I am getting nervous

You’ll be fine. I waited at home until I couldn’t stand the pain of contractions before going to the hospital. Less than 2 hours later my son was born. I didn’t have time for the epidural I wanted because the nurses didn’t believe I was in labor – the monitor wasn’t reading my contractions because it was too high on my belly. Bear in mind I gave birth at a military hospital at almost 3 A.M. on a Friday.

Hey, pregnancy and birth are scary, no matter how many times you go thru it. It’s ok to be scared. When you first hold that tiny little baby in your arms everything you have gone thru will be totally worth it. Thier skin is so soft you can barely feel it and when they open thier eyes and look at you, your heart will melt.

As far as epis and all that, do what you need to do for you and your baby. everyone is different and how you react to birth will different then how I reacted. Don;t let anyone pressure you into doing something you are uncomfotable with. If you can’t do it med free, then don;t, if you can, go for it. It’s all up to you and how your body feels.

Trust your body. You know yourself, you know how you handle pain. Giving birth is all about your muscles super-contracting kind of pain. Even the contractions themselves cannot be described as acute. They build and build, but it is not at all like hurting yourself, like a cut, or breaking something.

I gave birth totally naturally and very, very quickly. I did at one point ask for drugs, but it was too late and 45 minutes later, she was born.

It’s very hard to describe this. It’s an intense effort; it’s not passive at all.

Yes, I’m helping, aren’t I!

I have advice… dont let other mothers tell you what to do or make you feel bad by asking for medicinal help if you feel you need it. Birth is different for every mother. Every mother has a different baby. You have to do what you feel you need when it comes down to it. No matter how bad it gets, it will pass and in the end, you will have a lovely child and the pain will all be forgotten. Oh… and PLEASE… if they tell you to pee after the birth… PEE.. otherwise they stick a catheder in you and you have to walk around with it forever. Or at lease a day. Its depressing. And make sure you have an overnight bag packed. And have maxi pads in it cuz the ones at the hospital suck. Hope that helps and I hope you dont get too nervous. 🙂

I was going to go the natural route but ended up getting an epidural in the end. I really didn’t think labor was all that painful (I mean yeah it was painful but nothing like what I thought it would be). The only reason I changed my mind about getting an epidural was that I wanted to enjoy childbirth and not have to concentrate on trying to relax from all the pain. I’m glad I did get the epidural because it helped me to relax and save up my energy for pushing. When it comes time to push you get the worst pressure feeling you have ever had. Even with the epidural I could still feel the pressure and it was painful (I can’t imagine what it would have been like without the epidural). Its kind of like the feeling you get when you are constipated but magnify that times a billion. But labor doesn’t last forever and as soon as they lay that baby across your belly you will forget about all the pain.

Don’t worry, dearheart. You’ll know when you’re in labor…. 😀 and it’s exciting and nerve racking and a little nail biting but it’s so, so, so, worth it! It sounds kinda silly to say, but enjoy it all you can! It is an utterly complete miracle; and for the most part, you’re body will know exactly what to do without your head having to be too involved (controling 😆 ) Hang in there, and keep us posted!

twindragonsmum 😀