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As we all know, things are bad all over with this economy. I work for a contractor so I really see the down end of it all. They have cut us a day a week without pay. Yeah it hurts, but I still have a job and I use that day to do errands, make vet and doctor’s appointment, shopping etc so I have the weekends to myself. Well, I had yesterday off and today our shop is closed for the 4th. I did all my shopping and running around yesterday just so I could sit back for the rest of this long weekend, relax and get some things done.
Well my coworker calls me early this morning–quite upset because she was hoping on a big payment from one of our customers and it isn’t going to happen. It isn’t due until next month, so I knew that would happen. She is all upset because she is going on vacation at the end of the month and is afraid that if the shop can’t make payroll, which is a possibility, she’ll have to cancel her plans. Notice the big deal here is that she has to cancel her vacation. I’m not trying to minimize her anxiety but she isn’t going to lose her home, car or has extensive medical bills she has to pay. She is calling me up wondering what ‘we’ were doing to do because this is scary! Got news for her, it’s been scary all this year. I know exactly what my boss is doing to do, the blockhead, he’ll just borrow more money from the bank.
I was looking forward to a nice, relaxing weekend and here she is stirring me up because she may have to cancel her vacation. [sigh] Just me ranting a little again and trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. If worse comes to worse I’ll have to keep hands off on the credit cards but I don’t feel it is the end of the world–not yet anyway.
So—-is anyone enjoying their weekend–let me know, I really, really, really, really need to hear some good news for a change!
Eh, don’t let her get you stirred up. It’s unfortunate she may have to cancel her plans, but maybe she needs a dose of reality. 😉
I have to work tonight and tomorrow, but we have some fun planned for Sunday. This weeks bills are paid, there’s food for the bbq, some friends to hang out with….things could be worse. 😀
lamortefille wrote:but maybe she needs a dose of reality. 😉
Yes she does! You worked the hours you need your pay! 😡 To bad for her! Sorry but she is only thinking of herself.
I would tell her what you told us (in a different way of course).
“It would be too bad if you need to cancel your vacation, but see the good side: you’re not about to lose your house!” or something like that.
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmWhat got me is that she called me–before 8AM to pound my ears about this. I had already told her what might happen. Now we aren’t spring chickens anymore–in fact she is 3 years older than I am–I like to say we are approaching the ‘Depends’ stage of our life–when we are truly multitaskers–sneeze, cough, belch, pass gas, hiccup and pee at the same time LOL 😆 I was just taken back by her wondering what ‘we’ were going to do? Well, outta my hands–I’ve put things in persective since then.
We all at times rant and vent on this site which I think is wonderful because other members can put things in perspective for us. Times are hard but I do look at it this way–I have a roof over my head, my health (for now anyway), there is food a-plenty for myself and my animals and that monster payment will come in next month! Also, I still have a job that is paying me and not only paying me but is paying for my benefits like medical, dental and vision! What more can you ask for?! My boss lacks good business sense and managing skills (a blockhead) but he is a decent person–clueless and spoilt but decent. We get very decent pay here–won’t find that anywhere else! So I roll with it–have to tighten the belt but I’m not out on the street! I try at times to make her see that–but she, along with another POS in that shop do need a big time reality check–the economy has taken a huge dump and everyone is affected from coast to coast. So SHUT UP AND DO YOUR DAMN JOB AND BE THANKFUL THAT YOU HAVE ONE! 👿
It did upset me that her only concern was that she would have to cancel her vacation–OH WELL 😈 :shrug: But I am going to have a good time–starting to put the finishing touches on that weird Muse I’m working on and start another piece and try and get ready for the PYO swap! Now that’s a good time–do what you want, spend time with friends and family and just enjoy the moment.
