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This is not a whinning post. Or a “poor me” post. It’s probably just me rationalizing and making it all ok in my head.
My husband supported me when I strated J’s Critters in 2004. He gave me my first $200. That was BIG money. We made one $200 order, and the buisnes sprung up from there.
Recently, hubby decided he was tired of having a “job” (he’s going to college, and all the jobs he can get in our area stink, they are usually $10 or less per hour, and things no one wants to do…like haul trash). (which he did for a year and didn’t complain much, even when he was stabbed with a needle, blew out his knee, ect).
So, he decided he and friend were going to “start” a buisnes together. Our friend already had an existing computer buisness, but it was at best, horrible. But, he made it last for 6 years, but being the only one there, because he never made enough to hire anyone, he was in a bad way. Never enough to hire anyone, enver enough buisness to make enough to hire anyone, no chance to expanding.
So, hubby and friend form a new buisness together. They get a fantastic location. They actually made enough after a few months to hire anotehr tec(btw they sell/make/repair computers). They have inventory. Life is good. Well, “ok”. They were doing ok, then the day happened I was….expecting seems like such a cold unfaithful word……
Hubby called me today and told me the buisness didn’t make enough in the past 2 weeks, so he and friend aren’t getting paid. 😯 Now, I don’t have a job. We have the usual payments, house, car, dog food, living, ect. We don’t go out much. Ever. But, we were still making $400 LESS per month than we had in bills, so my buisness was forking up the extra bucks. Which is *ok*. But……. not getting 2 weeks of pay, that’s more like $1200. That’s a different ball of wax.
Thankfully, our house payment is cheap. And paid.
We used to be over the road truck drivers, and while we didn’t make a killing, having the two of us just driving/working, and not really incuring any bills like heat(house was kept really cool), gas, ect, we paid down $10,000 in debt in one year. As one driver, you don’t make much moeny really, but since we were a team, and we ran hard, we make a killing for our age/education. Now, hubby is all worked up that he’s going to ahve to go back over the road. I *can’t*, we have a 1 year old, and it’s illegal/imoral to drag her out there.
Yet, for some reason. I’m not really worried. I donno. I look around at all we have. I prayed for a dog. We got a fantastic German Shepard puppy. I prayed for some nice props for my model horses. I got a HERD of cattle, 6 great saddles, some other neat toys. I prayed for some nice Windstone dragons, and I have almost 20, plus PYO’s. I pray for a lot of things, and it just kinda happens…..I’m not saying that God is my Sugar daddy. I guess, it’s just one of those things. there will be more horses. More dragons. More model cattle. It’s not like I have any OOAK Windstones 😆
So, hubby’s kinda waiting for me to wig out I think. I think, perhaps I am too? He won’t let me sell some things unless he goes for a couple weeks without getting paid(like the peacock warrior, that’s his fav.). But when I told him, “there are MORE Peacock OW’s out there…” he just looked at me like 😯
I donno. I feel like I should be angry, or worried, or something. But, I’m not. I’m jsut sitting here, checking my mail, checking my eBay, not really wondering where the $1200 in this weeks bills or the $400 to inspect the car in a week will come from.
Thanks for listening to me chatter. I think I’m jsut confused as to why I’m not something else. I never considered myself a very good Christian, or very faithful. But I never really cosidered myself abandoned or ignored by God either.
I know what you mean. Though usually for me the process goes “discover you haven’t got enough, freak out, spend a week or two running around like a headless chicken, finally calm down, pray some, do what I can, and then eventually it all works out.”
I’ve always been a believer in the idea that God helps those who help themselves. I also always liked the saying “Pray as if it all depends on God, work as if it all depends on you.”
I think there are some religious people who hand it all to God and sit back and wait for a miracle. I don’t think that’s right. But if you’re doing everything that you can do, and there’s nothing more to do, you can either despair or have hope. Despair isn’t any fun, so I prefer to hope.
SPark wrote:I know what you mean. Though usually for me the process goes “discover you haven’t got enough, freak out, spend a week or two running around like a headless chicken, finally calm down, pray some, do what I can, and then eventually it all works out.”
I’ve always been a believer in the idea that God helps those who help themselves. I also always liked the saying “Pray as if it all depends on God, work as if it all depends on you.”
I think there are some religious people who hand it all to God and sit back and wait for a miracle. I don’t think that’s right. But if you’re doing everything that you can do, and there’s nothing more to do, you can either despair or have hope. Despair isn’t any fun, so I prefer to hope.
