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Too often I feel like a ghost that travels the Earth. I know I am exaggerating this, but it is too often that I feel like my opinions and feelings do not matter to anyone. If they do matter, I am left in the dark about it because I often feel ignored. I am not saying this about the people on this forum, in fact I love coming here because I do get acknowledged. You guys are my only friends, because I only have acquaintences in my everyday life, and now with a baby, I only have family. I wish we could all live closer together. 🙁 But even with my family, it seems like what I find to be interesting is in fact dull and not worth responding too. I mean, a few weeks ago I saw pelicans for the first time, and I was really excited about it, but the people I was telling the story too just didn’t care. In fact, they didn’t even make eye contact with me, and they just said “oh.” It just sucks so much because I live my life with the motto “treat others the way you’d like to be treated”. That way of living just comes naturally to me because I feel that everyone should feel important and loved. When they have stuff to say, I listen intently and I respond in a way that makes them feel like what they experienced was as great as it made them feel. In fact, I take great interest in what others have to share. I don’t think I have one of those auras that some people have–you know, the auras that seem to attract friendly people and conversation their way. But I don’t understand those auras sometimes because I know someone who just talkes about herself all the time…literally, but for some reason she has tons of people who call her, want to be around her and help her with any little thing she has. Me on the other hand, if I need someone, they are never there.
In fact, I don’t even normally draw attention to myself like this, but it has been on my mind for quite a while, and I have finally, hesitantly decided to share what I am feeling because I need you guys. I’m sorry for the rant. 😥*hugs* Being one of those who seems to spend her life being ‘half-invisible’ whether she wants to or not–I completely understand the feeling. 🙁
I hope you find someone you can talk to who is really interested and really cares–besides the wonderful people here!
Eaglefeather, let me invite you to be an honorary member of my family… *HUGS* you’d fit right in and would be able to persue your interests without being made to feel that you were weird… we already are! 😆
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I know that feeling all too well.
I feel totally ignored and no one knows or cares how much I have done to help others less forutnate. I’m ready to take back my life and just pay off the bills and not worry about anyone else
I’m tired of being ignored and treated like I have no idea what I’m talking about or I’m not important. I’m going to get my home life in order and work these bills outWell, I for one think seeing pelicans for the first time is a super experience, and I’m glad that you enjoyed it! And hey, I hear you about feeling half-invisible. My sister is one of those “Look at me! I’m on stage!” personalities; I’m a “Don’t stare at me” type. I’m quiet; it’s just the way I am. My sister attracts people like ants to honey; unfortunately for her she tends to attract some really unpleasant people and then have a hard time seeing them for what they are. Her “filter” has improved a lot over the years, but she took some hard knocks growing up. Seeing her go through all of this made me think that maybe it’s not so bad to be quiet.
Maybe what you say about auras is applicable here too, because I don’t seem to make many ripples on the psychic plane. In school I used to inadvertently drive my roommates crazy because I’d walk up behind them and they wouldn’t hear me; then I’d scare the crud out of them when they turned around and HELLO! there’s somebody there. 😆 I was always doing the same thing to my sister growing up: we had an L-shaped hallway, and we’d meet at the corner and she’d jump a mile. I always thought it was funny, because I’d known she was coming.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are loud people and quiet people, but it’s how you behave towards others that really matters. There’s nothing wrong with being quiet. Yes, it can be super frustrating to always have to compete with a loud person. And yes, some people substitute loud behavior for actually having something worthwhile to say or contribute. While it’s easier to listen to the loud people, it’s important to also listen to the quiet ones. Frequently they’re the ones who’ve actually thought about what they’re doing and saying.
Find folks who are also quiet and have similar interests. (I suspect that here, you’ve found a whole bunch of them! ;)) I know there’s no spare time right now, but maybe there’ll be a future opportunity to take a class (how about art?) that appeals to you. That’d be a great place to start meeting folks who share your interests, and somewhere in there may be someone who can be a friend rather than just an acquaintance. Quiet folks generally seem to have fewer friends, but the ones they do have are true friends. When it comes to friends, quality trumps quantity any day of the week. 🙂
Barrdwing wrote:Maybe what you say about auras is applicable here too, because I don’t seem to make many ripples on the psychic plane. In school I used to inadvertently drive my roommates crazy because I’d walk up behind them and they wouldn’t hear me; then I’d scare the crud out of them when they turned around and HELLO! there’s somebody there. 😆 I was always doing the same thing to my sister growing up: we had an L-shaped hallway, and we’d meet at the corner and she’d jump a mile. I always thought it was funny, because I’d known she was coming.
I would do the exact same thing! Everyone always said how quiet I was. I would absolutely love to take an art class someday…it was my most peaceful and wonderful times during the day at high school for me! I didn’t realize that others feel the same as me! And Dm, you are very important to me! 😀
eaglefeather831 wrote:but the people I was telling the story too just didn’t care.
I would have been like… “Hmm, makes you wonder what they could use those big throats for eh?”
Eagle, we are so alike, it’s unusual. I understand exactly what you are feeling. I too have felt like a shadow among my peers. It can be a blessing sometimes, but mostly, it makes you feel inadequated and unappreciated. Know that we share your joy here, and you can always tell me about all the exciting things you do. And pelicans for the first time are awesome, They look like something out of Jurassic Park!! ::snuggles::
They ended up flying to the other side of the lake, but here were my first pelicans!! They were really far away when I took these pictures.
Wow! I’ve never seen pelicans like those! You must have been so excited! I’m sorry no one was excited with you. But you got great pictures – thanks for sharing.
And we love you! *hugs*
I guess I am very lucky in the choice of my close friends. I am hard of hearing and they take great pains to make sure I understand what is being said. The two people who do not are my b/f and my sister.
Speaking of that, I tried to make the DVD for you today, but I don’t think I have the right software. I have to keep looking.
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