I am livid

Oh boy, men are so lazy….don’t feel like cleaning at the moment? Make that never! 😡
I’m sorry hon that they are bruts to you. You don’t deserve it. They probable get mad at you since you make them feel guilty when you clean after them.
I understand how you feel going through it every day.
What they need to do is pick up good habit of as soon as they are done the sandwitch just put the mayo and other stuff away and wipe that counter BEFORE they take that first bite out of the sandwitch and sit their but on the couch. If they do the oposite….they’ll never get their but of that couch.
If they cook something rise the pot and wipe down the stove top again before they eat.
I do it and the food isn’t cold plus we all know how we don’t feel like cleaning up after a meal.

But men are wired differently…hard to change their habit. 🙁

My BF gets mad when I clean in front of him and he told me once that it’s because it makes him feel like shit and he would have to get up and do it himself…but he never does.
Last week after I had just passed the vaccum he came home while I was putting away the vaccum (so he knew) and took of his shoes full of dirt at the door…I was surprise since usualy he doesn’t. But then he put them back on to go outside only to get back to the kitchen and start making himself a cofee. I was livid….in a nice way I asked him way he had put his shoes on, and he answered that well he was going back outside but at the door decided to make himself a cofee before. So again I asked him why he hadn’t taken of his shoes…He point blank told me: “I didn’t feel like it!”
👿 I almost lost it there!
So like I said LAZYNESS!!!! PLAIN AND SIMPLE!
I totaly understand your frustration.
And I’m sure alot of us go through that every day…..men! :spank:
Sorry for the highjack

Eaglefeather, may I recommend not cleaning up behind them? They won’t break their habits because in their minds, you’re always there to clean up after them. Stop putting food away, condiments away, cleaning the counters, dishes, etc., except your own. If you run out of clean utensils, can you use paper and plastic? If they ask you why you stopped cleaning, you can tell them, “No one else is, so I figured why should I?” Just keep the things you need clean, if you can.

😆 That is what I do.
I will clean my stuff before he gets home (if he comes home at all from work)…all the things he left out from his night of eating, I leave there.
He then cleans it when it gets bad but at the same time yells at me for not doing it. I remind him that he messed it up and he still blows up at me, said I should have done it at the same time as my stuff. 😡 Grrrr…
I mean the dishwasher is right there so is the trash…how hard can it be for him to do it?
😕 I don’t know their temperment eaglefeather but be careful…
Good luck 🙂

That’s lousey, eaglefeather 🙁 Everyone is right, if you always clean up after them they will think it’s alright to keep making the messes. It may be hard for you to put up with their slobbery, but you could try it for a while. Clean up after yourself and ignore the messes the others make. If they never do clean and eventually have the nerve to complain about it being dirty, remind them that they complained when you cleaned and ask them what they would like you to do.

I know it’s frustrating… I used to do the same thing, constantly picking up after two teenage brothers and a step-dad who are all lazy as sin. Finally I got sick of it, and to this day I clean up after numero uno only (despite certain men in the house who make it clear they think I’m the lazy, selfish one for not making sure the house is always spotless 😡 ). I’ll dust, or run the sweeper, normal maintenance chores, but specific messes made by others I won’t touch with a ten foot pole. Eventually it does get easier to ignore — both the messes and the people constantly making them.

I’ve had this discussion many times.

I don’t clean. But yes, I can take my dishes back to the kitchen at least.

I will clean my own things, like computer parts, paperwork, stuff I scatter around… but I don’t ‘clean’ in the sense of dusting, clothes, dishes, etc.

I do however, do all household repairs, vehicle repairs, computer repairs, all finances, budgeting and checkbooks, carry all heavy objects, I do go grocery shopping, run errands, take care of anything else that is required.

So we think it’s fair, usually.

I don’t clean. But yes, I can take my dishes back to the kitchen at least.

I will clean my own things, like computer parts, paperwork, stuff I scatter around… but I don’t ‘clean’ in the sense of dusting, clothes, dishes, etc.

I do however, do all household repairs, vehicle repairs, computer repairs, all finances, budgeting and checkbooks, carry all heavy objects, I do go grocery shopping, run errands, take care of anything else that is required.

So we think it’s fair, usually.
Yes well my absent man doesn’t do any of the above….not because he doesn’t have the skills but because he doesn’t FEEL like it.
I’m the one that does the landscaping (and pays for it)….cut the grass shovel, fix stuff in the house if I have the skills.
Does the groceries and pays for all of them as of Jan. My budgeting…etc…Don’t know what he does whit his money.
Pay the phone bill, etc…and the regular chores that men think are for women to do.
If I want him to do something I have to wait like years most of the time.( no exaduration here)

Not all men are like you Snap. 😉

Uh, BDW, my husband is a man and is more of a neat freak than anyone I know, so its not the gender and he certainly is not lazy… though he may be in the minority. 🙂

I feel your pain. My mom doesnt clean up afer herself and it drives me nuts. She will leave wadded up tissue (with blood spots on it) on the couch along with old newspapers and banana peels and she hoards EVERYTHING!! Im sorry your man doesnt help. He probably gets a little mad beacuse you make him feel like he doesnt help… and maybe the truth hurts.