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Whether your an adult or a child it’s just wrong . I was bullied as a kid and can’t imagine how hard it is today . With computers and how you can be nasty over the computer without facing someone . Not having to look at someone makes a coward feel better I guess .
Yeah I hate bullies . School was a nightmare because of them . If I deal with them now it’s still a pain .
Please if a child is actting strange it might not be drugs , it coulod be bullying . And teach kids to stand up and help others who are being bullied .I just thought this might be a good thread . I hope so at least .
ABC Family is going to have a show called Cyberbully . Good for them . Maybe people will wake up about this problem now . The series starts this month I think .
People wonder why kids these days grow into adults who are so image conscious that it affects their mental health. I went to a school where I was bullied everyday for having pale skin and dark hair. If I was weaker minded I may have been tempted to change my image to stop the bullying but as it is I’m quite strong minded. If anything it made me absolutely determined to not blend in with the orange-skinned, blonde-haired majority. I think it’s so important for people to learn from as young an age as possible, that human beings come in all shapes, sizes, colours, etc. Individuality and imperfection are some of the beautiful things that make us human. 🙂
It’s like adults even have to find someone they can dislike just to feel better themselves . Kids were like that too . I was just different . Liking vampires werewolves , mermaids before they became popular . Long before .
I got teased and things stolen from me . I tended to ignore them . I’m a scorpio . LOL . Never drank or toke drugs . Never saw the fun of it . Both of my grandfather’s were alcholic . Not something I wanted to be .Don’t worry about a long posting . It might help someone . Cyperbullies . I can’t imagine dealing with them .
If kids realized every child is insuacure just like them . Can’t spell .
Cyperbullies have driven kids to kill themselves and nobody tries to stop them . And the murders because of jeolosy . Horrible . Then parents encouraging the kids . Thats wrong too .I know what you mean Sasha, I still come across adults today who are so insecure and unhappy with themselves that they’ll victimise someone who they perceive to be more attractive than they are.. sad.
I always loved the old horror movies so figures like Cassandra Peterson/Elvira and Barbara Steele were the kinds of women who inspired me to be myself.
Funny how quickly people are to judge. Sometimes hard to blow them off but you just have too. Put your head proudly in the air and walk on by. Different strokes for different folks. If god intended all of us to be the same them we would be. An oh what a boring world it would be to live in. So as the song says live and let live.
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I used to get the snide goth comments too, Kujacker. XD Funny thing is, I didn’t really consider the term or “label” until other people started using it. I remember wanting dark hair and black lipstick when I was really young but it didn’t occur to me that that was something that was out of the ordinary until I was a teenager lol. My skin won’t tan at all in the sun, if anything I get a few more freckles. I like it though, no way was I going to change it. I’ve never used sun beds or been out in the sun for excess amounts of time, so my skin should be in much better condition than those bullies when we’re all old haha!
I agree that school days are the worst.. I was super happy when I got my first job as it meant being around mature people for once lol.
How things have changed . People use to ware powder on their faces and carry umbrellas to keep the sun off their white faces . They were called rich . Anyone with a tan was a peasant . Someone who worked for a living .
We should stop labeling others . We’re all human .My husband and I were both horribly bullied as children. In my case, it was only because I was the tallest kid in class, and my family wasn’t wealthy. It left a lot of “scars”. My neice by adoption is 14 years old, and I found out about a month ago that she literally had a pyschotic break, and may have to be comitted. she had a depressive disorder, and was literally tortured by the girls at her schoool, because she’s asian. they went after her on facebook, in school, through texting…everything. And now my husband and I are terrified that our son will be bullied when he reaches school because he has nystagmus. I don’t understand why people, especially children are so cruel, but I think a lot of it comes from what their parents aree or aren’t teaching them. And I truly beleive that children under a certain age should NOT have access to cell phones or social internet sites until they are old enough to understand that what you say to people, not matter how and where you say it HURTS and can linger!
Keeper of the Fledgings
That’s terrible about your niece, Azurielle.. when I was at school, the internet was still kind of “new” and social networking didn’t really exist. I used the internet moreso to escape the real world actually. I can’t imagine how easy it is these days for kids to torment others..