Hope all of you have a great day and enjoy yourselves! 😀
LadyFirebird wrote:Times are hard but I do look at it this way–I have a roof over my head, my health (for now anyway), there is food a-plenty for myself and my animals and that monster payment will come in next month! Also, I still have a job that is paying me and not only paying me but is paying for my benefits like medical, dental and vision! What more can you ask for?! My boss lacks good business sense and managing skills (a blockhead) but he is a decent person–clueless and spoilt but decent. We get very decent pay here–won’t find that anywhere else! So I roll with it–have to tighten the belt but I’m not out on the street! I try at times to make her see that–but she, along with another POS in that shop do need a big time reality check–the economy has taken a huge dump and everyone is affected from coast to coast. So SHUT UP AND DO YOUR DAMN JOB AND BE THANKFUL THAT YOU HAVE ONE! 👿
I think if you told her this in nicer, more diplomatic words, she wouldn’t be so quick to vent to you anymore about possibly losing a luxury like a vacation. I hope you have a good weekend! Oh, and tell her not to call you before 9AM.
Whenever I’m stressing about something big or small, I can usually squelch a lot of anxiety with “In three months, are you going to be worried about this?”
It’s incredibly helpful!
And yeah, your coworker seems like a dramamonger. She needs a little perspective. She doesn’t have to cancel her vacation if they payment is coming, just delay it.
purpledragonclaw wrote:I think if you told her this in nicer, more diplomatic words, she wouldn’t be so quick to vent to you anymore about possibly losing a luxury like a vacation. I hope you have a good weekend! Oh, and tell her not to call you before 9AM.
Yeah! Turn off your ringer 😀
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htm😀 😀 You could always ask if she is worrying for “real” or is she just “recreational worrying” as my hubby puts it… 😀
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chrisherself wrote:“In three months, are you going to be worried about this?”
twindragonsmum wrote:“recreational worrying”
I like both of these. 8) Some things we have to worry about and/or plan for, but others…..
Ya! I really like “recreational worrying” too–when phrased like that, I realize I STILL do too much worrying, about things that aren’t as scary as I make them seem in my head. I think, sometimes we feel obligated to worry. She does have it very lucky, if this is the biggest thing she has to worry about. But, she might feel guilty, subconsciously, about the fact that she is fortunate, so worrying about this makes her feel normal in an economic climate where EVERYONE is worrying.
Your co-worker is calling you at odd hours, and has used this “event” (the big payment being late) as something to gravitate and obsess on. It seems like she just needs some attention!! I have a feeling, if you were to make a lunch date with her, and let her vent, you might not get the 9am calls. Especially if you can give her some gentle perspective on the whole thing, after listening to what she has to say. Heck, I really need that from my girlfriends too sometimes! The best thing my friends can do for me when I’m freaking over something is to NOT jump in with a solution right away, even though that’s what every well-meaning human wants to do. Most of the time, if you let someone who’s upset “talk it out” themselves, by the time they get finished telling the “story,” they feel better just for being listened to. By letting her talk about it she may realize that what’s she’s stressing about is actually kind of trivial.
She was going through a rough patch last week and we did go out to lunch with the boss’ blessing. Someone made the comment that she sounds like a dramamonger and quite frankly, that fits her to a T. We both know what the score is at work so I was a bit surprised when she called about this. Of course I haven’t told the whole story and that would take up more time and space than I would want it to. I feel this is coming from her husband. He isn’t working, on disability and the feeling I’ve always got is that she is desparately trying to hold onto to him. He is 10 years her junior and hasn’t grown up. My boss even feels that he is using her and will eventually leave her if he finds something better. This is his mom they plan on visiting, so me thinks that this set back on the payment is giving her anxiety attacks because she has to confront him about cancelling their plans and he may not like that. Believe me, this is a sad, sad situation! But she has made her bed and she has to lie in it! I mean this guy is so useless that if something isn’t going right for him, he is on the phone to her at work to get it straightened out! I mean, he’s just sitting on his a** all day and he wants her to resechedule his doctor’s appointment or take care of an order he placed that is going wrong. Talk about useless! But when she does this and complains to me it makes my day suck as well. I needed to sit back and reassess the whole situation–she isn’t happy and wants to spread that misery to others if she can. Next time I’ll just let the answering machine pick up!
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