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HELP! I have a crabby teenager on my hands… He started track seasn and now wants to quit. The fees are non-refundable, $130.00 dollars worth. Team Pix are today and he wants to turn in his uniform. Any suggestions? I advised him to stick out the season which ends in May, but he’s at the point in his life where everything I say or do is wrong… I don’t want to argue with him, but I think he needs to finish the season. Any advice?
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You paid the $130 for him to play track. If it were my mother dealing with me, I would either be paying her back the $130 or finishing the season, my choice, but I would most definitely not be getting off scott free.
I think it’s a good opportunity to remind/teach him what commitment is. Any kid of mine would finish the season. He wouldn’t have to continue on next year, but he’d definitely finish what he started.
Thankies! That’s what I’ve told him… I’d hate for it to bug him for forever, that he started something and didn’t finish. Thing is, he’s good! I don’t want him to waste his talent
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I’m with Rusti on what she said about getting off scott free. As you get older what you tell and promise people forms a basis for life and if you can’t stick to what you promised to do just because you don’t like it anymore people won’t depend on you anymore for important things. Actions have consequences just as in real life. Ethan should continue with track because he said he would do it, next year is another story. Good luck with Ethan…..
I think part of the problem is, that he twisted both ankles third day of track and last Monday both me boyohs had minor surgery to remove ingrown toenails and things aren’t toughened up yet. I think I’ll go to practice for the next little while and talk to his coaches about what he can be doing at home to strengthen those ankles. I also want him to know that I mean business – hence the reason for showing up randomly at practice so he’ll do his best work all the time ’cause he won’t know when I’m gonna show. Some folk would call that babysitting, I guess, but maybe it’s more like moral support… wish me luck!
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Tough one here.Maybe try negotiating too but I would really encourage him to stay.Life is tough sometimes and he must toughen up sometimes too.We all have to finish something we have started and not wanting to at some point in our lives I ‘m sure.I think we all feel better for having done it too.Have a talk with him about the money too.That’s not cool to take it for granted and he needs to be reminded of that.You did that for him not yourself and money isn’t easy to come by and shouldn’t be thrown out the window on a whim.He needs to step up and not get it in his head that it is okay to just quit.Perhaps tomorrow he will feel differently.This is just my friendly opinion Becki.
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If he is determined to quit he needs to come up with the $130 you shelled out. Does he have a job of any kind, paper route etc., that could be a source of payback money? And I don’t mean on the installment plan.
That’s a good idea to talk to the coaches. I’m sure they will have some good suggestions. As a life long sufferer of foot pain I can sympathize. I have had two operations for ingrown toenails and while they are not fun, the rewards are worth it.
Ethan is good kid, we all know that. But he is a teenage boy and you are his Mother. Of course he is going to think everything you say or do is wrong.
He gave his word. There is no time like the present to remind him of what that means. It becomes ever more important as he grows up.
Stick to your guns, Beckie and Good Luck to you both.
I agree with Rusti. He committed to something, he needs to learn to stick to that commitment. Sounds like he is just frustrated (in part at least) due to the injury and perhaps that he can’t really do as much in the way of participating perhaps? Just saying, I want to quit isn’t a good enough reason. If he were getting bullied heavily or his grades were being adversely effected or something more concrete, I’d make him stick it out for the rest of the season at least.
I’m with Rusti too – finish or pay up. If he’s got physical problems, then it’s understandable why he’s want to quit… but think about it BEFORE signing up!
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My mother would have let me quit scott free, but I usually stuck out things I did-even if I wanted to quit…and I usually ended up enjoying them and was glad I didnt quit!
He’s agreed to finish out the season – not too happy about it but I think once he builds a bit more muscle he’ll do better. He’s in the middle of a growth spurt – 6 inches in 7 months – so his muscles and coordination haven’t caught up yet to his new height. I talked with his jumping coach who was very understanding (thankfully) and told her he was to finish the season, even if that meant Me coming to practice every day to make sure he works… We talked about ankle braces but believe his ankles will strengthen faster. So keep your fingers crossed and thanks for the advice – it was following along with what Roddy and I thought, for all the same reasons. Great minds think a like! Thanks guys, I knew I could depend on you!
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