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😮 OMG Sarah! 🙁 Je suis tellement desole au subjet de ton pere.
J’espere qu’il va s’en sortir bientot.
Mes pensee son avec toi et ta famille. Si tu as besoin de parler telephone moi mais avant lance moi un message ici car ma ligne de telephone est mobilise par le dial up.Blackdesertwind wrote:😮 OMG Sarah! 🙁 Je suis tellement desole au subjet de ton pere.
J’espere qu’il va s’en sortir bientot.
Mes pensee son avec toi et ta famille. Si tu as besoin de parler telephone moi mais avant lance moi un message ici car ma ligne de telephone est mobilise par le dial up.Merci. But first I’ll see how things go tomorrow: I’ll be looking after him while my mom’s at work.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmI made out about 6 of those words other than “the”. LOL Goes to show how far my semester of French got me. LOL I can cuss in French, Spanish, Greek, and German…All taught to me by exchange students. LOL
Let us know how he is faring please? I hope all goes well. 🙂 *hugs*Blackdesertwind wrote:Alors Sarah? Comment c’est passee ta journee? Ton pere lui? 🙁
Pas trop pire. Comme tu dois t’occuper de Michel, je pense que tu comprendras le mieux.
My father is recovering from the infections, but he’s still extremely confused. Being home has lifted his spirits big time: he wants to talk, he jokes, but he might get lost in his conversations if you don’t guide him at times. However, when it comes to day-to-day stuff, he’s like a child. You have to tell him to put on his reading glasses to read (which he doesn’t do much – the attention span is no longer there, it’s now short to non-existent), to go shave, to take his shower. My mom said that on Tuesday morning, when she did tell him to shower, he checked with her to see where the bathroom was. That’s another thing: my parents have a powder room downstairs and one upstairs. The toilet is not in the bathroom. He just can’t find the one upstairs, so he goes downstairs. I had him empty the dishwasher and he put at least half of the stuff away in the wrong spot.
He basically needs constant attention; he can’t occupy himself in any way at this point. I had brought some freelance work but I wasn’t able to do anything; he was constantly with me. We think that this whole scared him and that he needs to be with us to get reassurance (which makes perfect sense). Hopefully, in a few days/weeks, he’ll feel reassured and comfortable enough to so things by himself. He only came back home on Monday night, so it’s still very soon.
In the morning, I had gone to the doctor’s office with my sister-in-law to drop off the report from the clinic in Nepal and she also gave me some details that weren’t on the report and at 3:30, the doctor’s secretary called to have us come in to get some additional tests done, including a chest x-ray. The lab was still open, so I took him – the sooner, the better, right? Well, it was a very, very good thing I was with him, otherwise, I’m not sure how long it would have taken the nurse to do the x-rays.
Now I know he really, really couldn’t have travelled alone. My sister-in-law says that he was worse when she first picked him up, he was much, much worse: he wouldn’t get dressed or take his meds, etc. My brother says he starts to cry everytime he imagines our dad lost in an airport somewhere on the other side of the world. While it didn’t happen, now I truly see that it would have if the people at the orphanage had let him go. We’re even more thankful now that they didn’t, that they cared enough. I even spoke with the lady who started all these orphanages (Child Haven); she was so sorry my dad got sick and told me they missed him since he was so good with the kids.
Anywho. I’m back there on Thursday and I’ll see if a full 3 days at home will have helped him improve.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmOh DragonMedley! Sending you all big hugs over there! I hope the memory thing gets better, we have to deal with some short term memory loss issues with Louis’ mom and it’s not easy. We send you love, hugs, and most important, the patience to deal with anything that is to come.
Memory loss (whether it’s short term or long term) is a scary thing. My husband’s father’s memory has been shot since he had to go into the hospital during my husband’s second deployment due to his drinking. He can’t live alone anymore (in-laws are separated) so lives with one of his sisters and their mother, though their health isn’t the best right now either.
The memory loss is a scary thing–I’ve had to deal with a situation like that but it also sounds like your dad is improving! So glad he is home with you and will have the reassurance of having you there. Keep us posted and we’ll keep sending our thoughts a support and many, many hugs! 🙂
Same here, only it was ME dealing with the memory loss – made me extremely paranoid… Roddy nearly had me committed 😮 It happened when I got a weird interaction with several different meds. including 4 different steroids at the same once to treat an inflammation of the lungs. Scared us ALL to death; especially the boys *I was really weird but don’t remember any of it except the paranoia* 😮 😈 😮
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twindragonsmum wrote:Same here, only it was ME dealing with the memory loss – made me extremely paranoid… Roddy nearly had me committed 😮 It happened when I got a weird interaction with several different meds. including 4 different steroids at the same once to treat an inflammation of the lungs. Scared us ALL to death; especially the boys *I was really weird but don’t remember any of it except the paranoia* 😮 😈 😮
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We think the initial meds he was given might have something to do with it, plus he was starting to have some problems before, just nothing as acute as this. Your experience gives me hope!
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmThat’s frightening. I really hope this situation is only temporary and your father recovers fully. *hugs*
I found him a lot better yesterday; when I got into the house, my parents were arguing, which is a good sign, in a way 🙂 There’s still a lot of ground to cover, but now I’m really hopeful that this extreme confusion will fade quickly enough. He was lucid enough to unsew the zipper of his coat; on Tuesday, there’s no way he’d been able to do so. He had to stop after a little while, though, due to fatigue. He tires very easily, which is not surprising at all with the infections and the psychological problem. I think my mom will drive to my place on Saturday: it’ll allow her to get out of her house, and my dad too. He’s very anxious as soon as you mention going out; he wants to stay in and needs to know where people are in the house. He needs familiar surroundings, but also to interact with the outside. My place is a nice compromise.
He told me yesterday: “You know, when I got home, I had no idea where I was.” He has very lucid moments and since we can’t tell right away, he just responds huffing and puffing, asking why the hell we’re treating him like a child!
After his nap, though, he was lost again. It took him a while to get his thoughts together enough to shave and shower, but eventually, he did. I was downstairs, listening to his every move. I didn’t want to pressure him too much since the awaking from the nap (he slept very, very deeply) had obviously gotten him confused, but eventually, off he went. We spent the rest of the afternoon with him listening to music and me reading.
It’s looking good!
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmIt can’t be easy what you guys are going through. 🙁 He must feel alot of frustration himself.
I’m always terrorised that Michel won’t be the same after a long seizure. So I sympathize with you.
As far as him being like a child most times, I understand that but you had it worse; You had a father then all the sudden it’s different…you don’t recognize the person but he’s still there inside. The blow was harder on you and your family. My son was a child and staid a child so it’s different in my eyes. It’s still not easy but I think it is compared to you.
If you ask at the hospital sometime they have volunteers that can keep him company so you can go out to get a breather or make errands. I never used that service but I know it’s out there.
I’m glad he seems to be getting better with each passing day. 🙂
My thoughts are with you guys….sending positive and healing energy. 🙂It sounds like he’ll be back to his normal self–it will just take a while. Confusion is very frustrating to both parties. Your dad gets upset because you’re treating him like a child–he’s coming back there. But the moment he takes a nap, everything erases and he’s almost back to where he started. But all this looks better now than it did! My thoughts are also with you! 🙂
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