of like it’s something that only happens to other people. Which leads to me doing more or less stupid things on occasion because I don’t consider that one slip of a finger or hitting an oil spot in that 120 km/h curve could break my neck.
Respect for it will probably come with life experience. :shrug:

[Katherine]

WindstoneCollector wrote:

I am about 3 hours away from you! I never noticed until you said something about halfway across the country…And the worst is that I even got an envelope from you a while back. 😳 (Hates when she gets into her own little world…)

lol, well I sent the letter to you, but I didn’t realize it either! lol 😆

windstonefan wrote:

Dear friend, 8) I think this is a natural fear that the young have. I remember not ever being able to think about it as a woman in my 20’s. Death is not a easy door to walk through when you are so young. So do not walk threw it. Do not think about it at all ,for it is a unpleasant thought for one so young as yourself and you should not think of it at all. Quite simply whenever you find yourself at that unhappy place open another door to a happier place. Think of a happy place you like to go or visit and the next time that thought comes up–simply depart from the bad place to the happy place. It is all about control. You can control these thoughts simply by going to your happiest memory or place. You can be happy with-in -your own mind. Just as I write this think of you place and make sure you are happy there –only you know where it is—go there let the lord god take you there if you feel the need. Remember he is holding your hand as you walk and you are never really alone. I do know this when you are ready to go you won’t be afraid anymore and remember you are young and it is not your time. As the years go by and you get older as myself and most everyone you loved has past on—this my dear is what makes you ready. See you want to see your loved ones once again for it is a beautiful thought to be rejoycing with them once again. God does not want you to go there and be alone now does he? 🙁 Nope! God bless

You are very right-my MIL tells me this, that I control my own thoughts, and I can’t let the thought control me. Also, about the part where it is not my time to go, that is what causes me to fear the most-what if it is my time? But I will Not think about it, because I don’t want to fear anymore-in fact, just talking about it has really eased my mind. I started thinking about it today, but I whisked the thought from my head.
Purpledragonclaw emailed me, and after talking to her too, I am more at ease.

I guess I don’t lie when I have mentioned that my only associates and friends are here on this forum (and now a little more on Facebook). I just keep things in my own head for a long time before I talk about them with anyone else.

GB-I think that people our age mostly think like you and windstonefan (when she was in her 20’s). I think most people our age see it as happening to others. Stay safe on that bike of yours! :yes: 😉

[twindragonsmum]

eaglefeather I can completely understand what you’re saying. I don’t know if this will help, but maybe it will 😳 We’ve taught our boys that death is just the next step in a “growing phase”. We weren’t sent here by some nebulous entity who has tossed you out of the house on your ear (so to speak) with no tools or guidance or maps to help you get home. Death is just the way that we get to go home to our “real” parents – our heavenly parents. Life here on earth is like going away to college… You learn lots of stuff and get to “study” with some cool professors (every person in your life circle is a professor) and then when you’ve finished your “major” or “docterate” then you get to go back home (heaven) and have a big ole family re-union and share what you learned at “university” It may sound a bit silly and maybe even childish but it certainly helped me grow past that stage of death being frightening and the boys think that it’s gonna be a great family re-union! 😀 Hang in there girlie girl. This too is a “learning experience” on the way to getting your “doctorate”! 😀 😀 😀

lurv ya lots!
Beckie

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