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Love of a single mom for a physically or mentally challenge child.
Love for this child means:
*Making a difficult choice from the start.
*Sacrificing ones own needs for that child.
*Knowing you will never have a normal life but taking that road anyway.
*Giving everything you have for seeing joy light up that face.
*Knowing you might never find the significant other since you made the choice of caring fulltime for that child.
*Knowing that you are probably jeopardizing your own future for the quality of your child’s present life .
*This is what it means to me, this is what I stand for and live for.
There is not a day that I’m not afraid of my future. Knowing that it will be very difficult for me eventualy when I’m older.
But nothing can make me change the course I have taken for as long as it is in my ability to take personal care of that child.
Yes I cry when I think of my bleak future but at least I know that my son has the best care he could get while I am able to take care of him by myself.That is what mothers’ love is made of.
Author: Copyright © 2010 N.L.
Please do not reproduce without the author’s permission:
Myself; Natalie Lavoie
Thank you
PS: this is not a poem but feelings put to paper.Thank you for posting this… 🙂 I’m the mother of a special needs child… It really hits home, and touched my heart 🙂
Kalandra wrote:Thank you for posting this… 🙂 I’m the mother of a special needs child… It really hits home, and touched my heart 🙂
You are?! 😮
I’d love to hear more about you!
Please PM me if you feel like it. 🙂Blackdesertwind wrote:Kalandra wrote:Thank you for posting this… 🙂 I’m the mother of a special needs child… It really hits home, and touched my heart 🙂
You are?! 😮
I’d love to hear more about you!
Please PM me if you feel like it. 🙂
I will, we moms need to stick together!Kalandra wrote:Blackdesertwind wrote:Kalandra wrote:Thank you for posting this… 🙂 I’m the mother of a special needs child… It really hits home, and touched my heart 🙂
You are?! 😮
I’d love to hear more about you!
Please PM me if you feel like it. 🙂
I will, we moms need to stick together!
Couldn’t agree more! 🙂What happened to this thread?
Oh, I didn’t see this, but I doubt it was terrible1 I hope that someone didn’t Pm you or anything just to tell you that! Don’t feel sad. 🙁
Looks like I walked into the end of a PM or something!
I am sorry for the apparent downswing of the post – but from the outside looking in, it seems like I am lost here.
OK I’ll post it back up. 🙂 You can thank Jasmine and Kalandra for this. Because I didn’t want to put it back.
🙁 Sorry I took it down.
Just got an email from my dad said he liked it so It’s back up.
PS: this is not a poem but feeling put to paper.I’m glad that you put this back up. It’s honest and beautiful. It’s the thoughts of a strong, hopeful and selfless human being.
Thank you BDW, for reposting this thread…. I had tears in my eyes as I read what you wrote… because it’s so close to home for me too!
Well….. This is my story : I have two boys…. a 6 year old, and a 3 year old.
Our 6 year old “Ethan” was diagnosed with Autism when he was 18months old
I knew something was’nt right (even as a 1st time mom) I just could’nt put my finger on it. He was’nt useing gestures, was’nt pointing,clapping or waving… he started missing milestones…and one day woke up and lost ALL of his speech. (it was like having a new baby) and I was really scared!…Friends and family would say things like “oh he’s just a boy..he will grow out of it” “Thats normal..he just does’nt want to gesture” “your just an overly worried 1st time mother” “he’s fine”….and on and on… I just knew something was going on!….
I took him to his peds. Dr. several times…and he finally referred us to a cener to have Ethan evaluated…… The process was mindnumbing…we met with a team of specialists ( A Speech pathologist, a Occupational therapist, a phychologist, a behavioral specialist…and a few more who I cant remember what they specialized in)
after about 4 hours…of information gathering…testing him…the team was ready to give me their findings…( I was thinking to myself… what could they find…he’s just not gesturing, and he’s a little speech delayed He’s a boy… I was in denial)
When they said” we beleive your son is on the spectrum for Autism” , my world came crashing down…I could’nt stop crying…. 😥 Au- what? I knew of autism…but this was the furthermost thing from my mind. ( when you have a child…even before they are born…you start imagining all the things you think they may do, or become.) I was’nt sure anymore what was going to happen.
Ethan started speech and Occupational therapy a few weeks later. And I started a new life.Where is Ethan now, Doing well… he still gets speech and OT…he is a bright happy little boy, he’s reading, writing…we have our ups and downs….one step foward, and two back…as they say… I was the mom who planned his future, now im the mom who takes it one day at a time!
Ethan has given me the gift of understanding, patience, compassion, and love.I wanted to share this with everyone… and bring some awareness, and maybe open some minds…. some kids are different…and no matter what…we love them unconditionally.
BDW and Kelandra, this was beautiful. I started crying when I read it, you are very brave people.
I have put my entire soul on paper before, but haven’t the courage to post it publicly like this. Maybe one day.
Blackdesertwind and Kalandra, bless your hearts! AND big ::HUGS:: as well!
There’s the story I was missing! You both conveyed your life’s purpose and as challenging as it is, you are doing your best! And that is exactly what it takes!
Kal – I told you about my neighbor boy who is now a man – and want to share that with Blackdesertwind, as well. Todd had severe autism as a young boy, and I have watched him for over 25 years now, grow into a wonderful and caring young man. I wouldn’t want to have another neighbor. He has a full time job in the grocery market, he drives both a truck and a motorcycle, and he is the NICEST PERSON I think I know. Sincere, a great conversationalist and honest – if our society had more Todd’s, our world would be a kinder and safer planet. His parents raised him the best they knew how and while it wasn’t easy for them, they can definately be proud of themselves and their son.
I just finished watching The Apprentice, and Holly’s Charity WON – she raised over $300,000. toward Autism – it seems more and more we all know someone who’s child has been affected.
^5 to all the Moms out there – may our children teach us well!
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