I hope she gets better, I think she needs some time out to be away from the people harassing her. I went through some bad depression from around 13-18. I left school after final exams at 16 and spent the next few years trying to recover from the trauma. Thankfully my parents didn’t hassle me too much about finding a job or anything so I was able to appear pretty lazy around the house whilst I worked on my mental state. I think a break to regain some kind of positive outlook on life is a good thing.
Like Elvira, I’m strong minded. However, I was a different sort of case in school lol. A lot of people were actually “afraid” of me. I never bullied anyone, but just because I WAS so strong minded and unaffected by what people said to me that it made most people back away from me. I had my own group of friends that didn’t care, and were happy to be around me. That’s all I needed! I knew who I was.
I started wearing fox tails to school around 6th or 7th grade. At first I got a lot of crap from it. After awhile, when people realized I didn’t even give them a backward glance, did they stop trying to bring me down. I still wear fox tails every day 😉 Got one on right now heh. I also wear bondage, spiked and otherwise “goth” collars. They didn’t get as much crap as the tail, but a wee little bit.
Another thing I did that didn’t get my bullied, but got me getting a lot of random questions often… and again, something I still do today… is I cover up as much as possible and wear sunblock no matter how little I’ll be out in the sun. I started doing this in high school, and it’s not really a big deal until you know where I live. It’ll be in the 100’s today. I hate the sun, and so I don’t want it touching me. This leads to a different thing, of my skin being pale white. I like it that way! But coupled with my collars and dark clothing choices, I use to get snide goth comments a lot. Not so much anymore.
Kids are especially mean. And when they see something “out of the norm” they feel they have to attack it. School days are the WORST for kids! Just the slightest different makes kids attack and/or heavily question it and that causes self esteem problems.
As you mention the internet, I remember seeing an online comic about this topic. It had two different people at computers, and one was attacking the other. Something like a flying person came down and picked up the attacker and carried him to the person he was attacking. The attacker apologized, having being face to face with the other person. The point the comic was making was… you can’t act the way you do on the internet to someone’s face. So why do it in the first place.
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Thats so sad . Heartbreaking . And nobody did a thing to stop it . Teachers just don’t care and parents don’t either .
I don’t think I could survive in today’s world . My mom was bullied . Her entire family was in the small town they lived in . Some arrogant family thought they should leave town and a woman tryed to have my mom her sisters and brothers taken away from their mother because her husband died . That woman later died of cancer . My mom never knew her father . He died before she was born . Blood poisoning .
People think they are better an they are not .Your story is just so sad . I refuse to go on Facebook .
Myspace was bad enough . I gave it up years ago .
No kids should not have cell phones if they miss use them . Computers too .We’re hoping that the special program she’s in now (she was taken completely out of school, and is being schooled through the program, which is also a mental health rehab) will help so she won’t ahve to be committed. And her parents tried to stop things by cutting off her facebook, and limiting cell hpone use, but the other girls who were cruel were terribly creative. And even when I was in school, before cell phones and internet, kids found a way to bully. Parents of the bullied children do try to help, but only if they know it’s going on. I think as a society, though, we’ve lost a lot of our empathy due to the facelessness that the internet and cell phones provide. People are just losing touch with other people.
Keeper of the Fledgings
Very ture it’s easy for people to do horrible as long as they don’t need to face people .
I get pm’s here that can get nasty . I refuse to deal with some people because of it . I’m going to quit selling Windstones here soon because of it . Just brings me stress and unhappiness . I just have a few left to sell . Most of the people I’ve sent things to are delighted .Friends here have told me how bullying has gone on here and I’ve seen it in threads , mean and cruel behavior . Yes if you don’t have to face the person you can be cruel and mean spirited . This not the place to do it .
Please respect each other .Hmm. I know that a lot goes on here that I don’t see, but I’ve been a member here for years, and no one has ever sent me a nasty/threatening or bullying pm. In fact, out of all the forums that I am a member of, this one has the nicest and most thoughtful people. That’s unpleasant to here that people here might not be as nice as they seem.
Keeper of the Fledgings
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