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It’s been awile since I’ve done any real posting here. I’ve lurked and made comments here and there, but it’s been a really tough year and I’m tired.
At a time when there is a lot of people are out of work, I know I should be thankful to have a job, but my boss is an @sshole. It got to the point last month I was praying to be laid off. He yells at me and cusses calling me mediocre when I do a good job and work hard. I constantly am called upon by coworkers to help figure out how to do something or finding the right specs we should be using.
Now this will sound pretty stupid… After the hell my boss put me through last month, at the Christmas party Friday, he names me as one of the most valuable employees and what a great job I do. He gave me a top bonus and a raise even though the company is bleeding money and they’re having thoughts about layoffs. On top of that, I was given a $500 watch for my 15 year anniversary.
The roller coaster that man puts me through is awful! If not for the very flexible hours and benefits, I’d have quit last month. I’m so stressed I feel like crying half the time!
What would you do?This is a tough call—unfortunately, there are a lot of a**hole bosses who I think are really putting the screws to their employees because they know there aren’t any jobs out there for them to go it. What arrogance! At my job, my boss cusses and stuff but it isn’t at me! What he does, which is very unprofessional, is complain bitterly to me about my coworker who he feels is doing a medicore job. She does spend a lot of time on her personal emails and phone calls. We were cut back to 24 hours because it has been slow–he accuses her of not doing her job so that he will give her more hours. He tells his parents, who are the owners of this company, that I work hard and do my job and get things done. Yet this last week he gave her an extra day to catch up–something he vowed that he would never do! Such mixed signals and I see that coming from your own boss. Be berates you and yet gives you top bonus and tells everyone how valuable you are? WTF!
I know what you mean–you don’t know what to think. At my job, it seems the screw ups constantly get rewarded–I have yet to ask him for extra hours and certainly will this coming week–I’m behind because of what my coworker doesn’t get done. That will be the test–will he give me the extra day or hem and haw?
I don’t know what the answer is–there is nothing out there and some would say we should be thankful that we have a job. Part of that is true–but if you are being cussed at and put down and all this stress is added to you–I wonder. We don’t know what to think because our bosses speak with a forked tongue–cussing you and then praising you—I’m told I’m a good worker yet I see the rewards go to someone else. What are we to think! It puts us in a bad, stressful, negative environment and that sucks!
I just hope all of us will find employemnt one day without these stupid games! I just want to do my job and don’t need the extra drama! Payback time will come one day for us and you know what they say about payback! Then let’s get together and celebrate!
Hopefully next year will be better for everybody! I’m sorry the two of you are dealing with such crappy situations at work. The economy and lack of available jobs is in the employers’ favor, though. *sigh* Your bosses need a good :spank: !
Let’s hope next year is in everyone’s favor. I just realized I need money coming in more then ever (and REALLY need to be on a group benefit insurance plan, or I’ll be hemorrhaging more money then I’m making in medications).
And I’m sorry that your boss is such an @ss. Maybe try searching for another job while your working there? Then you don’t have to quit until you already have another job in the basket.
If it’s affecting your health, then it’s not worth it.
However, since it’s a good job, I would first try to broach the subject with him, though. Maybe he’s not even aware of it! Obviously, he does value you, so maybe a little forced empathy might help. You never know, he might think that bringing you down is motivating you! I’ve heard that before. If that doesn’t help, though, I’d start looking elsewhere. Making money is important, but if you get sick making that money, then what’s the point?
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http://www.sarahjestin.com/feedbacklists.htmOn top of the other advice – especially dragonmedley’s about just talking to the guy about the problem – I’d sell that watch.
LOL. Thanks guys. There is nothing that can be done to ‘fix’ the boss. It’s him and the way he “manages”. I’ve just never been his victim before. I know his MO and have done well in avoiding it. He likes to build up one person and put them on a pedistal so he can enjoy knocking it down or something. The girl he was building up started to get knocked down and started making up stories about me. For some reason he’s believing everything she says. Not just about me, but other co-workers to take the heat off of herself. This is a woman the boss has told people how stupid she is and is getting fat and… you name it. He’s a horrible man. No not a horrible man… He has a heart, but his managing skill leave a lot left to be desired. BTW… He’s the owner of the company as well.
I hate this stress! If he keeps up the roller coaster, I’ll sell my ponies and get a job at Carl’s Jr! Fast food can’t be that bad… Can it?Almost sounds like my boss–complains bitterly about my coworker–not doing her job–too much time dealing with personal stuff it emails, phone calls etc but really does nothing about it. He has poor managing skills–he is nice but a big blockhead! Make me mad and I want to club him in the head! The sad thing I see here is that you consider selling your ponies 😥 ! Would hate to see you sell your babies! Hopefully it doesn’t come to that and working at a fast food resturant isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be! Talk about dealing with poor management and complete idiots!!!! 👿 😈 😈 🙄
LOL, yeah. But there I would expect to be treated like dirt! 😀
Hopefully I’m on the down slide of being noticed. Luckily, his son constantly says what an awesome job I do. But it really was getting to the point where it was sell everything that was costing money so I could quit. Mainly the ponies… Tough choice, but nothing is worth the stress!
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