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My husband wants like 5…I told him to keep dreaming. I’ll warm up to the idea once we get a HOUSE. This apartment is way too small for kids. It’s crowded enough with the pets. I want to be completely stable when it comes to money before the decision comes around…from the looks of things it won’t be for a while. And that’s fine with me.
*nods* I’m in the same exact boat! *hands you a life jacket*
I’m married and my husband and I would like to have children but we’re trying to get everything all set first. I need to finish college (I’ve recently gone back to finish my degree after a several year hiatus due to work), and hopefully get a house or be on our way towards one before we start trying. We would like to have two. 🙂 Of course, what we’d like to have and what life throws at you are often quite different, lol.
I have two kids, boy and girl 9 and 8.
Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done!
My advice if you’re not sure: Wait until you are sure!
While the kids are fun now, I wouldn’t go back to the baby stage for all the money in the world!
Homework time sucks big big as well 😆But to watch them grow and expand their minds is an amazing journey!
I have two girls Bethany 9 and Ashley 6 with my first husband. My husband I have now and I tried for another one and that didn’t work so we’ll try again in a few months.
Hubby and I have Gavin. He’ll be four in November. We knew we wanted kids, but we wanted time to just be together after we got married (our dating and engagement time were spent separated – first by 250 miles then by the Atlantic Ocean *grumbles silly Army for stationing him in Germany for two years right out of Basic and AIT*). I ended up getting pregnant four months before our first wedding anniversary. 😆 We weren’t trying, but we weren’t not trying either.
I wouldn’t change a thing though. Gavin’s been a godsend for keeping me sane through my husband’s deployments. He’s a bundle of energy though. One of his second cousins? (husband’s cousin’s son) came up to me when I visited earlier this week and said “Doesn’t he ever get tired/stop?” 😆
I’m about to start the joys of potty training with him soon. Any one got any tips? He’s never been one to care about having a dirty/wet diaper. I’ll get busy and forget about changing him (I know bad mommy 😳 ) until the diaper is so full it’s having a hard time staying closed.
pegasi1978 wrote:Hubby and I have Gavin. He’ll be four in November. We knew we wanted kids, but we wanted time to just be together after we got married (our dating and engagement time were spent separated – first by 250 miles then by the Atlantic Ocean *grumbles silly Army for stationing him in Germany for two years right out of Basic and AIT*). I ended up getting pregnant four months before our first wedding anniversary. 😆 We weren’t trying, but we weren’t not trying either.
I wouldn’t change a thing though. Gavin’s been a godsend for keeping me sane through my husband’s deployments. He’s a bundle of energy though. One of his second cousins? (husband’s cousin’s son) came up to me when I visited earlier this week and said “Doesn’t he ever get tired/stop?” 😆
I’m about to start the joys of potty training with him soon. Any one got any tips? He’s never been one to care about having a dirty/wet diaper. I’ll get busy and forget about changing him (I know bad mommy 😳 ) until the diaper is so full it’s having a hard time staying closed.
Oh my, you are going to have a rough row to hoe for waiting so long.
You might want to wait until spring, because then you can have him run around sans pants outside so when he goes, he’ll see it and feel it. Then show him what to do at the toliet when he feels like he needs to go. If you have any males around who can show him how a big boy does it, enlist their help.
Number 2 may be easier or harder depending on him. But I’d definately get him a potty chair now, or a step and one of those size adjusting seats (this one is actually better, no extra cleaning).
Good luck, since your son is talking and likely has an idea when he needs to go, you may have it easier or harder. Sometimes children are stubborn about this function, it is something “they” control, and by not cooperating with what you want them to do, they in turn can control you a little, and they will.
One thing I know is once they start noticing this bodily function, it is a good idea to jump on it and introduce the other functions of the bathroom fixtures. If you miss this window, you are going to have to find a way to direct his attention to how his body works and how he can use the toliet for them, versus messing in his pants.
From what we went through with one of my friend’s daughters, he may just decide the toliet is too much work, diapers are easier, why bother. Oy, it was a really rough year getting Megan to use the toliet, she would for BMs, but would simply wet her pants for the other.
Until I noticed part of the problem was she didn’t want to miss anything. When we started making her miss activities if she wet herself, it only took a few times before she decided missing the rest of a movie, playing with the other kids, painting, what have you wasn’t worth it and used the toliet.
I’d also get a few books about it to read to him, and see if you can get a few slightly older kids who already use the bathroom to encourage him to be a “big” like them.
Good luck.
Kyrin
There are potty chairs out there that when the kid goes, it makes music 😆
I know it’s messy, but just ditching the diapers cold turkey worked for us. Just don’t plan on going anywhere public for a bit. Start on the weekend and keep it up as long as it takes.