Well said. I also like your depend quote. Very nice.
I have run into several relgious folks to gave it all to God then kicked back and waited. It never seemed like it was a faith thing, so much as a lazy thing. I understand letting God do His thing, but sometimes, it seemed to me like people were afraid to do anything, and fail, so it’s better if God just “didn’t want it to happen”.
But, that is a whole other thread 😀
I think you’ve got the right attitude, bluepony. You can bet God always knows what He’s doing, and as long as you’ve done all you can, you’re doing fine. Your description reminds me of tests, or singing in concerts. The first few are always awful. You get nervous and worried and can barely remember what you’re supposed to know or sing. But then you get used to it, and it’s no biggie. It sounds like you’ve gotten used to it.
Greater Basilisk wrote:I think you’ve got the right attitude, bluepony. You can bet God always knows what He’s doing, and as long as you’ve done all you can, you’re doing fine. Your description reminds me of tests, or singing in concerts. The first few are always awful. You get nervous and worried and can barely remember what you’re supposed to know or sing. But then you get used to it, and it’s no biggie. It sounds like you’ve gotten used to it.
Thanks 😀
Greater Basilisk wrote:You’re welcome, and good luck! And God’s blessing, of course.
Sometimes it’s just nice to elt it all out. If I talk to hubby, he gets all worried that I’m going to leave him for someone with more money. We’ve always struggled with money(except that year on the truck). i donno. I don’t really consider owning your own house/truck/nice items/taking car of baby/eating on one income “struggling”, and really, I JUST got hubby trained the way I like, needs some tweeking, but to leave him and get a whole new man to re-train and re-tweek and fix whatever is broken 😕
Giving up generally isn’t the best idea. You’re right there, bluepony. A one-income family is the traditional way, and even if the environment has become much less family-friendly, there are still many people who do fine on one income. We do. My Dad brings in all the money. (Us younger generation’s jobs for our own spending money don’t count.)
Besides, I think anyone who can afford Windstones can’t really be “struggling.” 😉Hopefully his business will pick up again. Just because he has had 2 bad weeks doesn’t mean next week will be bad. I sincerely hope things get better for you.
On the lighter side…
A man prays to God every day he will win the lottery. After 5 years of praying he says to God “Please, God, I’ve been praying for 5 years and I haven’t won the lottery yet, please, please let me win.”
And God says in return “Help me out a little – BUY A TICKET.”
ddvm wrote:Hopefully his business will pick up again. Just because he has had 2 bad weeks doesn’t mean next week will be bad. I sincerely hope things get better for you.
On the lighter side…
A man prays to God every day he will win the lottery. After 5 years of praying he says to God “Please, God, I’ve been praying for 5 years and I haven’t won the lottery yet, please, please let me win.”
And God says in return “Help me out a little – BUY A TICKET.”
HAHA. LOVE IT. I told hubby that, he got a kick out of it 😀
I agree, his buisness had two bad weeks. I keep telling him, just work harder(not sure that’s possible, but you know). He can get his old job back, it doesn’t pay horribly well, but he can get it back. At least he’d have health insurance….gosh, miss that health insurance(FULL coverge for *free*). Hence why he didn’t make much i suppose.
I do agree, it’s hard to make ends meet on just one income sometimes. If I didn’t have a God given tallent to paint, we’d be in the crapper, that’s for sure.
Maybe I ought to pray really hard, then go buy a lottery ticket 😉
Also on the lighter side: A small town was being flooded. The emergency rescue boat came to the home of a very religious man and said he must evacuate and they would take him to a safe place. The man refuses and says “God will provide”. The Rescue boat comes back two days later, the water is up to the second floor. Still the man refuses saying “God will provide.” Two days later he is on his roof when the boat comes back a third time. Again he refuses saying “God will provide.” The floods continue and he is swept away and drowns. When he comes before God he says “My God, why did you fprsake me?” And God replied, “Forsake you!? I sent you three boats !!”
I am Pagen, but I also believe that the Goddess helps those who help themselves. You must only pray for the things you can’t do yourself with a bit of hard work…and should you live a good life it will come back at you three-fold. You are a good hearted person, it will always come back to you.
As far as the non-religious side of it….worse come to worse, you can both flip burgers…it might suck, but you CAN do it. 🙂
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