Wet diapers and poopy diapers are made for the kids comfort. Wet/dirty underwear are reaaaallly uncomfortable for kids. Especially if you let him stew for 10 minutes. He’s old enough to get a clue.
I might not have to wait too much longer to let him run around “nekkid”. Winter doesn’t seem to last long in my part of Georgia. 🙄 I wish I had a man around to help out, but those are in short supply what with almost all of the base being deployed.
I’ve got a potty chair, had it in the bathroom for a while now. He’ll come and sit on it fully clothed while I’m in the bathroom. His potty chair also has a part that can be taken out and put on the toilet seat and then the back of the chair folds down making it a stool.
We did have a go at it one day (trying to follow the advice in the book Potty Training in Less than a Day), but it didn’t go so well. No more than five minutes after I would let him up off the potty chair he would wet his pants. That was a long day for both of us and I haven’t tried again since then.
A friend of mine loaned me an elmo book and dvd for him to read and watch, we just haven’t gotten to them yet.
I am currently 35 weeks pregnant. Yikes!
My husband and I were not trying to conceive, and I believe I did get pregnant on our honeymoon. My husband never really wanted a child because he said they’re too much responsibility, and I wanted one-so I guess I won! He is looking forward to it now!
I originally wanted to wait until I graduated college, but the expected baby has set me back one semester which isn’t too bad.
I am nervous though!the dragon collector wrote:I’m married, but I’m not sure I want kids. I’m too worried that I won’t be a good mom. I mean I don’t think I’m very maternal. I’ve got lots of animals, but that’s different. Everyone that knows me even say that they can’t see me as a mom, and I kinda agree.
Wanna Know the first words out of my Best-friends Mothers mouth when she was told I was pregnant?
In all seriousness “She does know not to eat it right?”
My uncle almost Killed my Aunt when he was in Silicon valley for a Weekend while their Daughter had a softball tournament, the first day was so hard(My Aunt coaches the team) that she called me in to babysit for a couple hours. My friends & family had Soo much faith in me!! Honest!! 😯
Lupin wrote:Wanna Know the first words out of my Best-friends Mothers mouth when she was told I was pregnant?
In all seriousness “She does know not to eat it right?”
😆 😆 😆
Uhm, I’m trying to conceive. Been off BC for over a year. Not having much luck, but I’m pretty sure our timing’s been way off. Tried the BBT method, but got out of the habit because of the move. I should start that again… if nothing else, it’ll force me to get my lazy butt out of bed in the morning.
Twins are a possibility. Got ’em on both sides of my family, and one of his (though I don’t think that matters so much?).
I have one son who is 8. I wish my hubby only wanted 5… a basketball team. No, he wants a football team. I told him he would be lucky to get a golf team. I am currently on the IUD, so no plans for kids… esp since we are in different countries right now. But if he wants alot of kids, I am willing to try for 2. I may take my IUD out soon to get started w/the whole process… but that is a real step towards actually having another kid… and that is scary. Im 31 and not getting any younger though.
“She does know not to eat it” OMG ROTFLOL!
I have one girl, 9. When we conceived, we were thinking that maaaaybe having a child would be a possibility one day. Yup, she was as unplanned as they get. I had taken medication that threw my cycle off, and tada! There she was.
I was having a conversation with my mom yesterday how some parent overprepare; she finds it a trend, actually, in the people who have their first child after 30. They’re so much on the lookout for “normal” that they stress the children, who in turn need medication, etc. I’m so the complete opposite! In a way, I never wanted to be a mom. My husband maybe a little bit than me (being a parent, not a mom), but we thought we weren’t cut out for it, especially watching his brother doing all the wrong things.
Turns out my denial and our rather laid back attitude was the right thing to do; Chinook is blooming, she can play on her own or with friends, have a very mature conversation with us and goof around alike. She’s fine in school – we’re never hounding her to do and redo homework – she did karate for a while, plus dancing, so she’s in shape. She loves to run outside, just like she loves tv and hte computer… She has quite the personality, though (surprise, surprise, knowing her parents). So in all, she’s a good kid, who’s helped since she was 1 and half (she wanted to set the table, so we gave her a plate and watched her waddle to the table, swing the plate and drop it down on the table. It was really stressful for us, like, will she drop it, break it and hurt herself?, but she didn’t, so we let her continue. What we did, though, was hand her the second plate, then turned around and not watch her – no stress for us to communicate to her – just positive energy, dude!). So for those of you who think you wouldn’t be a good parent, think again!
Now all that said, when everyone asked (and sometimes still ask) will you have a second one? My answer is: Why? I already have a little tornado, I don’t need another one!
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